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a49cbcdd9f6">show</a> love and how you prefer to receive love, it makes things so much easier — and both are equally important.</p><p id="1dc9"><b><i>How can we learn our partner’s love language?</i></b></p><p id="4402">Take the time to define these things in your relationship, so there is no confusion. The importance of sharing your love language with your partner was demonstrated perfectly with a couple I know. The man’s love language is <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-top-10-worst-christmas-gifts-to-buy-your-partner-9f463b79ede4">gift</a> giving, so to show his partner how much she means to him, he would buy her expensive gifts. But she was uncomfortable receiving such lavish presents and would sometimes reject them, saying they were just too expensive. To her <a href="https://readmedium.com/3-reasons-to-try-showering-with-your-partner-821c95ceda4f">partner</a>, it was as if she was rejecting him, and he felt unable to <a href="https://readmedium.com/looking-for-love-get-outraged-study-shows-that-expressing-moral-outrage-increases-perceived-attractiveness-c757542b570a">express</a> his love for her.</p><p id="898d">Once he <a href="https://readmedium.com/4-types-of-communication-noise-to-avoid-in-your-relationship-f7b3a25491d4">communicated</a> his love language, his partner was able to accept that this is how he showed love. If they hadn’t been communicative about this, she would have continued to get more frustrated with the “needless gifts,” and he would continue to feel rejected. It was equally important for the woman to communicate to her partner how she preferred to receive love — which was clearly not by receiving gifts.</p><p id="9b62">Both accepting how their partner likes to give love was as important as defining how they each prefer to receive love. On the other hand, a person could decide that a partner’s love language is a deal breaker for the relationship, ultimately deciding they’re not compatible enough to stay together. Either way, they’ve both saved a lo

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t of heartache.</p><p id="c896">*This article contains affiliate links.</p><p id="d581"><b><i>More from Kiki Wellington:</i></b></p><div id="c279" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/good-sex-tied-to-empathy-of-love-languages-7e548b93482d"> <div> <div> <h2>Quickie: Good Sex Tied to Empathy of Love Languages</h2> <div><h3>Couples willing to fulfill each other’s love languages enjoy better sex and relationships</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*sEhjDLtsVEiO5bzkIzhaAw.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="c99f" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-psychopaths-use-language-differently-f52dce25c25f"> <div> <div> <h2>Quickie: Are You Dating a Psychopath?</h2> <div><h3>Research shows language will leave clues</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*8t_wcta4h-QhnVeX7Xf2NQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="47d7" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/do-you-love-to-hug-research-explains-why-de4dc594985a"> <div> <div> <h2>Do You Love to Hug? Research Explains Why</h2> <div><h3>You may be hardwired for hugging</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*-4HNZ1VrsLZKqJBnF9rAYA.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

Quickie: Do You Understand Your Partner’s Love Language?

Why learning the vocabulary is important

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If you want a great relationship, obviously honesty is the best policy. But according to Alyssa Dineen, Founder of Style My Profile and author of The Art of Online Dating: Style Your Most Authentic Self and Cultivate a Mindful Dating Life*, one thing that many couples aren’t necessarily transparent about is how they prefer to give and receive love. Although we’ve all heard about love languages, we don’t always understand what they truly are. I spoke to Dineen to clear up the confusion.

What do couples need to understand about love languages?

The love languages are real, but they are often misunderstood. Being aware of your love language can be a huge advantage in a new relationship. It can save a lot of frustration and even heartbreak. Once you and your partner each define how you like to show love and how you prefer to receive love, it makes things so much easier — and both are equally important.

How can we learn our partner’s love language?

Take the time to define these things in your relationship, so there is no confusion. The importance of sharing your love language with your partner was demonstrated perfectly with a couple I know. The man’s love language is gift giving, so to show his partner how much she means to him, he would buy her expensive gifts. But she was uncomfortable receiving such lavish presents and would sometimes reject them, saying they were just too expensive. To her partner, it was as if she was rejecting him, and he felt unable to express his love for her.

Once he communicated his love language, his partner was able to accept that this is how he showed love. If they hadn’t been communicative about this, she would have continued to get more frustrated with the “needless gifts,” and he would continue to feel rejected. It was equally important for the woman to communicate to her partner how she preferred to receive love — which was clearly not by receiving gifts.

Both accepting how their partner likes to give love was as important as defining how they each prefer to receive love. On the other hand, a person could decide that a partner’s love language is a deal breaker for the relationship, ultimately deciding they’re not compatible enough to stay together. Either way, they’ve both saved a lot of heartache.

*This article contains affiliate links.

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