Size Doesn’t Matter as Much as You Think

I didn’t mean to be a size queen

My first boyfriend’s penis surprised me. I hadn’t expected it to look so big. But when I held it in my hand, I was impressed by the length.

Looking back now, I’m pretty sure he was only slightly above average in length (which is 5.16 inches) and pretty typical in terms of girth.

And a bit above average is what I experienced with most of the guys I was with.

That wasn’t something that happened on purpose. I didn’t set out to find guys who were packing more. It just sort of happened.

I wouldn’t call myself a size queen. When it comes to cock, there truly is beauty at every size.

I have no explanation for why this happened. Maybe I’m just attracted to guys with Big Dick Energy. Maybe it’s what happens to guys who grew up on a diet of poutine and tap water.

I’m sure it’s just chance (I hesitate to call it “luck” because it has its downsides) and if I racked up another 10 or 20 male sex partners, it would’ve surely brought the average down.

My Dickstory

I don’t want to make it sound like everyone I hooked up with had massive pornstar cocks. They mostly fell in the 6 to 7 inch range. There are a few that stand out, though.

The longest cock belonged to a guy named Todd. He had nine inches, and I dated him on and off so I got quite familiar with them. Todd was maybe a little too enthusiastic when it came to sex — he had a tendency to fuck like a jackrabbit.

Being pounded vigorously with something that long would normally be an issue, but there was a lot of sexual chemistry between us. So, even though we never really managed to connect on a deeper level, I would always be really aroused by the time my pants were off.

Probably the most memorable thing about Todd’s cock wasn’t the length of it, but its refractory period — it was practically non-existent. He would come, replace the condom with a fresh one in under a minute, and fuck me again.

Todd’s cock was the longest, but I can’t decidedly say he was the biggest. That honor might go to the guy with the shortest cock I’ve ever fucked.

Jason was an extremely memorable one night stand. I met him on a train ride and he just charmed my pants off (quite literally). He was a bit older, mature, and a great conversationalist (my bar may have been low, but compared to the seventeen and eighteen year olds who usually tried to fuck me, this guy was a grade A Romeo).

When I fucked him in the train car, his dick had two notable qualities. As I said, it was the shortest I’d ever seen — it disappeared in my hand when I wrapped my fingers around it and I had to improvise a handjob (my usual technique required more shaft).

It was also the thickest by far. Gripping his cock felt oddly familiar because it had the exact same girth as a soda can.

I wasn’t really the blowjob type back then (that would come later), which is probably for the best because I don’t think I could’ve wrapped my lips around him — at least not comfortably. Though admittedly, I do sort of regret not trying.

The other stand-out dick is the one I married. Mr. Austin’s cock is nowhere near as thick as Jason’s (I’ve never encountered another that even comes close) and it’s shorter than Todd’s, but it’s still on the larger side.

He’s about 8 inches long and his girth measures in at about 5 ¾ to 6 inches (it fluctuates — dicks are weird). It’s on the bigger side, but it’s comfortable. It’s my boyfriend dick.

It’s also my favorite aesthetically, though I may be a touch biased. I love its proportions, the shape of the head, the smoothness of the shaft, and the slight curve it has.

I Don’t Covet Big Cocks

Lots of people say that dick size doesn’t make a difference when it comes to sex. I don’t think that’s true. But it’s also not true that bigger is necessarily better, or that size is all that important.

Having a thick cock like Jason’s in me felt quite different than having a long one like Todd’s. The sensations were different.

And just because it makes a difference to how sex feels doesn’t mean that bigger is better. A bigger dick has its challenges.

You need more lubrication (natural or otherwise) before taking a thick one comfortably. Likewise, you need more prep for anal.

With a longer one, the cervix can be a real bitch. You need a ton of arousal (or shallow thrusts) to keep it from being painful or uncomfortable.

Todd, Jason, and Mr. Austin are all among my best sexual partners, but they would have been regardless of dick size.

Todd was the kind of guy who fucked like he knew his dick was big. But he made me horny as hell (my teenage hormones helped) so my body was ready for some heavy action by the time he rolled on a condom.

Jason had the kind of cock that makes you wonder if it’ll even fit. But I had no problem with it because he spent so long seducing me (and then gave me some decent manual sex, too).

And Mr. Austin has been the king of foreplay since I met him. He’s the one who showed me that oral sex and fingering can be a full-blown experience. (His pussy eating skills aren’t why I married him, but they did make a damn good case.)

Despite that, the size is still an obstacle. I can’t do quickies, for one thing. And it makes blowjobs challenging — I can’t take much of him in my mouth or hold his cock between my lips for long without them getting sore.

I don’t want to yuck anyone’s yum or criticize anyone’s preferences. I’m only speaking for myself here. But because of that I don’t really covet big cocks.

I’ve deliberately sought out small dick and micropenis porn. And yes, it’s still very hot.

And if I ever have another MFM threesome, I kind of low-key hope the other guy is on the other end of the size spectrum. Not just because I love variety (it’s why big vegan restaurant menus make me nervous) but because I want to enjoy all the benefits that come with fucking, sucking, and enjoying a smaller cock.

In the end, though, it doesn’t really matter. There are so many things that make a bigger difference than how big a guy’s package is. Whether he’s attentive, patient, good at communicating, cares about your pleasure, and knows a thing or two about seducing you make a much, much bigger difference.

I understand why so many people are obsessed and insecure about length and thickness. But the truth is good dick comes in all sizes.

If you want to hear more discussion about this, check out the dick size episode of my podcast.

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