Unpopular Truth: You CHOOSE To Be Offended!

First of all, not everybody is currently able to choose or not choose to be offended.

An untrained, maybe even negative, or depressed mind is already in a very sick headspace, and without being 100% aware of what is going on in their minds, they become the victim of their own reality.

The really unpopular truth is that you need to acknowledge that YOU ARE THE CAUSE OF YOUR OWN SUFFERING!

Only if you are willing to accept this universal truth you have a chance to get out of your own funk, your own created reality that you chose to live in.

I won’t tell you that it’s easy and that you can just snap out of it because that would be a big fat lie. It is hard work and it might take years, maybe even a lifetime.

I can see and accept this truth today, but it took me decades to fully understand it. In my case, it was only possible because I jumped into a whole inner journey with yoga, meditation, plant medicine, followed by intense flood doses of psychedelic shamanic medicine like Ayahuasca and Iboga.

I experienced a shift in mindset and perspective, and today I know that this is true: You CHOOSE to be offended.

Arriving at this point of understanding will not keep you from feeling offended at first. The same emotions, patterns, and programs are still running in your mind.

Now the trick is to become more aware of your inner thought process. Meditating was my weapon to do so. In the beginning, I was only fully capable of analyzing my thoughts during my meditation practice and often also while practicing breath-guided yoga. It took me years to become more aware of all my thoughts that I have during the day and sometimes even at night.

I gained control of my thoughts, and because of this skill, I can change my thoughts.

I analyze them, and if I fall back into toxic self-talk, I simply stop. Now, this feels very easy, and it barely happens anymore, but at the beginning of this process, I thought it was impossible. I replaced negative thoughts with positive ones and gratitude. I do my gratitude exercise daily, and this programs my mind and character in a different way. My programming in my childhood was far from a positive mindset, but anything is possible with the right intention.

Become aware of the traps that might give you a chance to choose to feel offended.

Traps to Feel Offended

Jokes: Somebody makes a joke. Some jokes are great; others might not be to your taste.

I learned to walk away in silence, instead of choosing to feel offended because of a bad joke.

Different Opinions: Different opinions about politics, religion, or other sensitive subjects will always heat up conversations with the mindsets that are still around. People have different upbringings, learn different truths. One likes Buddha, one likes Jesus, one likes Allah.

Accepting different perspectives of the world and understanding how they were built, in the first place, will give you the opportunity to not react too strongly.

Different Cultural Backgrounds: The way we were brought up, the traditions, our parents, and the culture that we were born in, shape us as human beings.

For me, the best thing to understand this side of life better was to travel as far and as much as I could. Cultures in our world are very different, and experiencing them was the only way to fully understand them for me.

Social Media Interactions: Social Media became a real red ocean when it comes to offending and hateful comments in the last years.

This shows how much sorrow, pain, and anger still live in the average mindset today. Social media caused a lot of toxicity, but it is how we use it. We have the power to change, and so we also have the power to change our interactions on social media.

Constructive Criticism: Receiving feedback or constructive criticism can be challenging, especially if you haven’t asked for it.

You might want to change your perspective and see it not as a personal attack but as good intentions, even if it didn’t help in this situation.

Some tips to make it easier

• Start analyzing your thoughts and why you chose this path.
• Create awareness in your daily life about why you live the reality that you live.
• Implement Meditation in your daily life and maybe even start with breath-guided yoga
• Talk about your feelings openly with friends, maybe even family, as long as they are supportive.
• Stay away from people with negative and toxic mindsets who don’t have the intention to change for the better and kind of love their victim role in life. We are all messed up in the head; it is about the path that we choose and the people that we want to become. You need a supportive environment to be able to do so — people who lift you up and don’t put you down.
• Look into a healthy organic diet, as our guts have a direct impact on our moods.
• Look into plant medicine and maybe even into microdosing psilocybin or Iboga.

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor. Please do your own research.

My favorite tea to elevate my mood and feel even slightly euphoric is Blue Lotus Tea. It is expensive but so much worth it. This tea gets you out of any funk you might be in.

If you don’t like your reality, the good news is that you CAN change it, and one of these important steps is to learn not to feel offended all the time.

Do you feel sick and tired of being angry and upset at the world? You can change it!

In the end, it is your mind that gets infiltrated with bad thoughts. This doesn’t make you happy; it makes you even more miserable. You look for somebody to blame for your misery, but you can choose, in the here and now, to be present and do something that you truly love instead of getting into this vicious cycle of negative thoughts and blaming everybody else but yourself for your sorrow.

You are so powerful; your mind is magic. You are the creator of your life, and with every reaction to the world, you design your reality, like an architect designs a building.

Never forget how strong you truly are. All that you need to do is wash away your negative programming that you have experienced in your childhood and later on and re-program everything new, with your intention, with your awareness; you are in control.

Life is magical! Come to the bright side and leave the dark side behind you. It is time.

I’m here for you to get through this challenging transitional phase.

Feel hugged, feel loved.

Namasté

Your Alina

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