Soulmate Partnerships — a Primer in Parts (3)

Astrological Psychology

Astrology Psychological Basics

How we have interacted with both our parents during our childhood and /or formative years is reflected in our relationships with our love partners or soulmates. All of our initial beliefs and behaviors have been affected by each of our parents. How they modeled who they were had a profound effect on us. It’s likely that one or the other parent was the major authority figure if they were present physically, mentally or emotionally at least part of the time. We may have rebelled against one or both parents or a blatant aspect of their attitudes or behaviors. These psychological elements reflect on how our intimate relationships play out in the present. And the elements are reflected in our natal charts via the planets: Saturn and the Moon.

Saturn represents authority, hard work, accomplishment, acknowledgement by one’s peers directly or as awards like The National Book Club Award, The Oscar or the Nobel Prize, for example.

Saturn represents the dominant authority in the family and that is often the father, but sometimes it’s the mother. The Moon (mother) is a receptive element, compassionate, intuitive, and is often the subordinate to Saturn (father). Family dynamics are very complex, especially where dominant authority oversteps and violates boundaries of the children — these are definitely dysfunctional at baseline and range to mildly abusive to assault, incest, rape and, at the most extreme — murder. The dysfunction where the mother and father perpetrate the sins of their parents on the sons and daughters ranges from emotional, spiritual, physical, intellectual, and sexual violations. When parents are absent, a child may step in as a parent to parent other siblings and the parents themselves.

In my birth chart, my natal Saturn in Libra is conjunct (blended with) Moon in Libra. It did not occur to me that I was a parent to my father, but I knew my mother relied on me emotionally and at times tried to treat me as her romantic partner. I rebuffed her overtures. I also see where I was a parent to my father as well. He was uncommunicative verbally most of my life except when exerting control. Though the evidence is scant I see it now as I write this.

Even in my rebellion against both my parents, I still retain many of their poor attitudes besides their good attributes under clouds of their low self-esteem. Neither of my parents understood me, nor did they attempt to understand me. I am very grateful to my father for tolerating me and leaving me alone to explore the world in how I wished.

As it is with most female offspring — they bond with their fathers and sons with their mothers as children and rebel in adolescence. Although the bond is not broken, it may be damaged.

Astrology Psychological Baggage

As you may well know baggage is the dysfunction that was imprinted from childhood by family, peers, schooling and whatever negativity we magnetize to ourselves. There is no escape from it, only transformation through inner and outer work that is often called psychological and spiritual.

The natal (birth) chart can be a detailed guide in the nuances of personality and our essential spirit. The Nodes of the Moon indicate our past and futures. The South Node represents our early and past lives with the North Node points to the direction of our possible future. For example, my South Node is in Virgo indicating a focus on details, reveling in innocence and purity on the high end and obsessive thinking and rigidity on the low end. The North Node is in Pisces pointing the way towards completion, compassionate and community on the high end and dreaminess, drug addiction and indecision about the small things in life on the low end.

As an Astrological Counselor

Clients and friends who met a prospective mate with whom they think is a soulmate often contact me professionally. They are swept away in the romance and want to know if what they are feeling is backed-up by an astrology frame. More often than not, there is an astrological basis for their intuitive sense.

If they have seen me several times with soulmate possibilities that have ended before they really began, I ask the following questions:

How many dates have you been on? If it’s around 5 to 8 dates I suggest they ask the following questions:

If the date is a male, ask: “How’s your relationship with your mother?” — — If the date is a female, ask: “How’s your relationship with your father?” and sometimes: “Was your mother or your father the primary authority when you were growing up?

If they haven’t asked the questions, I suggest they do so.

Some unevolved men may say: “My mother makes my life miserable, so I don’t really have a relationship,” or “I don’t have a relationship with my mother, she’s a bitch.” Or “My mother’s dead.” or “I have a great relationship with my mother, I tell her everything.” Unevolved women may say something similar regarding their fathers.

Men or Women who have been working on themselves with follow some of the same patterns as above with some dramatic differences. A man’s response might be:

“My mother has been manipulative towards me all my life. I’m in therapy about it. I’m learning to set boundaries with her so I can tolerate being in the same room with her. I love her, but it’s really complicated.”

A woman’s response might be: “I accept that my father is a functional alcoholic, and that’s not likely to change. While it’s extremely difficult to be around him and my step-mom, I try to tolerate it as much as I can. I love them both very much.”

Obviously the men and women who have poor to abysmal relationships with their opposite sex parents and are unwilling to work on it will not be suitable candidates for a long-term relationship. When they hear the answers from their potential partners, it becomes obvious to my clients too.

Astrology Psychological Baggage

Baggage is the dysfunction that was imprinted from childhood by family, peers, schooling and whatever negativity we magnetize to ourselves. There is no escape from it, only transformation through inner and outer work that is often called psychological and spiritual.

A natal (birth) chart can be a detailed guide to the nuances of personality and our essential spirit. The Nodes of the Moon show our past and futures. The South Node represents our early and past lives, with the North Node points to the direction of our possible futures. For example, my South Node is in Virgo, elucidating a focus on details, reveling in innocence and purity on the top end and obsessive thinking and rigidity on the low end. The North Node is in Pisces, pointing the way towards completion, compassionate and community on the high-end and dreaminess, drug addiction and indecision about the small things in life on the low end.

Astrology and Psychological Growth

The progressed chart shows the parameters of growth and explains what many of us who are traveling in the worlds of awareness already know, but with greater nuance, pin-pointing issues, blockages, and blessings. The Moon moves the fastest in the progressed chart, moving one degree a month. It takes 30 months for the Moon to move through a sign. The progressed Moon in whatever sign is how are emotions are characterized or through what the filter of the sign offers two and a half years.

The personal planets in our progressed charts are:

Sun Moon Mercury Venus Mars

They move faster than Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and Pluto, who rarely change sign.

Soulmates and the Progressed Chart

The movement of the five personal planets in the progressed chart can open a door to a soulmate connection that can be a blessing on many levels that may not last for a long period. Or it may not have a soulmate connection that will last, but could develop into a loving partnership.

I’ve had three great loves in my life so far. The last one I knew was not to last before entering the relationship and I thought it was about just paying back a karmic debt. It was perhaps the deepest and most loving connection of all the deep intimate relationships I’ve encountered. On a soul level, it was as close to perfect as it could be on this plane of existence, but on a personality level, she didn’t have a clue who she was and I allowed her to violate my boundaries. I let her abuse me until I had had enough and severed all ties.

We visit one another occasionally in dreamtime. It’s always friendly, playfully and deeply loving without entering a sexual realm (my boundary).

Part Four:

Soulmate Partnerships (4) — LGBTQIA+, Emotional and Other Soulmate Relationships

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