Relationship Expectations You Need To Let Go Of Today

To have a happy and satisfying relationship

I used to think relationships were a fairytale. I used to think that once you found the guy you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, it would be easy. That the stars would align. And everything would be perfect.

Well, as you can imagine, I was very wrong.

It’s very important to ground ourselves in reality. We should be realistic about the expectations we have from relationships. When we put our heads up in the clouds, we end up being extremely disappointed.

The relationships portrayed in movies, books, and TV shows are far from the truth.

If you want to cultivate happier and healthier relationships, letting go of these myths is a good place to start.

Your partner will always understand you.

They won’t be able to understand you all of the time. We are all different. We have different sets of values, belief systems, and opinions. You can’t agree or understand each other’s perspectives all of the time, and that’s okay.

Sometimes your partner won’t be able to validate your feelings, and that’s normal. It hurts when your partner doesn’t understand you at times, but we fail to remember that they’re a completely different person from us.

There will be times where we may not be able to understand their feelings, emotions, and perspectives either.

Don’t expect to see eye-to-eye in every single issue that comes between you and your partner.

There will be chemistry and sparks all of the time.

Yeah, that one isn’t true either. When you’ve been together for a long time, the desire, passion, and lust for one another will fade. And that’s okay.

It just means that you know one another inside and out and are extremely comfortable with one another so the sparks and passion naturally fade.

And this leads me to my next point.

You will never be attracted to anyone else other than your partner.

You will always find somebody else attractive or maybe even develop a small, meaningless crush. That’s totally normal and it’s impossible not to find other people attractive outside of your relationship.

There’s a fine line between having a silly, meaningless crush and divulging into cheating. If you find yourself getting emotionally attached to someone else, you really need to take a step back and think about what you feel about your current relationship.

You will never be bored with your partner.

Oh, you will be bored with them. Especially if you’ve spent years together and are now in a place where you’re super comfortable with one another. Being bored together, but feeling at peace is a sign of a healthy relationship.

If you think love is supposed to be intense chemistry, sexual attraction, and a series of highs and lows and lots of drama, then that isn’t real love, that’s a trauma bond.

A healthy relationship is boring. Always remember that. The drama and the highs and lows usually indicate a toxic and abusive relationship.

Do you agree with these? Is there anything else you’d like to add? Let me know in the comments below.