Sleep Porn Is Hot (Sleep Sex Is Not)

That time he woke me up with his tongue

My boyfriend asked me if I had any fantasies and my mind went blank.

I was sure I had some, but I couldn’t think of any — none that I was comfortable with, anyway.

I dug through my brain for something and told him the one thing I could come up with.

“Well,” I said, looking down at the floor and trying not to blush, “I do have a fantasy of you coming over when I’m sleeping. You wake me up by going down on me and then you fuck me.”

It’s a fantasy that came out of our circumstances. We were a new couple and hadn’t moved in together yet. On most nights, I went to sleep alone, wishing he was in my bed with me.

That wish turned into a sexual fantasy. I would close my eyes feeling a little lonely and dream that I would wake up to find him there. Sometimes, I just imagined him lying next to me, holding me. Other times, I pictured him taking me, giving me the pleasure I was practically aching for.

He nodded his head for a few moments, pondering what I had said.

“We could try it next time you’re sleeping over.”

I was thrilled. Knowing it was going to happen made the fantasy even more exciting.

I imagined the sudden excitement of being taken without any warning.

Waking up to his mouth on my pussy would be the sexual equivalent to lowering myself into a perfectly warm bath.

And the uncomplicated passion of being fucked without needing to even exchange words turned me on.

When I finally got to sleep at his place again, I went to bed horny and giddy with anticipation.

I got fully undressed, slid under the covers, and drifted off to sleep, expecting pleasant dreams and an even better wake-up call.

The next thing I knew, I woke up to my boyfriend licking my pussy.

It was the exact scenario I had dreamed of — but it wasn’t the experience I thought it would be.

I was very disoriented, a little confused, and definitely not horny.

It was more bewildering than hot. The whole thing felt weird and off. I had to stop him almost as soon as he started.

I didn’t get fucked and I didn’t get to come, but that’s okay because it’s the last thing I wanted. All I wanted to do was talk it over and then get some sleep.

I crossed sleep sex off my list and went back to fucking the regular way — wide awake and fully conscious.

We never tried sleep sex again and I don’t have any interest in revisiting it.

But I didn’t completely give up on the fantasy. I might not ever want to have sleep sex again, but that doesn’t stop me from watching lots of sleep porn.

What Makes Sleep Porn So Fucking Good

Very broadly speaking, there are two types of sleep porn.

One type is very blowjob-centric and highly implausible.

Usually, a woman will fall asleep on a guy’s lap — her date, her stepbrother, whoever.

That guy will see this as a golden opportunity and ease his dick out of his pants, rub it against her lips, part her mouth open, and fuck her face.

Naturally, she wakes up pretty early on in this process, but she doesn’t make a big deal out of it. Usually, she looks shocked and surprised (as you would be if you woke up with a dick between your lips), then she lets whatever is happening keep happening. At some point, she gets at least kind of into it.

These videos often end with the guy coming in her mouth and putting his dick back in his pants. And somehow, they both keep up the charade that she managed to stay asleep through the whole thing, even the part where his load coated the back of her tongue.

Those videos aren’t really my jam. I’m sure they have their fans but I’ve never found the thought of waking up to a facefuck particularly sexy.

The sleep porn I like to watch is the other type, the type that’s way more focused on pussy pleasure.

Those videos involve a woman who is falling asleep or already sound asleep and a guy who decides to have his way with her body.

Sometimes, it’s set during a sleepover. It can be a college student falling asleep on the couch next to her pervy stepdad. But a lot of times, there’s no real setup — just a sleeping girl wearing next to nothing or decked out in loose jammies with easy access.

What I love the most about sleep porn (facefuck videos aside) is that a man will treat a woman differently when she’s pretending to be asleep.

The goal is to touch her without waking her up. It’s a delicate procedure, so the guy always takes his time.

He’s gentler and softer. He moves with precision and patience. He explores her body in a tender and sensual way that turns me on every time.

Obviously, the sleeping part is fake. Everyone taking part in the video knows that she’s only pretending. And so do we because the scenarios are really contrived and the mock sleep is very obvious.

But to keep the scenario plausible, he still has to avoid being rough, abrupt, or quick. There’s no manhandling or roughness in sleep porn.

That’s why I keep returning to it, because that’s the way I like to be touched. It’s the kind of tactile experience that would get me really horny — and watching it has a similar effect.

But it’s not the only thing that makes sleep porn hot.

There’s also a taboo element to it. Like good fauxcest porn, it depicts an irresistible temptation.

The scenarios are all transgressive. Every single guy in these scenes knows he’s not supposed to touch that sleeping lady, but he wants her so badly that he can’t resist.

In real life, that would be an inexcusable violation. But when it’s roleplayed consensually, that kind of intense desire is completely captivating.

The best sleep porn depicts that desire going both ways. Those are the videos where the girl pretends to stay asleep because she doesn’t want the touching to stop. But she just can’t help but give away the fact that she’s awake. We hear it in her slight moans. We see it in her accidental movements, the way she slowly and subtly spreads her thighs. And we notice it when her soft breathing turns to panting and shuddering.

There’s also a deep intimacy to sleep porn.

I know that might seem counterintuitive, since it depicts situations where the consent is dubious at best. But there’s so much vulnerability in giving your body totally and entirely to someone else.

That’s exactly what is happening in these scenes. The women performing in them trust their on-screen partners to know exactly what to do with them and how to handle them. They close their eyes and let go of everything.

They submit to a man whose role is to know them well enough to lead the action without needing any feedback. And that’s extremely appealing to me.

Some Fantasies Are Only Meant to Be Roleplayed

Even after watching countless sleep porn videos, I don’t have the urge to try sleep sex again.

But there’s one more thing I’d like to try. I’d love to roleplay it.

Instead of falling asleep, I would close my eyes and pretend to drift off.

Instead of waking me up with his tongue, my husband would know that he is meant to play with my body as discreetly as he can.

This is one of those times that playing pretend would be better than the real thing — if only because I’d be conscious for more of it. I would actually be present for the buildup, the arousal, the soft touches, and the anticipation of not knowing exactly what he’s going to do next and not being able to give him any guidance.

I would just have to make myself as passive as I can, try to stay quiet while I bite my lip, and let him touch me in a sensual and erotic way.

My first sleep sex fantasy was ruined when I tried to make it a reality. But I have a feeling this one will only be hotter when I actually get to play it out.

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