The Reality of Older Men & Bad Sex

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It’s almost laughable now.

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I used to be perpetually attracted to older men.

I was in the dawn of my 20s and these older men I was seeing at that time were generally mid-30s to early 40s.

It’s not like I actively sought out older men — not at all. In fact, as I’m sure you may already be thinking, it’s more likely these men had targeted me since I was, in fact, a much younger woman. Being as young as I was, I just assumed that these older men somehow found me intellectually stimulating and mysteriously alluring.

Maybe they did to some degree, but I realize now that the main attraction was probably just my cuteness, youth, and wide-eyed innocence about the world. At the time, I was also astonishingly naive about sex and knew next to nothing about it.

What was ‘good sex’? What was ‘bad sex’? Who knew? Not me.

For a young person to be sexually inexperienced and dating a person who is much older and presumably more sexually experienced it can be quite an uneven playing field as far as sex goes. This is because a sexually inexperienced person essentially doesn’t know what she or he is missing.

Many young women may never have had an orgasm in their entire life and if the person they’re being intimate with isn’t particularly interested in giving them an orgasm (which some partners are not) then they simply wouldn’t know the difference.

All of the older men I dated in the past had a fair amount of previous partners. I didn’t. Looking back now, as a woman in her 40s with much more sexual experience, it’s almost laughable how much bad sex I actually had and put up with.

I often wonder if these older men realized at the time how terrible the sex really was — or if they even cared. Perhaps the reason these guys wanted to be with a younger woman was that they were relatively bad lovers and women their age weren’t interested in engaging with them intimately.

Maybe some older men just love the idea of a fresh young face and body along with the tender inexperience a younger woman often brings to the table.

It’s hard to say why so many older men still want much younger women and likewise why so many younger women gravitate to these men — as I did.

For me, it was that lure of experience and the tantalizing idea that an older man would be interested in me — someone who undoubtedly had romanced many other women before me.

Most young women like to think of themselves as more experienced than they actually are. Older men can seem like the perfect vehicle to that avenue. Except that, quite often, the only experience young women tend to get in these situations is a harsh lesson about letting your ego run your mind and allowing bad sexual experiences to control your destiny.

As I got older and more sexually experienced, I realized that many of the older men I was intimate with were not the best lovers in the world just because they were older. A few of them were violent and completely inadequate partners on every level. This is probably why they were still single and trolling young women who were in their 20s while they were in their 30s and 40s.

Does that sound harsh?

Perhaps. I could have had better experiences. The bottom line is that age doesn’t necessarily equal wisdom — or good sex. A great lover doesn’t come just from sleeping with a multitude of people or from age.

A formidable lover comes from the heart and soul of someone who’s really infatuated with you — wants you on every level — enjoys your laughter as much as your body — and relishes every moan of pleasure you make.