Why You Should Just Chill

“Don’t worry, Be happy,” may not be bad advice.

While I haven’t posted anything in the past few days, I have been writing and thinking.

I have a few stories that are more or less ready to go, but not quite finished. No, it’s not about perfection, but it certainly is about resistance. A resistance to success, I suppose.

Sometimes, it takes resistance to bring out the best in us. There is an old saying that gold must go through fire to be purified.

Anyway, I have been going through some personal metamorphosis that has me in a state where a lot is happening, but it seems like nothing is.

Appearances don’t always depict reality. They very seldom do.

A few days ago, I came across three pieces of content that pointed me to the same thing — Clarity. I wrote about it and will link to it here when I publish it. I believe it is a good article, but there is more to do. I need to whet it out and tie some loose ends.

Led by the serendipity of the whole thing, combined with a nagging feeling I’ve had for years that I need to get clear on what I want my life to be like, I did the exercises suggested by these articles.

The resulting list was a bunch of I want to statements that were neither satisfactory nor provided much clarity. It was a long-term to-do list.

It used to be that I would get frustrated and abandon the exercises, calling them a load of hogwash. I usually used a stronger term that’s synonymous with Bovine Secretion.

This time it is different. I am patient, because I know I am making progress. As I said, it is a metamorphosis. I can feel the inner stirrings, even though I can’t see much progress on the outside.

If you’re struggling with yourself trying to find meaning and purpose in your life, be patient.

I was having a hard time finding the motivation to do anything. I would go to the gym to work out and sit outside in the van for an hour or two. I would go to the park to commune with nature and doze off for a few hours. It has been going on for some time now.

Again, rather than getting mad at myself for wasting time or doing the same old, same old, I felt a strange calm about the whole thing. I knew that I was in the right place in my life, going through what I needed to go through to get to where I needed to.

There was a crack in the cocoon this morning, and I can see the light. Inspired by an article I read, I made out a list of what matters the most to me. That was an eye-opener. It gave me the much-needed perspective of the why behind the what, and highlighted the importance of the how.

Suddenly, I see what I need to do clearly, in what order, and why.

If you’re struggling with yourself trying to find meaning and purpose in your life, be patient. You are where you need to be, precisely, learning what you need to learn. You won’t get there any sooner — or later than you will by trying to hurry or stressing out about it.

Don’t worry. Be happy!

I am a self-proclaimed weirdo, Jack of Many Trades and Master of Some. I live the Freedom Lifestyle — life on my terms, and help those who are interested in doing the same. (Join the Tribe)

“You can let others tell you what it means to be successful, or you can decide it for yourself.”