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Soulmates: Yay or Nay?
Do you believe that there is that one perfect person for you?
This is from Weekly Prompts for Writing Prompt Enthusiasts by Adrian CDTPPW.
#2 Do you believe in soul mates? What is a soul mate for you?
I absolutely believe in soul mates. I married mine. He’s my person. The one person who truly understands me and loves me unconditionally. To me, that is a soul mate. We have shared values and morals. We both want the same things from life. And we don’t try to change each other. Which is key.
Many of us, myself included, have been involved in relationships where we thought the other person would be perfect if we could just change a few things. That never works. You can’t change other people, which seems like an obvious statement. We’ve all heard it one-hundred times. But we never listen. We repeat the same pattern of behavior over and over again.
Sometimes we are so desperate to meet that “soul mate” that we lie to ourselves. We think that we can tolerate certain behaviors in people. It’s like we have blinders on. But those red flags are real. It doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with that person, you are just incompatible. We have to be ok with that fact and be able to simply move on.
All of that said, it took my husband and I awhile to get married. We’ve known each other for fourteen years, and we just celebrated our three year anniversary in September.
I suffer from low self-esteem and it took me a long time to believe that I was worthy of him. My childhood trauma still affects me to this day. I’m not sure if these feelings I have will ever go away completely. But when you go through what I did, you begin to believe that you don’t deserve a healthy, loving relationship.
My husband stayed steady all those years. He was always there when I needed him. And his love was consistent. We went through a lot together. We broke up a few times during that period and dated other people. But I was always drawn back to him. Somewhere inside me I knew that he was the one. I just had to get to a healthier point in my life first.
That’s where therapy came in. It helped in so many other ways as well, but especially with my self-esteem. We can’t change other people, but we can change ourselves. We can focus on loving ourselves. And we can strive to improve and better our situations. I believe that it’s only then that we will be open enough to meet that person.
We are never going to be perfect, and neither will our relationships. But we have to consistently nurture them. You just have to be willing to be open and honest with your partner in a loving way. It’s important to be able to take loving criticism and give it back as well. I believe that if you have love and honesty everything will work out.
What do you believe?
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