Abuse Has No Excuse
What Are the Cruelest Things Women Do to Men?
Some women will stop at nothing to get what they want.
Women can be very cruel. Especially when they’ve been hurt. There is nothing as dangerous as a scorned woman.
My mother was a scorned woman: my father cheated on her and she never forgave him, but then again she never left him. Instead, she gave him hope that things would improve in their relationship, but instead, she choose to slowly and repeatedly punish him.
My friend too is a scorned woman.
Her husband divorced her — and understandably she is very hurt. It’s been four years now since they’ve been divorced. Her marriage was short, it lasted only about a year.
She was very young when she married, and she still is — but she is angry, vengeful and she just labels men to be “pigs” or “dead-beats”. The anger she feels because she has been hurt is stopping her from living a fulfilling life and moving on.
I know too many scorned women. I can emphasise with them to some point, but when certain lines are crossed there should be no sympathy from those who abuse and use cruel tactics to get what they want — to harm others. And believe me, there are many women out there who do cruel things to men without consequences.
So what are some of the cruellest things women are willing to do to men to punish them?
“I dare you to hit me back!”
Yes, some women think it’s okay to hit their partners. Sometimes in the midst of the argument, a woman could actually dare a man to hit them and then afterwards threaten to report him to the police. Some women just think that it is socially and morally unacceptable for a man to raise his hand on a woman but it is perfectly fine for a woman to slap her boyfriend during arguments.
Violence in any form is unacceptable. I’ve heard too many stories where women slapped, scratched their partners and they kept doing so repeatedly whenever they disagreed with their partner. Then they’ve taken the advantage of this behaviour because they know too well that men won’t hit them back.
Men know that hitting girls is a big no-no. Unfortunately, there are cruel women who use this aspect of a man’s personality to gain control over them. Women then feel empowered to keep physically abusing knowing that they will be able to get away with it.
Men who go through this rarely speak about it, because they would be perceived as weak in society and some might even laugh at them.
“Listen, everyone, my husband is a cheating bastard!”
There are women who love belittling men publicly. I’ve witnessed myself on more than one occasion where a woman screamed and hit a man in public — calling him all sorts of names. He was begging her to calm down and to act like this in public. She was uncontrollable.
Some women do it subtly, calling their partners “fat” in front of others, or commenting on their clothing in the circle of friends. Defaming, belittling and criticizing your partner publicly harms the man’s self-esteem and can lead to severe mental health issues such as depression.
“I’ve hacked your phone and set up a baby camera to spy on you”
A neighbour once told me that she uses the old baby camera to spy on her husband while she is at work. She had no reason to suspect that he is cheating on her she was just curious what’s he is up to. She also added that if she finds out that he has been actually slacking around (playing video games or watching porn) — she would have leverage over him.
This behaviour is not only distressing, to say the least, but it’s unacceptable. Spying on your partner just to gain some leverage over him in future is not a healthy relationship. It’s just another form of emotional abuse which some women use to control men.
If there is no trust in a relationship, then there should be no relationship. Period.
“Are you sure you didn’t play video games today?”
Women test their men. Why do they do this? Because of lack of trust and need for control.
Let’s say a woman has installed the baby camera and knows that her husband has watched TV or played some video games during the time she was away. Somehow she disapproves of his hobbies because she is controlling — so she will start testing him: asking him too many questions about his day, hoping he would lie to her.
If he lies — then she would erupt in rage and confess about the hidden baby camera — which she would defend and he would just have to accept that it’s okay to be spied on in his own house.
If he tells the truth — she would get angry with him for actually doing something that he enjoys. There is no winning in the relationship with a cruel woman.
Some women also often use the common “if you really loved me then you would do XYZ…” When you hear that phrase — know it’s a test. If you choose anything other than doing as she pleases, then you have failed. Testing in a relationship is cruel, petty and toxic.
“We will change that, don’t worry…”
Some women just want to change their men. My good friend has recently become a vegan — he doesn't want to be vegan. He loves meat.
He has managed to be vegan for 6 months until he exploded and could not take control and the micromanaging anymore. He confronted his wife and told her that he wants to eat meat as he has done in the past 40 years of his life. She erupted in tears and accused him of killing animals, being vicious and hurting her for not wanting to do what she wants.
So unfortunately he stopped eating meat and fish again. Now, he comes to my place or his brother's place for meaty snacks. His wife is unaware.
You should not try to change the other person when they don’t want to change. Look, my partner would love me to give up smoking — but I am not ready yet and that’s okay. We should love our partners for who they are. Trying to change them will make the other personal resent you and will harm your relationship.
“I did this because of you!”
Now in extreme cases, I’ve heard of women who have actually inflicted self-harm because their partners didn’t do as they pleased. They have overdosed on pills, cut their wrists or “faked” an anxiety attack.
They did all of this so they can gain sympathy and have their partners do as they pleased. They also wish to make their partners feel guilty. This is one of the most disturbing cruel things some women do to men.
“You will never see your children nor me! Just go ahead and tell others how bad I am!”
Apart from the common entrapment of getting pregnant and lying to their partners about taking the people. Some very cruel woman repeatedly threaten their partners that they will never see their children again.
A friend recorded his wife when she physically attacked him just to have proof of abuse that he was experiencing, later his wife and her mother made him erase the video. They threatened that if he doesn’t erase the videos she will leave with the kids and report him to the police for assault.
“Who do you think they would believe? A mother with a newborn baby or you?”
He “erased ”the video but thankfully has actually uploaded it on the Cloud. The issue here is that he doesn't want to lose his family and he loves his abusive wife. He just hopes she isn’t as cruel as she behaves.
There is not a huge difference between what cruel things women and men are capable of doing. However, I think women are naturally designed to be better at revenge and are more emotion-driven, which means if it hurts enough, they can literally destroy the life of the man they are targeting.
Please, protect yourself from the scorned women — to harm you, they would stop at nothing.
#Mentoo Maxwell Jordan
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