Female Narcissists Traits
Narcissistic Female Traits That You Might Mistake For “Cuteness” and “Friendliness”
I Thought We Had A Fine Relationship — Until She Tried To Destroy Me.
It’s more common to come across covert narcissists — those who know how to hide their narcissistic traits. Narcissists come in all shapes and forms, not all female narcissists are “femme-fatale” types that spend the majority of the day taking selfies. More often, female narcissists are women just like me and you —they are quite ordinary.
The narcissist I know is an ordinary woman, who lives quite a mundane lifestyle. She is overweight, rarely takes care of her appearance, doesn't boast, isn't the centre of the party and to be blunt — if you meet her you would not even remember the encounter.
But she is a full-blown narcissist. She is a very frustrated, lonely and scorned woman. She has emotionally abused all of her previous partners. She misused my trust and embarked on a mission to destroy me.
She has made some irreversible damage to herself — she still doesn’t realize that. Narcissists don’t comprehend what they are doing. We must remember that narcissists are sick people.
It is quite easy to overlook covert female narcissists especially when they exhibit traits that might be perceived as kind, friendly and cute.
“They rely only on their man”
Covert female narcissists play pretend that they are incapable to do things on their own. This way they can entrap the man to keep helping them out, providing for them, giving the support. At first, it may seem cute when the female is constantly relying on you to sort out her life, but soon you will realize that your goodwill is being misused.
The narcissist I know has come up with various excuses why she isn’t able to take on her own responsibilities. I was there to help on countless occasions. Soon all my help was thrown back into my face and I was facing a smear campaign.
Narcissists don’t take responsibility for their actions. They will come with absurd, tragic excuses just to keep you close and doing the dirty work for them. It’s okay to ask for help once in a while, but when you notice that suddenly you are taking on the responsibilities of another person on a daily basis — beware, narcissists are as Maxwell Jordan puts kidults.
They never grow up and as long as there is someone who will pick up their slack — they don’t have to grow up.
“They want a man to save them.”
The narcissists I know always looked for men to save them — they never rented a flat on their own, they never paid their own bills, they crashed into other people’s lives. There are many female narcissists who want to “marry” into an easy life.
They cause trouble, debts and then they demand the man to save them. My narcissist used to call on my help always last minute as if she expected that I would drop everything I was doing and go and help her — I did. Until I realized that she had it all pre-planned.
Narcissists create a sense of urgency and drama in order to entrap others. They exaggerate and lie just to get what they want when they want it. Remember narcissists don’t want to be saved — they want to control you. By guilt trapping you and putting pressure on you they wish to ensure that you will do what they want.
Remember true love doesn’t rescue.
“They have a history of abusive relationships”
My covert narcissist had a history of only abusive relationships. The truth was, she was the abuser in the relationships. If the woman you are dating didn’t have one healthy relationship consider it as a red flag.
There must be a reason that this woman is constantly entering an abusive relationship and it's not because it’s men's fault. If she tells you all the time how poorly she was treated and that she is a victim she might want to make you feel as if you must be “extra” nice to her.
She wants you to feel sorry for her, and when you feel sorry for her then you don’t see things clearly and she can manipulate you.
If she keeps constantly bringing up her past and her toxic relationships there must be a reason for it. No healthy woman would be dwelling on the past, she would focus on the future with you instead.
“Females that are overly friendly”
My good friend is in a relationship with a man whose ex is a narcissist. The ex used to text my friend all the time, sending her nice messages, being too overly friendly and asking for favours. It made no sense why the ex wanted to be in touch with my friend.
Later she realized that the only reason the ex was texting my friend was to learn more about her and her partner to cause problems. Beware of women that are too overly friendly especially if you don’t even know them well.
“They do things because of you.”
Stay away from women that tell you that they do things because of you. The covert narcissists will always find a way how to make you feel as if you own them something. Once narcissists texted my friend telling me that she would be moving closer to the area where he lives, because of him.
That was a lie — she wished to be close to being able to use him and to control him. Narcissists never do anything because of other people — they are self-centred and everything they do is to suit their own interests. Healthy people don’t do things because of others — they do things because they are the right thing to do and they don’t need to excuse their actions.
Look for these signs to avoid relationships with covert narcissists. If you already know one then limit your personal interactions with this person. Remember your goal is to protect yourself from the narcissists and create space for you to heal and pursue new healthy relationships.
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