Proven Text Messages To Make Her Crazy About You

When An Alpha Male Meets His Kryptonite: The Female Alpha.

I use to have this “masterclass” that I charged two thousand dollars for entry. It was a yearly membership that consisted of a lot of video conferences, bulked up “how-to” videos, and a lot of listening to other guy’s frustration in trying to get a woman to even look at them as a sexual object. I’m not an expert in dating, ironically. I am an expert at getting dumped, though. This is a good thing because getting discarded means I won the battle, I just lost the war. This was no ordinary “Alpha male” masterclass. This was strictly how to become an “Asian Alpha Male.” I think growing up with sisters gave me an unfair advantage. Their friends would sneak over to my room to experiment.

I just did. I have the biggest (celebrity-like) crush on this girl. At the same time, I love her as a friend. And even if there is sexual chemistry, I know that if we hooked up, things would change, and I’d lose her as a friend forever. Judge me, call me a beta male, I don’t care. There are some people that you need in your life. If you want them to stay, don’t sleep with them. This lady is a real problem solver. When she is limited on what she can do, she delegates. We’re a great team — I wouldn’t have it any other way. God only knows.

A beautiful relationship to me is when two love each other so much that all they want is for the other person to be happy. Jealousy and secrecy don’t exist. It’s Jada & Wil at the Red Table. Too soon? “Bad Marriage For Life!”

Only women know what women want because, most of the time, they have no idea what they want. That might have sounded confusing, but women understand. Men; we’re confused, but hey, it’s their world, we’re just living in it. At least, that’s what we want them to think. I was going through a dry spell of around a year, and I was practicing no-fap at the time, so I was really “in need.” I straight up asked my friend (same girl) for “some.” It sort of reminds me of that episode of Seinfeld when Elaine and Jerry crossed the friendship barrier. She wasn’t insulted or weirded out. I could tell that she was concerned, but as I said, sex ruins friendships. We both value each other in a way that couldn’t compare to ten minutes of irresponsible, sauna sweaty, passionate, forbidden, and inevitable sex.

She was just like, “give me your phone.”

And so I did, then went to use the restroom. When I got back, she had texted three other girls that went to the same church as us. She held my phone for some time, texting the girls back while I did my homework. As I was dropping her off, I was telling her which one of the girls was “DTF.” Get ready; this is why you’re here.

Something to take note of, pick-up lines don’t work, and I don’t want you thinking that is what is going on here. You see, the art of seduction is first understanding how she plays. It’s sort of like how boxers get in the ring and study their opponent’s fighting style and figuring out their repetitive “tick.”

Once you’ve got her style down, capitalize on that vulnerability. For guys who don’t know what to talk about, seriously? Here is some advice. Remember this, always make it about her. Next, try to tap into her imagination because women are more visual in terms of fantasy while we are more visual in terms of what we see. You got to have her thinking about you so much that you unknowingly begin to dictate her subconscious feelings towards you. This can all happen through conversation, especially if you’re the last person she’s talking to at night.

You don’t always have to talk about what are you doing. Talk about your dreams, your goals, then prescribe doses of inclusion with those. Paint the picture. It doesn’t matter how it looks, just prime her to believe she’ll be there with you. See how I tapped into her imagination when I said, “I know you got a nine to five, but I’ll be your five to nine.” She receives this as a way to feel safe because “at the end of the day,” you’ll be there to take care of her.

You see how she said,

“I’m okay… been tired lately lol but I’m fine.”

But what she is saying is,

“It would be better if we were cuddled up but this is okay for now.”

She’s playing ball with me if you don’t see it. I purposefully send two messages to see if she reciprocates the same behavior. Which she ended up mirroring — this is key. You must test the waters. If she replies with one text after you double texted (one after another), then it shows that you haven’t yet got her to play or she is not interested. You must know when enough is enough.

She said that she was tired, so what do you do? You reply with something relevant, attached with seductive innuendo. It not only shows that you’re interested, but you’re also an active listener. I’m assuming that she is talking about work, so I had the opportunity to use a pick-up line to make her laugh, not make her fall in love. That my friend is the only time, you should use pick up lines — when it’s funny and relevant, even when it’s corny. You must always use your current environment to work in your favor. Girls love a guy who can feel the vibe and work a room, so you must give off that energy. As she validates you, remember, don’t validate her. Keep her guessing, keep her on edge, keep her wondering. Show her your uninflated sexual market value so that she can continue investing in your attention.

