The Anxious Thoughts That Come Up When You’re In A Relationship

Sensitive people can relate

“Do they still love me?”

“Do they still enjoy talking to me?”

“Do they still think I’m fun to be around?”

“What if they think I’m boring?”

“What if they start a new venture, meet someone better than me, and then break up with me?”

“What if they start liking someone else?”

“Oh no, I have to keep working hard to keep their interest in me.”

“What if they find someone better?”

“What if they never marry me? Then what?”

“What if we stop finding each other attractive?”

“What if we lose the spark for each other?”

“What if we aren’t as compatible as I thought we were?”

“What if they’re not the right person for me and they keep showing me Red flags but I ignore them because I’m blind-sided by my love for them?”

“They’re not talking to me and texting me like they used to. What did I do wrong?”

“What if we break up? How will I cope?”

…… And the list goes on. Isn’t it exhausting?

These thoughts are normal. Especially if you’re sensitive and have an Anxious Attachment Style. But it gets tiring.

We all want to feel secure in our relationships but one way or another, these negative thoughts start creeping up on us, trying to snatch all of our happiness away.

So what can we do about it?

Here’s a list from the expert over-thinker and HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) on what to do when the Anxious thoughts start taking control of our minds.

• A supportive partner who understands you and doesn’t think you’re “too much” really helps. Talk to them about these thoughts. Don’t keep them to yourself. It will make your Anxiety worse.
• Give yourself positive pep-talks. (Yeah, right. Easier said than done.) But trust me, you have to put the negativity aside and say amazing things to your self. Tell yourself things that give you positive self-esteem.
• Accept yourself as you are. It’s okay to feel negative thoughts but try to get to the root cause of it. What is making you feel this way?

Parting Thoughts

It’s okay if you feel anxious when you’re in a relationship. However, when you know someone truly loves you and accepts you for who you are, the feeling of anxiousness will slowly fade.

And it will be replaced by feeling secure with the man/woman that you love.

But of course, you need to put in the work too. You are responsible for your own Inner peace.

It’s all going to work out. Have faith.

Thank you for reading.

All the opinions mentioned here are strictly my own.

Yours truly,

Dawn.