Struggling to Go Down on a Girl With a Full Bush?
Here’s what you should do
The email subject line was simple and unassuming: “I need advice.”
I clicked on it and I was a little dismayed at first. It was someone asking me for sex advice, but specifically about something I’ve never experienced personally.
I kind of dread those emails. Not because there’s anything wrong with them. I love being able to help people (it’s part of the reason I became a writer) and I’m fascinated with other people’s experiences and struggles with sex.
I dread them because I hate not being able to help someone.
People write to me for advice pretty regularly. But the thing is, I’m not an expert.
I’m not a sex therapist, a relationship coach, a sexologist, or a sex educator. I’m just a blogger. I share my personal experiences, lay out my opinions, and overanalyze all my kinks and sexual preferences.
In one way or another, everything I write is based on me. Because of that, I don’t usually give advice on things I haven’t personally struggled with, overcome, or at least tried out.
But this email stood out to me because the guy who wrote it came across as really genuine.
He was struggling to go down on his girlfriend because she sports a full bush. He reached out to me for advice because he listens to the podcast I host with my husband and he’s heard us touch on similar subjects.
He made it clear that he isn’t turned off by her pubic hair. It’s just that he has a hard time because too much of it gets in his mouth when he goes down on her. Specifically, he finds himself gagging when it tickles the back of his throat.
It was the last line of the email that made me want to do my best to help him out: he said that he didn’t want to ask her to shave.
Someone struggling with their partner’s body but looking for a solution that doesn’t involve her changing anything about herself is a green flag if there ever was one.
The problem is I’ve never had a full, luscious bush. I started shaving my pubic hair as soon as it started growing and my attempts to grow it out never resulted in a full, thick bush. And the one time I went down on a woman, she was just as smooth as I was.
So, I consulted someone who had the right kind of experience: my husband.
With his help, I came up with a few tips for people who are going down on a woman with a full bush and want to make it a little easier.
Find Other Ways to Warm Her Up
Really good oral sex has a natural progression. You don’t just start by spreading the lips and licking the clit — you have to work your way up to that point.
When you go right for the goods, it just doesn’t feel as great. Plus, you’re cheating your lady out of a longer session with all sorts of amazing and pleasurable sensations.
If you want to get her off impressively, you’ll have to build some anticipation, ramp up her pleasure slowly, and let your lips and tongue explore more of her body.
But a lot of that involves kissing and licking her outer labia, and that might be a challenge if you’re having a hard time with your partner’s pubic hair.
In that situation, you’ll have to find other ways to warm her up instead of skipping over that step. Tease her thighs and hips by kissing and licking them. Hold her sides while you kiss down her stomach. Making it clear that you’re working your way up to licking her pussy will intensify her excitement.
Use Your Fingers
Fingering and eating pussy are sometimes treated like they’re completely separate things. But there’s no reason not to combine them. In fact, I highly recommend that you do. Let the twain meet, damnit!
When your mouth can’t handle the pubic hair, let your fingers do some of the work. Rub her labia and stroke her pussy. When she’s ready, you can start eating her out. But until then, show her that you can work magic with your fingers.
Spread Her Lips
When it’s time to go down on her, make sure you spread her lips apart with your fingers.
That’s something you should be doing anyway. It’s going to let your tongue come in direct contact with the most sensitive parts of her pussy. That will make the pleasure she gets more intense and help her come more easily.
It’s also going to make sure that her pubic hair stays mostly away from your mouth. That way, you can devour her pussy without anything ruining the flow of your licking.
Incorporate Her Pubic Hair
You’re trying to avoid getting too much pubic hair in your mouth. But that doesn’t mean you have to avoid her bush entirely.
If she’s got a full bush, work it into your play. Stroke it while you eat her out. Gently tug on the hairs. And if you’re genuinely into the way it looks and feels, praise her gorgeous bush with some dirty talk.
This is a really good move because a lot of girls who prefer to keep a full bush still feel a little self-conscious about it. They’re aware that it’s not the most popular look in porn and they might assume that guys expect them to shave. Your partner might even think that you secretly wish her pussy was bald.
Playing with her pubic hair and complimenting it is a great way to reassure her that you don’t want her to change a thing.
Become a Pussy Eating Pro
It takes a bit of a skill to make a girl come with your tongue. But expert-level pussy eaters are the ones who are able to handle any kind of pussy.
They can pleasure small, sensitive clits. They know what to do with bigger ones that need more intensity. They can make a wet pussy come and know how to handle one that doesn’t lubricate so easily.
And they don’t need a girl to shave before they can get her off.
You don’t have to prefer pubic hair. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being into bald or trimmed pussies. But your partner’s pubic hair shouldn’t scare you off.
No matter what she’s got going on between her legs, you can work with it and give her the kind of pussy eating experience every woman deserves.
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