Make Her Obsessed with You
Do what 99% of men don’t do. Get the type of girls that 99% don’t get.
Stop the simping, Boys!
There are some things you can not learn in a library. Life teaches all men, but only some learn. If you learn these things, you will never see the world the same way and you will skyrocket your success with women.
Every time I see the comment section of a beautiful woman’s Instagram post, I cringe so hard. So many hearts, 100s, and fire emojis dropped by guys thirsting over these Instagram models. Even more painful than this is the fact that women can become rich on only fans because millions of men are paying for monthly subscriptions just to look at pictures on their screens. This is now so bad that there is even a word for it: simping.
It is when a male is overly submissive to a female and gains nothing from it. So overly submissive that other guys cringe and feel ashamed when seeing them. This applies to males in relationships when they are so submissive that they say literally anything to be in favor with the female.-Urban Dictionary
Here is a pretty funny example of how bad the simping has become.
Why do women get so much validation just for existing and showing pictures of their asses on the internet? What happened to men?
Men became weaker than ever. Porn, social media, and a lack of real-life interaction made the majority of men weak, insecure, and unable to speak to a beautiful woman. Even though I’ve described the extremes here and it’s probably not quite as bad for most men, we all probably simp to a certain degree until we ask ourselves the right questions. I’m trying to answer these questions here to increase your success with women.
For me, it clicked when I asked myself the following questions and went in search of answers:
Why is it that the girl I’m not interested in literally runs after me, while the girls I am interested in responds less and less after a few conversations and text messages?
Meanwhile, I think I cracked the code that improved my self-confidence and dating life tremendously after years of bad dating results.
As with many things in life, it’s best to first consider your own behavior. Becoming bitter and hating women is the route many men take but it is probably the worst one. What if I told you, you just have to learn some basics on female nature and reflect on your behavior? How does my behavior toward more attractive girls differ from that toward less attractive ones? What does my behavior say about my value? How can she respect me? What makes her feel safe?
These 7 things completely changed the game for me:
1. Treating her like a normal person
Let me tell you a secret: No matter how round her butt is and how cute her smile is, she’s just a regular person. She knows she’s pretty. She gets told that often enough by desperate simps. That’s exactly what you can use to your advantage: Show her that her beauty doesn’t affect you. She wants to be treated normally. Not many men will be able to do that. You can radiate self-confidence and set yourself apart from 99% of men.
2. Staying true to yourself
Most men no longer have their own opinion when they are surrounded by beautiful women. They hope that they will end up in bed with her through approval and confirmation. But the exact opposite is the case. Dare to contradict her and she will respect you and she can only love you if she respects you.
3. Giving her the full range of emotions
Women are emotional creatures. They love drama and think more with their emotions than with their brains. Therefore, there is one thing you must never do: bore them.
Don’t be influenced by their emotions! On the other hand, feel free to trigger different emotions on her side. You have to be at the cause of her emotions and not at the effect. This is what turns her on and keeps her hooked. Make fun of her from time to time, provoke her, and flirt with her. Don’t misunderstand: Don’t be an asshole. Treat her with respect despite everything I just told you.
4. Overcommunication kills attraction, give her time to miss you
Do not be too available. Maybe she is still happy about the first “good morning sweetie” message. After the fifth in a row at the latest, you become boring and predictable. She will think. Doesn’t he have anything better to do than write me every morning?
But go ahead and keep doing it if you want to destroy the attraction…
5. Don’t over validate
As already described: She knows about her beauty. Disarm her by not confirming her for it. This shows your value: you don’t need to butter her up. You must have many options and experience with beautiful women. That makes you interesting.
Bonus tip: only give her compliments when she’s behaving well. These sincere compliments on her behavior or character are probably rare, as she is mostly reduced to her looks. Therefore, they mean more to her and will result in further good behavior.
6. Be on your mission
Women should be a compliment to your life, not the focus. She should support you in what you are doing. If she can simply lead you away from your path, she will lose respect.
7. Stay mysterious
She doesn’t always have to know what you’re doing, where you are talking to. Studies have shown that being mysterious is incredibly attractive. This is especially important at the beginning of a relationship. Stay mysterious and she will always think about you.
Book recommendations
The following books have helped me learn more about the subject.
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