7 More Reasons Why He Stopped Talking To You
Every Woman Is Guilty of This…
Remember when you’d wake up in the middle of the night with your T.V. on displaying the infamous sales pitch on an infomercial, “Wait! There’s More!”
These seven reasons why he stopped talking to you are a little more advanced. Keep in mind that I am not trying to offend, diagnose, or tell you the exact reason why he stopped talking to you.
The injunction is that you do not need to know why he stopped talking to you. I say this because I don’t want you to get hurt. I have no control of that, nor do you. So we could just move on with our pandemic stress disordered lives.
However, I’m the type of person that instead needs to know what is going on precisely. My imagination is exaggerating. Since the first seven reasons I shared, I decided it would only be right for you to get in on the deeper and less talked about reasons why men “hit it and quit it.”
“Build yourself to be confident enough to know that it’s their loss. The best way forward is to continue living.”
You’re here because you’re wondering why he stopped talking to you. Possibly even wondering what kind of person has the nerve to ghost you? That feeling of being used, manipulated, and worst, undesired — haunts you.
You’re lying in bed trying to analyze every little thing while raiding the hell out of his social media accounts.
He tweets: “Carpe Diem, Yolo” at 12:13 AM.
How could he tweet something but disregard the 46 missed calls from you? You get the temptation to text him, but you don’t want him to know you’ve been snooping through his background like an FBI special agent. Maybe it triggered you to the point that you blow up his phone?
Trust me; I’ve heard it all:
“Everything was fine and we had a great time, but I haven’t heard from him since.”
“I called him a few times and sent him a few texts, still no response.”
“Maybe something horrible happened, I should go to his house.”
“I found his mom on Facebook and asked if he was okay.”
“All I did was go to his house, I used his spare key that he hides incase he locks himself out, and used the bathroom. I don’t know why he freaked out, he was in the shower.”
7 More Reasons Why He Stopped Talking To You
- You didn’t make the cut to be a part of his rotation.
I’m probably revealing too much information right now. Some guys have what we call a “rotation.” This means we’re sexually active with multiple women simultaneously without your knowledge; unless you’re okay with that, disclosure is mandatory. For sanitary reasons, of course.
A rotation consists of at least three women, but some start with two. It’s an unsettled male’s coping mechanism to never feeling lonely.
Some men use this rotation to have a variety of women that satisfy their needs. However, some men have women in their cycle that they do not have sex with, oddly. . She’s the girl we genuinely want as a friend because we like the idea of a female companion. The friendzone is gender-equal.
Let’s say you have a three-way rotation. Their names will describe their status on the rotation totem pole. *If one is your name, don’t be offended.*
- Kylie Anne, 21, an Instagram model who recently received her GED and loves going on hikes for likes. Clingy. She looks so happy in her pictures. Secretly depressed. Emotionally unstable. Lives with parents.
- Melody Lynn, 28, a Registered Nurse, focused on paying down her student debt. On her days off, she binge-watches food channels, takes note of recipes, and then off to the grocery store. She’s a great cook. She has her place.
- Destiny Marie, 24, a Receptionist at a Law Firm even though she has a degree in psychology. Before and after work, she loves smoking weed and lives in a pool house in Bel Aire for an excellent price. Her landlord is her big sister and brother-in-law, after all.
Why is Kylie number one on his rotation? Simple, she’s young and likely not damaged from a heartbreak. Submissive, if you’re a decent photographer. The younger they are, the easier they are to control and hold down. He uses her following to social climb for clout. Kylie is faithful and believes that her man is as well. After all, he only takes pictures with her. She’s so gullible.
Lastly, he feels instantly dominant in their sexual life. Her sexual market value is at its highest because she hasn’t lived long enough (hopefully) to have had so many partners already. Fortunately, she’s still low in mileage!
Kylie can be mentally and physically draining, though. Since she’s not that intellectual or experienced, you establish a “contact-only-to-meet-up” treaty with her. This part is where Melody comes in. The one who’s always busy.
He enjoys her homemade meals. She saves him money on dates and is already at her place. He knows he’s not the only guy in her life. I mean, why does he only hear from her every week or two? He loves the way she views life, and he feels safe with her. It sucks that she’s so busy with her career. She’s likely not “Mrs. Forever” for him, but she possesses those qualities.
“Act like a lady, Think Like a Man.”
If feelings or emotions get involved, the man leaves before falling further. I know that sounds ridiculous, but it’s the truth. The man probably got heartbroken before, and this is the very reason why he keeps a rotation.
If one girl folds on him, he has other toys to play with. If he catches feelings, he’ll start spending more time with you and eventually lose interest in the other woman, forfeiting the rotation he’s worked so hard on establishing.
At this point, he decides to stop talking to you.
You are a liability to his coping mechanism. He’s afraid to commit. Even more afraid to get his broken heart shattered again. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t see your value. He’s on a different path. So he just left you hanging without closure just in case he ever needs to revamp his rotation.
