Summary

The author asserts their personal right to masturbate without needing permission or feeling shame, emphasizing its role in stress relief, self-love, and sexual empowerment, particularly for women.

Abstract

The article "I Don’t Need Anyone’s Permission To Masturbate" by Michelle Ponder expresses a personal perspective on the importance of self-pleasure. The author emphasizes that masturbation is a natural and beneficial activity for stress relief, personal satisfaction, and as a means to understand one's own body and sexuality. Highlighting the disparity in societal acceptance between male and female masturbation, the author advocates for a healthy and shame-free approach to self-pleasure, especially for women. The article underscores the author's lifelong practice of masturbation without guilt or the need for external validation, and its role in achieving consistent orgasms, unlike some sexual experiences with partners. The author also touches on the importance of self-knowledge for future sexual relationships and criticizes the shaming and repression of such a natural human instinct.

Opinions

The author believes that female masturbation is not as widely accepted or discussed as male masturbation, unless it is sexualized for male pleasure.
Masturbation is seen as a personal tool for managing stress and frustration, and for achieving physical and emotional centering.
The author has never felt guilt or shame for masturbating, viewing it as a private and appropriate act of self-care.
Masturbation is considered a form of self-love and a vital release of tension and energy, contributing to a better understanding of one's own sexual needs.
The author advocates for the importance of a healthy appreciation of one's body, which is especially powerful for females.
Parents who shame their children for masturbating are misunderstanding the value of a healthy relationship with one's body and sexuality.
The article suggests that denying human pleasure for the sake of 'purity' or righteousness is both unfathomable and unnatural.
The author promotes the idea that masturbation should not be demonized or persecuted but recognized as a natural expression of human sensuality and exploration of self.

I Don’t Need Anyone’s Permission To Masturbate

I’ve been doing this for a long time.

I’ve written before about the subject of female masturbation and how I feel that it’s not as widely accepted or discussed as the subject of male masturbation is — unless, of course, it’s displayed in pornography as a vehicle to turn on a man.

I masturbate whenever I feel the urge to do so — just like many men do. It helps with my stress and frustration levels. It calms me down. It centers me.

No one ever talked to me about masturbation growing up. I just did it. And I did it a lot— way before the teenage years even started.

I’ve never felt guilt or shame for masturbating at any point in my life. I’ve always done it privately and appropriately. I’ve never felt bad about admitting that I do it. Growing up, I loved the way it felt and I did it as often as I could. I still do. And why not?

However, I don’t masturbate for anyone but myself — not for a man, not for anyone else’s pleasure — not for any reason other than I want to have an orgasm. It’s as simple as that.

Of course, masturbation can be incorporated fantastically into sex with a partner and I’ve written about how that experience can be great — however that’s not my main point here.

My point is that masturbation has always brought me to orgasm. Every. Time. Without fail. Can I say the same thing for sex? Unfortunately, no. There have been some hit-and-miss experiences obtaining an orgasm via sex in my lifetime. It happens.

I love having orgasms. They soothe me at night when I can’t sleep, they help the pain from cramps when I’m on my period, and — they just feel GOOD.

I don’t need anyone’s permission to masturbate. I’ve never felt like I had to confess to anyone that I masturbate or that I need some kind of reprieve from moral or religious judgment.

Female masturbation is a beautiful act of self-love and a vital release of tension and energy.

It’s hard for me to understand parents who try to shame their children for exploring their own bodies through masturbation. Having a healthy appreciation and knowledge of one’s body is a powerful thing — especially for a female. It allows her to not only be aware of her own sexuality but to be conscious of what she wants and needs from a lover in the future.

No female needs permission or approval to pleasure herself. Nor does any male, for that matter.

Pleasure doesn’t need to be demonized, persecuted, or twisted into a means for shaming others. Pleasure is as natural as pain is for human beings and it’s an important part of life.

Masturbation is not only the self-expression of human sensuality but an exploration of self. To force repression of that natural instinct is not only misguided but it’s cruel.

The concept of denying human pleasure in order to be more ‘pure’ or to present some form of righteousness is unfathomable to me, personally.

I don’t need anyone’s permission to masturbate. Neither do you.

Just do it.

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