The Power of Questions to Conquer Your Fear

How to overcome when you‘re dealing with it

Excuse me!!, keep your distance! Hey, be careful! Papi can we visit grandma? No, we can’t. Sorry, Mi Amor! Sound familiar?

Are you petrified every time you step onto an airplane? Do you live in fear of the thought of house fire? It’s normal to be afraid of change. For most of us, taking a leap that will change our lives can be very scary.

Have you ever had a voice in the back of your head saying, “You’re not good enough to do that” or “You will never succeed at anything significant”? If so, you know how it feels when fear tries to stop you from breaking free an unfulfilled life.

Last time I was at the park with my daughters, the youngest was walking close to an old woman who said: hey, you better keep close to your mom!. To be honest, I was in shock; how media keep us far from each other.

I always thought that we could think and learn, but in the proactive mode rather than the receptive mode, it means no just receive information without analyzing and ask questions. Don’t take me wrong; there’s still a crisis going on, and we have to be aware of it.

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” — Judy Blume

The reality is that all human fears can be traced back, in one way or another, to a fear of dying. Similarly, people who live in fear of losing their jobs struggle with the deeper fear that they might lose their livelihoods, their homes, and, in the worst-case scenario, ultimately die after forced to live on the streets.

The Power Of Question

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” — Dale Carnegie

Clearly, the fear needs to be conquered, and the first step is to recognize your fear. Once you’ve accepted the fear, the next step is to mentally prepare yourself, as this will increase the odds of successfully, we can conquering that fear asking this question:

“What’s the worst that can happen?”

This simple question can help us to put any big decisions in perspective, and because the worst-case scenario is usually not that bad, this can empower you.

Breaking through the wall of fear requires you to acknowledge that fear and prepare to conquer it. Once you’re on the other side of that wall, you’ll feel rewarded, competent, and ready to rise to any challenges you set yourself.

It’s not enough to watch the news and believe everything they said without asking questions. I was wondering, Why do leaders not wear a mask? Are they superheroes with amazing superpowers? And on the other hand, we’re just humans with a lack of power.

Maybe we want to believe that because it is more comfortable rather than investigate and wonder WHY.

In this pandemic time, I realized how selfish we are, taking everything from the stores ten packets of chicken, ten toilet paper, whether you’ll use or not. The idea of thinking in other people or families who will need only one or two of those was never in consideration.

“Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” — Yoda

To be honest, what a lack of empathy.

I understand everyone was scared, and in some moments, I was too. Because sadly, everyone stared to talk about it, and the restrictions that we all have to follow were mandatory. I realized that the mood that people around us changed drastically. Everyone’s frustration was in their faces.

Lately, I asked a friend about it, and he responds: We’re in crisis, we have to be safe no matter what, our lives first, then the rest.

I was not sure to publish this article; It was a draft for weeks. Because it is not comfortable and the feeling I can have about what I see from people was disappointing.

Just I was wondering, how will we act if something worst happens? No empathy, no help each other, with fear, and keep far from each other, will be the antidote?

It is not going to be better if we help each other, showing empathy, thinking about everyone. Maybe, investigating what is going on without watching the news. Work as a team to find solutions without just thinking about saving your life.

I know some people think differently. Some people don’t even want to think because it’s easier to follow the rules though the news or media without investigating. Just favor yourself and everyone around you, asking questions. It will open your mind and maybe realize that there is something behind that. And in the worst-case scenario, you will learn something new.

Think about it.

Thank You for Reading!

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Godofredo Rojas is a writer, chef, and constant learner from Peru. He studied in Le Cordon Bleu in Lima, Peru. He moved to New York in March 2011. You can find him on Facebook and Twiter.