2. He is putting you on hold, or you’re his booty call.
Getting put on hold means that he’s getting ready to break up with his current girlfriend and is interviewing prospects. He wants to ensure that he already has someone to fill in that void when he breaks up with you. Never lonely.
The beauty in this is that the guy samples out these girls before he leaves his main girl. In the process, sometimes it makes him rethink the entire situation.
But, most of the time, he just wants to know that his sexual life remains active. Even if it means using you until one of his leads opens up.
If it seems like you always have to start the conversation or be the first one to contact, you’re probably his booty call. We all know when we’re booty calls. At least, I hope so. If he only calls you when he’s high, sad, drunk, needs money, needs a ride, or has been aloof, you’re probably just a booty call. But who knows, maybe you’re his destiny. Destiny Marie, to be exact.
When it comes to sex, Destiny Marie leads the scoreboard. She’s 24 years young, educated, religious, rebellious, and loves to take control and do all the work. Unbeknownst to you, she’s at the age where her sexual market value is beginning to flatten out. 25 is the age a woman’s “SMV” starts declining.
Destiny satisfies all his needs and wants. The only problem is that she’s been through a few breakups that have scarred her. She plays comparison games.
Oh, and she’s super religious and requires you to go to church at least once a year, so everybody knows this boyfriend she has is real. So that’s not the worst part.
The worst part is that she’s clearly in a cult. Is the sex worth it? Only on weekdays because her weekends are fully booked. He can make something happen late Friday night. It’s midnight, bars are in full operation, but he wants to end the night with someone in the rotation. Melody Lynn!
It’s been a stressful week having to take care of Kylie. She can be pretty exhausting. But, Kylie is always available, so he starts by calling Melody.
Melody is working overtime. She texted him after not answering his call. Destiny is next in line. He calls, she answers, she says yes but they can’t be too loud and he can’t stay long. He’s fine with that. That’s Destiny for you.
“There is always that one person who knows your buttons and can press them whenever they want.”
3. He is actually married, and you were his mistress.
Yeah, I know. He decided to take his ring off for the night. His wife is on a Disney Cruiseship and won't be back for a month or so. Most married men surrender their rotations; most. I wish I could say all, but then I’d be lying.
Now don’t go off thinking all men are like this. Also, don’t believe that he planned to hook up with you knowing that he was married. Sometimes, things just happen organically. It shows that you really should take care and know who you are with before engaging with them.
This behavior also applies to friendship, business relations, romantic potentials, and family affairs. Find repetitive issues in your life that have caused people to walk away from you. The chances are that you know what that is. You’ve tried to change, but you grew up like this, and it has become a part of your personality. Married men go after these vulnerable women.
But you can change, you can upgrade, you can be complete without another persons’ love or validation.
You don’t want to be a mistress. Or maybe you do? Either way, you’re going to want him all to yourself but he’s not going to stick around because he has everything he needs. A great wife, awesome kids, paid off the mortgage.
All you are to him at that moment is fresh pussy.
Signs that he’s married would be him wanting to go to your place but never to his. That, or he’ll book an Airbnb to look like he’s single. If he is in real estate, oh man, his cover is bulletproof. You don’t want to be a homewrecker. Next!
4. “You Don’t Like Doing That”
In my fifteen years of being sexually active, I’ve only come across one of these unicorns. I’m not trying to be superficial or demandiBut, when she says, “I don’t do oral.” There are two things in a guy's mind. Actually, there are three.
- You Gon’ Learn Today.
- You’re sucking someone else's dick already.
- You’ve just turned this into a one-night stand.
Now, let me exp you why a guy would not stay with a who doesn’t do oral. 0.1% of men don’t care for it. But the other 99.9% of us men, we love us some head. Why is that? Well, it’s a different type of sex, sometimes for a different place and time. I once got my dick sucked while driving on the 91 Wests to the 110 South and lastly to the 105 West to exit on Crenshaw. From Disneyland to Space X/Tesla in Hawthorne.
I was sleepy so my ex thought of a clever way to keep me awake. She took off her seatbelt and got to work. Did I swerve? A little. Do I want you to try this? You make your own decisions. My experience is not the epitome though.
You ever heard the saying, what you won’t do, someone else will? That’s kind of the idea. It’s like being a drug dealer and wanting a friend to stop using drugs but still supplies him because he doesn’t want his friend to go to someone else and maybe take something that’ll kill him. It’s like going into a shop trying to negotiate by saying, “I can get this for half the price down the street.” They’ll tell you, “Go ahead, get it over there then.”
Where there is a demand, there will always be an abundance of supply.
Do we have an understanding? Great, because I bear good news.
Full disclosure: Please have respect for yourself. You don’t have to suck dick after a first date. It would be classy only to keep this with boyfriends. So if you have a friend with benefits, or you’re hooking up, don’t suck his dick. Save it.
5. You are loving the crew… A little too much.
If you happen to find yourself hanging out with the guys, you’re lucky. He wants to show you off to his friends. They’ve got their eyes on you, and they’re trying to read your body language to see if you really like him or if you’re just a “thot.”
