Should Women be going Dutch with their Affair Partners?

Check, please!

WriteHereWriteNow reached out to me from Reddit! He’s a fan and wanted to get my opinion on sharing the bill for dates and meets in an affair.

When asked if it’s a shared responsibility, this was my reply.

So it’s true.

I am progressive. I try to pay half my way. Hotels are expensive, especially during COVID. Prices are going up everywhere. Have you noticed that those organic berries your lover just loves, have gone up in price?

Cheating is a pricey world and the dollars are only going up.

The Million Dollar Question

That’s a really good question? Should he bring it up? I’d want to know what a Lover is thinking, always. It encourages that communication. We’re on a two-way street, not a dead end.

To ask or not to ask

Even though women, including yours truly are amazing, we are not mind readers. If it’s important to you, always share your thoughts and ideas. We like that.

The best scenario is that yes, they can and want to contribute. Share the responsibility. If they can’t, then consider it discussed and move on. Don’t dwell.

Setting the tone

It’s good to see folks chat about this in advance. They have indeed been following along with Teresa’s book and making sure the details are discussed.

I chat with them about it. I don’t want to get stuck with another hotel bill because I wasn’t clear.

Pays her own way

This is how I define progressive. It’s not the only way I define it but a starting point. If I had a man offer to pay for everything, I’d feel responsible for something.

Even if it’s picking up a bottle of bubbly and his favorite cheese, I like to do something to contribute.

You do what you can and that is what counts.

Being the Gentleman

Oh a southern gentleman! Swoon. Can I be a southern belle now? I like peaches.

So knowing what she does at home is important. It means you can make an informed decision, instead of assuming.

Be smart!

Feeling Good about it

Ladies like manners. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you always must do it. Be flexible and in the moment.

You’ll both enjoy each other more in the stolen moments you have.

Please and Thank you

It is phasing out. Few people say please, thank you and you’re welcome.

We want the gentleman (with a dash of caveman).

Let me take care of you

WriteHereWriteNow is kind, caring, and considerate. He wants to take care of his affair partner. He wants to take care of her needs. To lessen her worry and strain. He can take care of the bills, so he’s going to. It makes him feel good.

Good points indeed.

Don’t forget the tip

At the end of the day, don’t worry about what others say you should do. Do what is right for you both. Talk about it and be clear.

So you can feel good.

Together.

I am progressive…I paid for hotels! See more.