The Spacebar Is the Secret to a Solid Relationship

How much space is enough space?

My friend, who’s 9,800 miles away was mad at me. The secret I didn’t want to tell her for her sake brought me to the situation.

“I need space.” She abruptly announced.

“Don’t text me till I do.”

The moment the conversation ended, fear and doubt started creeping into me. I thought that this is it. It’s the end.

Most of us associate space with relationships as a bad sign. But we all have heard the advice that space in any relationship: platonic and romantic is healthy.

Regardless, we are still scared of it. We see couples taking a break and ended up separating. We see friends expanding their individual social circles and ended up breaking. It’s worse if it’s long-distance.

Space is like a spacebar. Once you master where to put space, your relationships will flourish.

WhenIwritelikethisitmightbefuntoreadinthebeginning.

This is true, especially if you’re on Twitter. You’re curious as to why someone would write like that. Maybe, the lack of space makes a thought funny or to build curiosity.

But if they were to write like that for more than two sentences, you’ll say fuck it and continue scrolling.

It’s like the honeymoon phase of a romantic relationship. It’s exciting to be with the other all the time in the beginning. But if a year had passed and your partner is still demanding your attention every hour, it becomes suffocating.

R e a d i n g t h i s k i n d of t e x t i s a l s o t i r i n g.

Intentionally placing a gap between each letter for a writer is taxing and pointless, let alone for the readers. We’re all busy people. It’s wasting our time.

I’ve met someone who put an arm’s length distance with every person they meet. They never open up fully, never really initiate a meetup, or even to start a little squabble.

Relationships with people like those are bound to end. We make friends to feel a connection, to give and receive support, and more. But the gap is hindering us from having that.

It’s never mutual, and that’s why we leave.

No wwha tabou tif I write like this?

You’re probably thinking the fuck. Exactly. But this is what happens.

Some people give space at the wrong moments.

I know two people who clicked and worked well together. But when their relationship was supposed to blossom, one of them decided to give space between them. It didn’t end in the “best” way.

Now, one or two wrong typos in terms of space placement would be fine. People will still give it a chance. But, if it’s more than that, no one will continue reading.

Okay, so let me write normally.

When you put space at the right moments, you’re able to deliver your message clearer, and people can read what you wrote easily. No eye strain or extra brainpower is needed.

If you put the right spaces at the right times, your relationships are going to work out.

My friend, who asked me for space, came back. She needed the space to calm herself down and process all the information.

I also had the time to reflect on how I could be a better friend or how I should handle the matter at hand better.

The Takeaway

Space can be good or bad depending on where and when you decided to place it. It’s like basic writing.

Don’t overthink it. The spaces should be placed as naturally as possible, the same way you put a space between two words.

It will take some time to recognize it, similar to the first time you learned what space in writing is.

But you’ll get there.

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