She’s in on it at this point, either that or she’s gassing you up. But more than likely, she already knows you want to stick your thing in her. Women aren’t dumb; they know how men function. The fact of the matter is that most of you unknowingly do have a shot at potentially any woman you want, but you talk yourself out of the possibility. You either have an inner monologue of reasons why she is out of your league, or you’re talking so much that you oversell yourself — and that is when you lose your sexual market value to her. Men, we have been taught all our lives to chase the one we want. We got it all wrong. Chase is not what we’re supposed to do. Eventually, we chase them out of our lives.

You’ve heard it before. Men are logical, while emotions drive women. Saying too much is a precursor indicating that you are someone who cannot control their emotions. Being able to manage your feelings, using your logic, and lead her to do what you want, that turns her on. Why? Because it shows that you’re not afraid of what it takes to get what you want. Ultimately, it shows confidence. Confidence is the highest currency in the sexual stock market because it allows the other person to feel safe. So be confident, own who you are, but also be in control. The last thing women want to feel is insecurity. That’s their biggest enemy. By you being confident enough to break down her walls, allowing you to secure her, opens up her legs, and releases the floodgates of everything you’ve been pursuing all that time. Pat yourself on the back twice.

You have to play with her emotions. I’m sorry, there is no other way around it. The more feelings you get her to feel, the more invested she is in you. Do you remember all those times when you’ve seen a couple and thought to yourself, how the hell did he get her? How did he pull a female-nine, as a male-five?

Women don’t know what they want, but they damn sure know WHO they want WHEN they want.

I can’t speak for all women, but the ones I’ve come across have all said that “looks matter but it’s not a dealbreaker.”

It is essential to understand that how you carry yourself can influence and even break a person’s standards. Almost every woman I’ve dated was either taller than me or around the same height. You could imagine guys coming up to my ex asking for her number as she walks beside me. The immature and beta-male version of me would go into offensive mode and say something provoking to the guy because I’m secretly insecure and must prove my worth to my girlfriend and some stranger. I let my emotions get the best of me. I’ve evolved, and you can do it too. The alpha in me smiles and keeps walking, maybe even joke around and feel sorry for the guy that she didn’t give him her number. It’s your confidence that wins both her and any situation where your alpha-game is tested. Always be ready.

Real Talk

I don’t want you to use these tactics as a way to achieve the same results. What I ultimately desire if for you is to be okay with who you are. Take care of yourself before trying to take care of someone else. Past relationships often leave invisible scars. It reminds me of that song by Sheryl Crow, “The First Cut Is The Deepest.” I’ll tell you this — if you are unsatisfied with your love life right now, it’s because you aren’t fully capable of having one. Sure, hookups are beautiful here and there, but most of the time, they don’t last. “Nice guys finish last,” they say. Whatever happened to “good girls finish first?”

I hope I’m making sense, and if I’m not, I failed you. By showing you these messages, my intention is for you to become confident in yourself and understand a little how women behave when you press the right buttons. In today’s society, women are the dominant species.

“Wait, how can someone who’s claiming to be an alpha say that women are dominant over men?”

Look at where we are as men. I’m not saying this to be some middle man between feminists and misogynists. I admit that men have become soft. Women have figured us out, and some of us haven’t come to that conclusion and therefore achieve no results. Once you accept this for what it is, you get thrown back into the sexual market. How do I know? I said earlier that the chase is a woman’s job. What’s your job? You need to be worth the chase.

A lot of us think that we can depend on our looks, our text game, mind games, but in the end, it’s the value that a woman wants. An alpha male is a man that a woman needs. When you can tap into your inner alpha, you’ll be amazed at how submissive a woman becomes. It’s instinctive for women to be submissive, but the modern-day woman has evolved. This archetype we have today knows within the first seven seconds of meeting you if you are a sexual object or a ghost that she’ll never give her time or day to illuminate even the thought of anything sexual with you.

“It’s about to get x-rated..”

