avatarLucian Ioan Chirilă

Summary

The article discusses how the ego can hinder personal growth and success, using the author's experiences in League of Legends as a metaphor for real-life challenges.

Abstract

The author reflects on the detrimental effects of ego in the context of playing League of Legends, where persistently challenging a superior opponent leads to further defeat. This experience is paralleled with personal development, where ego can prevent individuals from adapting strategies, seeking help, or acknowledging when a change in approach is necessary. The article emphasizes that recognizing ego's influence, taking action to change behavior, and embracing growth opportunities are key to overcoming these obstacles. It suggests that setbacks should be viewed as chances for growth rather than failures, and that mentorship and feedback are valuable tools for personal advancement.

Opinions

  • Ego can blind individuals to the need for strategy adjustments and hinder their ability to learn from losses.
  • Persistent attempts to defeat an opponent who has consistently won can exacerbate the situation rather than improve it.
  • Overcoming ego involves acknowledging its impact, actively changing one's approach, and feeling internally content with not always being superior or correct.
  • Seeking help and providing assistance to others can lead to growth opportunities, similar to aiding teammates in a game.
  • Setbacks are seen as gateways to new chapters and learning experiences rather than definitive endings.
  • The author values reader engagement and encourages clapping for the article multiple times as a form of support.

This is one of your enemies in your growth journey

And this is why I lose when I play League of Legends

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Have you ever felt that no matter how hard you try to do something, it just doesn’t work?

In today’s article, I want to show the fact that most of the time we are to blame.

As usual, today’s article is based on a short story from my gaming experience.

One of the most absurd things you can do in League of Legends is to try to defeat your enemy even if he has already beaten you 3–4 times.

You are only giving him the chance to take a bigger lead and reducing your chances of getting back into the game.

I also make this mistake very often. And it’s not a mistake as a result of lacking mechanics of the game or something related to skills, but the problem is the ego.

Because of my ego, I don’t want to accept that I am wrong, and I can’t even look for another solution to either get back into the game or do something to help the team win.

When it comes to the game, there are a few different things you can do, besides just keep fighting your lane opponent. But there is no point in insisting here on this, after all, very few of those who follow me are League of Legends players.

So, how do I transpose this in real life?

Here I am referring in particular to personal development, achieving objectives, and solving problems of this nature.

One thing to remember is that

ego often obstructs our journey toward growth and fulfillment.

This is the Ego’s Role

Most of the time, Ego is manifesting its role until something intense happens.

As an example, in my gaming story, a pivotal moment happens after several losses. That’s the moment when I have to make a decision. The decision that I have to make things different.

Until then, my ambition blinded me, steering me away from the rules that I follow when I am in a winning spot.

A losing streak can highlight the need to alter the perspective, acknowledging that this isn’t the end of something, but rather a challenging phase.

In real life, a pivotal moment can be losing your job, having financial problems, not fulfilling your goals, or not reaching your objectives.

The context shaped by the ego unfolds in two dimensions: overcoming the ego and embracing growth opportunities.

How to overcome ego?

Recognition! Action! Accomplishment!

1. Recognition:

If I play a game and I continue to lose against my lane opponent, I have to accept that this is because of my ego, so I have to stop. I am being emotional. So acknowledging the influence of the Ego on our decisions and actions is the first step in rectifying this issue. Identifying how Ego affects our pursuits enables us to reflect and redirect.

2. Action:

After that the action is important. You decide to make things different, to try something else, but is not enough. You have to take action. It’s like reading a book that requires to be applied in order to make a change in your life.

3. Accomplishment:

This is something on a deeper dimension. It’s about how you feel inside. Just understand and feel okay about it, that sometimes it’s good not to be like you want to be. Don’t take it as an offense. You don’t have to win every time or to be right always. And most importantly, you don’t have to be superior in every situation (in every game, if we follow the gaming line).

Embracing Growth Opportunities

Help! Mentor! Feedback!

Overcoming Ego can result in growth opportunities.

Because leaving your Ego behind, you now can help and seek help. It’s like in League of Legends. If I can’t beat my lane opponent, then I should go and help the others. If my help will put my teammates in a winning spot, then I can be sure that they will help me too.

In real life finding a mentor and requesting feedback can launch you into ways full of opportunities.

Conclusion

Understanding Ego’s role in obstructing growth is crucial. By overcoming our ego, we open doors to growth and fulfillment. This happens because we recognize that setbacks are not conclusions but gateways to new chapters in our journey, as my losing games can be a form of understanding how to win games.

What do you think about this perspective? Let me know in the comments below and please clap if you liked it. When I clap for the others, I like to do it 50 times. Maybe you like it too. :D

Thanks for reading!

League of Legends
Growth
Self Improvement
Personal Development
Gaming
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