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How Women Use Men?
How women abuse certain powers they have over men
Women have power over men. Women are well aware of that. Many women use this power to get what they what and when they want out of the man.
I’ve seen women use and abuse the power that they have over their partners to the point that caused their male partners to suffer. We don’t speak about it but traditionally women were taught how to exploit men.
You see, since ancient times, men would provide resources for women, while women would nurture them. Money and sex. Women need resources and men want to be nurtured.
Don’t get me wrong, there are men that use women too. I believe though that women using men is more common and socially acceptable especially for women who have fewer opportunities for themselves.
My step-grandmother used to say — “Don’t settle for a donkey when you can have a horse”.
Some women look for certain types of men that would provide for them better their lives. Sometimes they take it too far. As a result, many men suffer and women get away with it.
So what are the most common scenarios where women use men?
“You aren’t man enough…”
There are women that tend to put the man down using the phrase “you aren’t man enough”, hoping to either hurt the man, make him do something that they want or both.
I know too many men that entered a relationship with one type of woman but soon realized that they are actually in a relationship with someone else. These women were acting all nice and supportive just to get the man “hooked” and then later decided to show their true face.
When they were dating, she spoke softly, and always looked neat. When they were dating she accepted his children and showed support, now when she’s “got ”him she doesn't let him call his children. When they were dating she encouraged him to go out with his friends on Thursday nights but now she has made him delete all of his social networks.
When they were dating she was grateful for the flowers he bought her now he is not “a man enough” because he can’t afford to get her the car she wants on top of the mortgage that he pays.
Men can’t expect women to be flawless. Men want women to be true. A woman shouldn’t start out playing the “supersexydoitallwoman” role at the beginning and then change to a “psycho”.
We should present ourselves as we are at the start of the relationship instead of playing games. Maxwell Jordan points to these tendencies in many of his articles.
It is disturbing that so many women present their entire demeanour differently as the relationship gets going. Men often feel tricked and trapped, especially when an “unexpected” pregnancy is involved.
When this happens, men don’t know what to do. They are confused and they can’t believe their partner anymore as they can’t trust the woman they thought they once knew.
“If someone could just help me…”
I know too many women who enjoy being drama queens, many of them actually believe that this behaviour will make them seem more attractive to men. Unfortunately, sometimes the technique of whining, nagging and causing issues works, as men want to avoid drama, so they give their queen whatever she wants to avoid problems.
When he wants to play video games, she pesters him why he isn’t spending time with her. When he schedules an evening with his brother, she somehow manages to get sick and needs him to stay home. When she has bills to pay, she calls him and cries so he gives her the money and lets her stay irresponsible.
All of these techniques are used to manipulate, extort and eventually control the man.
“Will you pass the test?”
Women like to test men. When you have an important appointment, she calls up and asks you to change the plans and be with her because she needs you. She wants to know how far she can go to get what she wants. She is asking you to prove your loyalty.
She will repeat this couple of times until you stop going anywhere.
She will use the words “if you really care for me you would stay…” or “do this for us”.
At times she might withhold sex from you as a punishment or as just to get you doing things that she wants. That would be another test of hers. She might also cry to get you to sympathise with her and effectively again do what she wants. Men don’t like seeing a woman cry they feel uncomfortable and feel as if they need to do something for it to stop.
A few tantrums and most men will do anything to get it to stop. Women know that. This kind of testing in a relationship is indeed cruel and abusive.
Women may flirt just to inspire jealousy. Or they will go on talking about different male friends to make the man envious. Maybe she wants to punish you or wants to make you feel as if you can lose her any minute.
But whatever the reason when she does this and expects you to be in a relationship with her she is just being manipulative and abusive.
“I don’t know how I got pregnant…”
This one pains me the most. I know of women who have:
- Poked a hole in a condom.
- Lied about taking the pills.
- Lied about the biological father of the child.
There are women that just use men to entrap them to provide for them and have an easy life. The way to do it is to get pregnant. I heard of enough women who have done this and ultimately have destroyed lives hoping to selfishly better theirs.
Be careful, always.
Some women won’t like your “too careful” behaviour — and that’s already a red flag. A self-sufficient, honest, independent woman with no agenda, will encourage safe behaviour.
Your life is way too precious to throw it away have kids with a psycho. The ex will haunt you and punish your children for the rest of your life. Always remember that it’s better for you to have “okay” sex than to regret a mistake for a lifetime.
Not all women are like the depictions above. But the fact stays that females do get more attracted to men with more resources but the ultimate choice to be abusive and use men is of the women.
In other words, not every woman is like that. Obviously. However, many women do behave like this, and not enough men speak about it.
No one deserves to be used.
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