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Why You Should Stop Comparing Love With Money
It doesn’t make sense!
I am sure you all heard at least once. Money is not essential, or first love, then money or just prefer love instead of money. Have you ever wondered why we compare both?
I read these quotes, and they inspired me to write this post.
“Every girl would like to marry a rich husband. I did twice. But what divides girls into two groups is this question — do you first think of money and then love or vice versa?” — Heddy Lamar
or this,
“Money is not the most important thing in the world. Love is. Fortunately, I love money” — Jackie Manson
I heard frequently people said money is bad or just if you have money means you don’t have love, or sometimes money is not everything. But it’s also a coincidence that people who said that are broke.
We all have a pattern in our mind about money, whatever is money for you doesn’t mean the same for others. And we try to fight with our evil inside who is telling us that money is not important.
Childhood experience and role models shape these thought patterns and guide our behavior to such an extent that they directly influence our level of wealth late on.
Our Thought Patterns are Shaped by What Our Parents Taught Us About Money
Our minds are like computers, where the most important program was installed in childhood: the patterns attached within us are based on our earlier impressions. The things we heard our parents repeatedly said about money as children are permanently saved in our minds. They form our ideas, and they end up determining the way we think about money later in life.
Saying things like money is the root of all evil, money doesn’t grow on trees, and you can buy happiness ingrain themselves in our mind as our money files and influence our opinion of money.
Since our parents influence our behavior most when we’re young, there are only two possible ways to deal with their ideas about money. We can identify with and accept them, or we can rebel and reject them.
On the other hand, those who learn that anything is possible with money at a young age will have a much easier time making money because the motivation to be free and independent through wealth can also be satisfied with money.
Once I heard something that it resonates with me, the apple never falls far from the tree. I agree we are similar to our parents. If we are aware of it, we can continue doing the right things and change the bad ones.
We Unconsciously Reproduce The Income Strategies of Our Parents
Our internalized attitude towards money and fortune is not only based on what we hear our parents say about money. But also on one specifically conditioned behavioral pattern: the way our parents earn their money and the way they handle it.
The way your parents manage their money is unconsciously saved in your mind sooner or later, you will start to copy how they were doing with it.
The experiences we had when we were young are important for our own first step in leading with money. We have studied our parent’s behavior precisely and saved them in our unconscious. And when we start earning money as young adults, we imitate the income patters of our parents without realizing it.
We are creatures of habits, and when we’ve learned something, it’s not easy to unlearn. We can only break away from our parental thought structures later, by making ourselves aware of them and consciously flipping the switch.
Money and Love are Important in The Areas They Work
“Use money and love people. Don’t love money and use people” — Joseph Prince.
Let be honest, I don’t know your truth, but I was raised with those patterns of thought that I mentioned above. Being honest, I can’t entirely agree when people compare money and love.
You can read this slowly:
Money is massively important in the areas that it works, and extremely insignificant in the areas that it doesn’t work.
The same with love.
Love is extremely essencial in the areas that it works, and insignificant in the areas that it doesn’t work.
- Areas where money works: To pay your bills, to pay the rent to buy a house to have a good time eating lobster in the most expensive restaurant in the area without thinking about how much you will spend. To go on vacation wherever you want.
- Areas where money doesn’t work and love works: I totally agree when people say that with the money, you can’t buy love. And don’t take me to wrong you can buy instant gratification of course and people can take advantage of it. But you can’t buy a feeling; you can buy the happiness that your family or your friends or your love can give you.
On the other hand, let’s be realistic, intent to pay your electricity bill with love, a nice meal in that expensive restaurant with love or try to pay your rent with love.
So, Why compare or decide which one we will choose. It is like compare if you prefer your arm or your legs. Is it not better to have both?
It really is.
Finally, as I wrote, money isn’t enough and love neither. They have to work together. Perhaps it would be wiser not to love at all than to love the wrong things. It’s not easy to have balance in life, but we always have a room left to improve and check ourselves daily.
Remember, next time someone asks or tries to compare money and love, do not hesitate and say both; doing so, you will delete and rewrite the files that you have in your unconscious mind.
Thank You For Reading!
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Godofredo Rojas is a writer, chef, and constant learner from Peru. He studied in Le Cordon Bleu in Lima, Peru. He moved to New York in March 2011. You can find him on Facebook and Twiter.
