DISCOVERY | LIFE | PROGRESS

This Is The Biggest Lie People Tell Themselves.

You may have said it to yourself.

Let’s carry out a little experiment.

It’ll help us understand and spot the lie.

For this experiment we will need a group of people as the sample space.

Think about your circle of friends, or your year group from college, or even your family. But don’t limit it to just these.

Choose a group you are an active member of and preferably within your age group.

The only requirement is that there should be at least 7 other people in this group that you pick(you should add up to make 8), and you should know more than average about all the people in this group.

Do you have your sample space yet?

If not, take some time to browse your memory till you get one.

If you’ve got it now, let’s go!

Now this is what you are going to do. Pick each person of the group and think about what they have going on in life in terms of career, relationship, money, family, health, habits, skill, etc.

You should have a fair idea of all of these or at least four.

And if you are using four, make sure it cuts across. Use four for everyone else.

You can write the answers under their names if you feel you may lose track or mix things up in your head. If you are writing, it should look like this:

I’d actually recommend you write it down so it’s easy for what’s next.

After doing this exercise for all these people in your list, you should have some answers to everyone’s name.

Now if you know all these people very well, you’d notice something.

For some, there will be a lot of things to write about concerning their lives, while for the others there isn’t so much to write about not because you don’t know, but because there actually isn’t much.

That is the reality of life.

There are a lot of factors that make people’s lives vary in so many ways but I’d like to focus on one for the sake of the exercise.

If you had the opportunity to interrogate the names of the people you picked, you’d find that quite frequently those with lesser progressions would make this one statement among many others in their defense:

“I don’t think I have any gift/talent/skill/ability/capacity/knack/advantage to help me get ahead.”

There are excuses and reasons to certain happenings in life but this statement, my friends, is a lie.

Everyone was born with or into some kind of advantage to enable them in their lives — the help them succeed. But in some of these cases, we sabotage ourselves with statements like the one above.

Fine, you cannot sing or dance, but have you tried drawing?

Or maybe you cannot solve math problems, but have you tried writing?

What if you were not born into a rich family? Have you tried monetizing the many skills you have learned?

The questions go on and on.

It can take us an entire lifetime to know what our gift is only if we allow that to happen. The truth is, we all have an advantage to get ahead in life but it is our responsibility discover it and nurture it to fruition.

If that’s not done on time or at all, we might just be undermining our own advancements.

And that should not happen.

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