The Kind of Orgasm Men Can Never Enjoy

It is time to talk about women’s cum and how to enhance our sex lives

This is a real conversation between me and my guy mate one morning.

“I had an orgasm for four hours last night,” said me, still reminiscing my solo hot night.

“You can’t have an orgasm for four hours, you will die,” doubted my guy mate. “If men have an orgasm for four hours, our dicks will break.”

Holy moly, that’s so true. When men come, and then that’s it for them. When women come, it’s like the second half of Shakespeare's play begins.

This is a story about how to have a four-hour orgasm that gives us satisfaction, smooth skin, and good sleep, and how we should factor women’s orgasm patterns into heterosexual intercourse.

What do you mean, a four-hour orgasm?

Let’s get graphic here so we can all achieve a new level in orgasm.

Women, like men, stimulate their private parts when they feel horny. Where they vary between people, and each person can have multiple spots of stimulation. Remember Monica from Friends sang the numbers’ song?

If you are very new to women masturbation, I think the best place to start would be the clitoris.

“The clitoris is right under the point where the inner labia meet and form a little hood (known as the clitoral hood, in fact). It’s on top of (or in front of, depending on which angle you’re at) the vagina and the urethra (the hole you pee out of).” — Where is your clit?

You can Google image search clitoris, and there are many images that show you where it is. Apparently, it serves a little function but to make us feel good, that’s a big function!

When people use a vibrator, it is usually where they stimulate. But note, a vibrator can stimulate many other parts as well. Find your spot!

What to do when masturbating

This is the million-dollar question.

Traditionally, people equate masturbation with dirty thoughts because men tend to watch porn whilst jerking off. The movie American Pies have conditioned us to believe that we must find a way to watch porn in order to have a good time.

Wrong!

When masturbating, we should focus on masturbating, not having dirty thoughts or watching other people doing each other.

This is as absurd as when we are eating, we focus on watching the table next to us eating. Just eat your food!

To achieve an impactful orgasm means dedicating time, full attention, and love to wherever we are stimulating. Say, the clitoris.

Just keep feeling what our clitoris is feeling. If this is your first time, it’s a new feeling. Who are you, clitoris? Why are you here? Why are you so sensitive?

Be inquisitive, be curious, be adventurous.

Remember, solo play is not a substitution for sex. It’s not an alternative but a standalone sexual health category. With or without a partner, we should all be masturbating.

By doing mindful masturbation, we will have a great orgasm. Based on my research and interviews, it normally takes longer to reach orgasm than when we watch porn, but the impact, oh the impact, is far-reaching.

Yes!

What do we learn from this when it comes to intercourse?

The answer is obvious — timing.

From a male’s perspective, the story goes like this: kiss, sex, orgasm, sleep. They might throw in some foreplay there, a little bit of fingering, kissing, maybe a bit of naughtier things.

But these are often short, rather than with the aim to help their partner to reach orgasm. It’s more like a tease, literally “foreplay”.

But we don’t call the first half of Shakespeare’s play the foreplay, it’s literally the first half, right? We want to reach a certain sense of climax, where the audience claps their hands when the red velvet curtain falls.

As they go to the loo or grab a drink, they remain involved in the play, look forward to the second half, and reminiscing the details of the first half. This is what “foreplay” in intercourse should be treated.

In practice, women shouldn’t just be wet, but they should be screaming, their vagina should be squeezing, and everything the ladies do, the ladies do.

Second half

Now the timing is in sync.

The man is hard and the penetration begins. The woman continues to orgasm, like an airplane that has already taken off and flying. Just keep flying, sometimes higher, sometimes lower, but flying.

This is the time when the dick size doesn’t matter. Because whatever you do, they are sensitive. So this is pretty good news for men who might fall short on this department (love my pun).

Keep flying, keep spinning, do some air show tricks, throw each other around, front and back, here and there, whatever, just enjoy the ride.

Then the man also reaches his climax. Men’s climax is like fireworks, it explodes, then it disappears. The women are just, wow, oh wow.

This is one hell of a good night.

Hollywood has talked about how men and women never reach orgasm at the same time in almost every single rom-com. Do you know why they haven’t figured it out?

Because the narrative is too driven by men. It’s not only not fair, but also incomplete. How can we live in a society where people will forgo knowledge in order to protect and maintain their unfair advantage?

Oh I know, because they get their fireworks-like orgasms and don’t care about the others. That’s selfish.

I am not going into sexism here. If your other half is sexist then it’s just awkward AF, a good partner should be supporting female sexual empowerment and the true manifestation of women’s orgasm.

So please foreplay like the first half of a Shakespeare’s play, and enjoy a prolonged orgasm with good sleep.

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