Relationships

Why Raising Your Consciousness Will Help Your Relationships

Ultimately, healing your relationship with yourself will help you have healthier relationships with others.

Living in a culture overly saturated with dating apps, that prioritizes instant gratification and material success, where porn is ever-prevalent and has distorted many men’s relationships with sex, and where humans are isolated and alienated, is not exactly conducive to facilitating healthy romantic relationships. It takes discipline, confidence, strong communication skills, and a balance of mindfulness and humility to develop a healthy approach to dating and relationships.

So what is the key to thriving in a toxic world? Besides practicing and developing yourself, you must be conscious of your consumption habits. You must develop a healthy relationship with yourself. You must continue to work toward your goals while also practicing gratitude for where you are in your journey. You must learn to be comfortable with yourself and to communicate your needs, while being mindful of both your own and other people’s energy.

To have a healthy relationship with other people, you must have a healthy relationship with yourself. You must practice and learn how to feel at home in your body, to live an embodied, conscious life. You must learn to understand both your own and other people’s energy, and to be careful to maintain both your own and your partner’s boundaries.

You must learn to step outside of your ego and understand how to balance and meet your own needs while meeting those of other as well. You must learn to practice radical honesty. You must learn to be able to authentically embody and express yourself.

For me, this journey took years of having unsuccessful relationships, an inability to truly express myself, a sense of lacking and inferiority, and a deep sense of unworthiness. I had to work through these issues, re-establish my connection with myself, heal my inner-child, and learn to love myself first. Using earth medicines intentionally was an integral part of my journey, helping me to shed layers of trauma and separate those traumas from my identity. I say this to offer my testimony that no matter how broken or traumatized you may feel, you have the innate ability to find healing and to learn to feel at home within your body and your life.

To have traumas is to be human.

But rather than play the victim, we must claim our innate power to heal ourselves and blossom into the fullest expressions of ourselves. In learning to reconnect to our own divinity, and in regaining our connection to ourselves, we also remember and re-awaken to our innate connection to each other and this earth.

So let us continue to work to be more conscious in our relationships — with ourselves and with each other.

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