We’re trying to see how you interact with other guys versus the way you do with us. His friends will flirt with you and gas you up to make you reveal your personality around other men. This is a subtle operation that can end the night with his boys telling him, “yeah, she ain’t the one bro.” There have been times wherein she actually gave her number out. “That Hoe Over There.”
This doesn’t happen quite often. As most men learn later on it’s best to not have you around the guys in the early stages. That’s because it opens up undesired opportunities, drama, and the loss of your soul. I’ve seen the most innocent of women get “turned out” and it’s the saddest thing ever.
There is a potential danger here. If you happen to hook up with one of his friends in secret, best believe he’ll follow through and then tell him later. “Bro, leave that girl alone; look what she texted me. She is foul, bro.”
This is a more mature circle of friends. We disregard the fact that he did anything with you and say, “damn, well better to dodge that bullet now than later.” This might not make sense to you but if you recall the song “Crew Love” by The Weeknd.
“Are you loving the crew? She loving the Crew. You’re loving the crew…”
Best believe that we’ll keep you around. See, I’m from the hood. We bring in new girls, and she gets indoctrinated with the culture. This doesn’t mean you’ll be together forever. If you guys break up, she’ll still be around because your friends are now her friends too. She’ll become a part of the crew, that’s the nice way of saying it. The real term is “hood rat” or “homie hopper.”
6. You didn’t take the initiative to make the first move
Girls! Women! People who like men! Make the first move. Because every time we do it, we become labeled as a “creep.” I find that word to be repulsive because it carries no actual proof but the belief easily spreads like wildfire.
You should make a move or become a victim to “he stopped talking to me” disorder. When a woman doesn’t make the first move or initiative, a man puts you on a lower priority list.
Meaning you’ll be added to the last place of his rotation. When a woman makes the first move, even if it’s subtle, that sparks a man’s confidence. It’s a lie that we are always confident—a false reality.
If men were always confident, there wouldn’t be terms like “incels” or blue pill. These are involuntarily celibate males. However, the phrase is shrewd because celibate doesn’t masturbate.
Unless the blue pill guy can justify masturbation, he sadly wallows in hatred. Not being a sexual object to anyone but himself and a pocket pussy that he purchased on Amazon’s Warehouse Deals.
A red pill male will apply your first move as a person who has just arrived at the airport — looking for the limo driver holding up his last name. Red pill individuals are cautious in these matters. Simply because we know some women are conniving.
I’m talking about women who’d just get with a man to have his baby and break up with him and hit him with child support. That’s why men throw away their own condoms now. No one is safe. These rare creatures are getting smart, and so we have to play defense. We watch Forensic Files, too, and don’t want any of our DNA to be lingering around in case something awful happens. Rare, still.
A blue pill guy is less aware of the consequences that could come during an engagement. They’re so sexually deprived that they might even find themselves with a girl who hasn’t quite crossed the age-of-consent barrier.
That’s why it’s better to be a rational male and wait like all the men who waited for Bhad Bhabie to turn 18. She broke the overnight success myth. A million dollars just for opening an OnlyFans account? I wonder who paid.
Make the first move.
7. You’re a bonafide, ungrateful, frigid, unsubmissive bitch.
Let me tell you what you should never do. Don’t ever downplay your man. Don’t ever make him look bad in front of his friends or yours. Don’t ever let him come home in a bad mood, and you make it worst.
Listen, he has a purpose that he’s chasing.
Once he steps out that door, he has the whole world telling him that he’ll never make it. He’ll never get that promotion. He’ll never make it in this world. The whole world doubts him, and he has to come home to you regurgitating that same doubt?
Imagine being so criticized and overlooked for his hard work. Only for you to tear down the last drop of his dignity. Don’t emasculate the person that you once called your “man.” Now you’re on social media telling everyone that “He ain’t sh*t.”
You’ve completely ruined his image over something so petty; I’ll bet. You need to respect your man and understand that he is the captain of the ship. I’m not saying whatever he says goes, I’m saying, as a woman, you should know that your man is a leader. Unless you only date followers?
Women have come a long way, but some things are just too toxic.
Especially if you’re getting older, you need to grow up and play your part as his ‘ride or die’. If he’s taking care of everything and is the breadwinner, then you’re job is to keep the house clean, cook him dinner, fuck his brains out and suck his dick. If you don’t, a call-girl is one call away. I think they text now.
You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. But if you want to save your relationship, the least you can do is be his support. In all ways, not just sex. If he is anxious, depressed, or stressed, be his Xanax. Ride it out with him like you said you would. A guy who sees his girl as a ‘rider’ — he’ll cherish you.
Have his back at all times, even if he is wrong, except when it’s between you too. If it’s just you two, it’s fine to call him out. In front of others? Don’t do it. You’re to be on his side, whether he is right or wrong. I hope these alternative reasons why he stopped talking to you gave you some enlightenment. Read the first one I wrote if this didn’t really make sense to you. -JosephJMayuyo