“I hate to sound sleezy, but tease me, I don’t want it if it’s that easy.”

Most guys at this point will be like, yes, come over and I’ll do just that for you. You’re horny, she’s horny, what could go wrong? I’ll tell you what could go wrong: Everything! You got to be patient. I’m telling you — I know most people will say that I’m crazy, but I understand this because I’ve lived it. This is what you do. Enjoy the moment, bask in it, but take a moment for self-love. It probably hasn’t hit you yet, but those last words killed me.

I don’t know if you saw what I saw, but this was a dealbreaker for me. It was at this moment when I knew that this girl was not emotionally invested in me. I know, right? You saw that she was crazy; she was dreaming about me going down on her. Guys, don’t fall for that jizz. Entertain it, but don’t think for once that you got her head over heels for you. That single line told me that she’s an alpha-female, and she wants the same damn thing that I want. She also has a strategy. We can’t forget that two can play this game.

She thinks that she is coming over to get some licky on her kitty.

Mean what you say, and say what you mean. Look at what I said; I don’t do that for girls that aren’t my girlfriend. So did she get some licky? Yes and no; I teased her, even saw how well she prepped herself for the moment. But it was all kisses on her back, around her neck, she was begging for it, and she would get it, just not tonight. You have to make her want things on your terms. If you ate her out — at that moment, know that your “SMV” has significantly crashed in the sexual stock market. It’s a real upset.

Your value to her is gone because she took your soul. She demanded, and you caved. If you had thought with your head and not your dick, she’d be even crazier about you. She’ll be questioning so many things about herself. She’ll be insecure, wondering why you didn’t satisfy her needs. But trust me, show her who’s the real alpha. If she is not doing it for you at the actual cost of a text message, you have no business eating in that department. Women need a leader, someone who does not give in so easily. Again, that’s your emotions getting to you. An Alpha makes her wait and beg for it. That’s also insurance, so you don’t get a “Me-Too” accusation.

All good things must come to an end. That’s just the way life is. Sometimes you have to face reality and accept it for what it is. I think a lot of people stay in relationships that should’ve ended years ago. I think people are afraid of ending up alone. Who’s to blame them?

They say, “it’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.” While I believe this is somewhat true, I think we should focus on loving thyself first, above all. I think that we all have the wrong idea about romantic love. This is why we fall in love with people who’d never fall with us. The reason why we go out on Friday night, hoping that one of these days, we’re going to discover our soulmate magically.

I heard a story once about the end game of masculinity and femininity. It’s the “alpha” end game that we all should know. At the height of masculinity comes femininity as the lowest of femininity comes masculinity. Picture an archaic image of a warrior. He has his sword to strike, and he has his shield for protection. It is not his sword or shield that helps him feel protected through the night. It is the love that comes from his wife.

The roles don’t reverse; instead, they adapt at the proper time, for a man to lower himself to receive the protection that comes from being at the side of our woman. She tends to our wounds from battle. She becomes our “safe place.” This ultimately transcends all, as our woman takes on a masculine role because only in that intimacy, we allow our guard to be taken down.

Real eyes, Realize, Real Lies.

I use to be the kind of guy that would keep a girl like this around, even just for fun. However, I knew that she was trouble for me. It’s easy for me to be alpha when I don’t have feelings for the girl. I knew that she wasn’t exactly relationship material. So I had to leave before things got worse. The last thing you want is to fall for someone you only wanted for sex. It’s never a good idea to stay. It’s going to hurt either way. To maintain your alpha, you got to leave before things get more in-depth. I know it sucks, and we wish we could have our cake and eat it too, but don’t pursue fantasy when you have facts. If you want to see how this unfolded, it’s here.

Other than that, I hope this article has inspired you to be confident. It will always win. Increase your emotional intelligence, silence all those thoughts that keep you from getting any person you want. Most of those thoughts are there to keep you from harm. That’s a basic human survival instinct. It’s not always going to end up in your favor. You’re going to take a lot more losses than wins. At least now, you’re ready for some textual intercourse.

Written by: Joseph Mayuyo of Abstractdiscovery.com. Published first and foremost on Medium.com on June 25th, 2020. Be kind to each other.