How I Learned to Appreciate Penises Visually

It didn’t come naturally to me

I loved dicks, but I didn’t like looking at them.

When my parents were out of the house, I’d often watch porn in the living room. Most scenes featured a male and a female performer fucking, but I would sideline the men.

The camera focused its attention on the woman, so I did the same.

The dicks on screen just felt kind of functional. They were necessary for all the action to take place, but I didn’t think I was supposed to admire them or anything.

Whenever I did try to focus on them, they just seemed weird. They were so long and oddly shaped that they almost looked fake.

When I started having sex, my opinion didn’t change too much.

I loved cocks, just not aesthetically. I wanted to stroke them and fuck them (if they were attached to the right person, anyway), but I didn’t go out of my way to look at them.

Tits, I loved to look at. Pussy fascinated me. But dicks were just sort of there.

They had their purpose, but it wasn’t to be admired.

Now, I can appreciate the aesthetic qualities of a penis. But it seems strange that it took me so long.

Why Are Dicks So Hard to Appreciate?

I’ve known a lot of straight or bisexual women who love cock but don’t care to look at them.

And even though I spend my time in some pervy corners of the internet, that still seems like the majority opinion: fun to use, but not terribly attractive.

I know there are probably a few guys reading this who are just itching to scroll down to the responses and tell me that it’s just a natural gender difference. Men are visual; women aren’t. That’s why they could spend all day staring at tits and pussy but we would be fine going a lifetime without laying eyes on a dick.

As if.

Women get aroused visually plenty. I haven’t spent the last twenty years of my life regularly watching porn because I’m captivated by the storylines.

And lots of women, myself included, can get mesmerized by a nice set of forearms or spend all day staring at shirtless studs at the beach.

But for some reason, the dick doesn’t inspire the same kind of admiration in many women.

Gender does play a role, though. It’s not that women aren’t visual creatures — it’s that women are heavily sexualized.

We all get the message very early on that women’s bodies are to be ogled at. It’s clear from day one that tits and ass are supposed to be drooled over.

By the time we see our first pair of tits, we’re primed to enjoy it. By the time I saw pussy in porn, I already had the idea that it was the kind of thing people wanted to look at — so I looked.

Nothing primed me to see dicks the same way. The male physique could be admired, but I wasn’t constantly bombarded with sexualized images of men and men’s crotches.

So, I learned to be mostly indifferent to what men had below the waist. I wasn’t put off by the sight of a cock, but I didn’t really see the appeal in checking it out, either.

I Taught Myself to Appreciate Dicks Visually

The more I thought about it, the weirder it seemed to me that I didn’t like looking at dicks the same way I liked looking at tits.

I wanted to see if I could learn to appreciate them aesthetically. So, I turned to my old trusty friend, porn.

My mission was to look at dicks differently. Thankfully, there was no shortage of dicks on the internet for me to look at.

This time, though, I didn’t just enjoy what the dicks could do — I paid attention to how they looked.

I studied each cock to see what it had to offer. Its shape. Its size. Its definition. Its color. I took mental notes of all the qualities they had.

And then, one day, it’s like a switch had flipped. I was streaming a blowjob video and engrossed by the cute topless blonde in the eyemask using her mouth like a pro. Then, a new thought popped into my head: “That’s a really nice cock.”

I loved its pink color, its sleek shaft, and its well-defined head. But mostly, it just had some indescribable quality — there was just something about it that just made it look nice.

I didn’t find every penis I came across attractive, but I started appreciating their different qualities. Uncut or circumcised, smooth or veiny, straight or curved, chiseled head or subtle ridges — every dick was unique. They didn’t just blend together anymore.

And then there’s all the different ways they come. Some shoot their loads while others erupt and spill. Some blast out ivory white cream while others have clearer come. Sometimes it’s thick and other times the consistency is thinner. It’s not really part of the way a cock looks, but it kind of adds to their personality, the same way a woman swaying her hips can make you look at her ass in a different light.

After years of being indifferent, I managed to open myself up to the aesthetic pleasures offered by the male organ.

I still don’t enjoy it as much as seeing a nice pair of tits. But in my defense, it’s really hard to beat tits.

It Makes Me Better in Bed, Too

Being a cock connoisseur is fun. It changed the way I look at porn. But it also changed the way I have sex.

There’s a lot of physical stuff that goes into making sex fun and exciting. But good sex is also about the way our partners make us feel. I love knowing that my husband isn’t just pleasuring me but also appreciating what he sees when he’s doing it.

Having a partner who can make you feel sexy and attractive makes a big difference. But when I couldn’t appreciate the aesthetic qualities of a penis, it limited my ability to do that.

I imagined what it would feel like if the tables were turned. If my husband told me he liked pussy but he thought it was kind of ugly to look at, it would make me self-conscious, not confident. It would make me want to close my legs and go to sleep instead of having sex.

I didn’t want to make my husband feel that way. I wanted to make him feel sexy and confident. I wanted him to feel like he was appreciated, right down to his cock.

It might be a coincidence, but after my little experiment, sex has been better. Enjoying dicks visually didn’t come naturally to me, but I’m glad I took the effort to get there.

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