Pros and cons of living alone

And how living alone thing boosted my communion and marketing skills.

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As I mentioned in my 2nd last article, I have shifted to another city to live alone and chase my goals.

I started living alone to chase my goals

I think at some point in life, we all take certain steps.

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So far, everything is going awesome; that means I am alive and still able to write and eat well. But the beginning was not that good because you know it’s a different city with different people and languages.

Therefore, everything started as chaos for me. In the start, I shifted to Jaipur from Agra, and all of that I managed alone because I always wanted to live independently and chase my vision goals.

In the beginning, everything was looking easy, so I decided to pack my bags in Agra to move to Jaipur. And hired a broker in Jaipur to find a pleasant flat for me, and he did his job and found a nice apartment that was quite affordable, 12500 INR per month.

The rent was okay for me, but the issue was that we had to pay certain other charges with the rent, including brokerage and other expenses. All these expenses were quite heavy to bear, but it was okay because freedom always asks you for a price, and you have to pay the fee if you want that freedom.

Somehow, I managed to pay all those expenses and was ready to get into the flat. Everything was smooth until I learned that the broker I hired was a fraud. He was cutting communications between the landlord and me and trying to make more money from me. By God's shake, my landlord is a very lovely person. They belong to the Jain community (Jain community people known for their honesty and integrity), So they took care of things for me.

They asked the broker to leave, and from there, we communicated directly with each other.

So this entire journey of living alone started with this bomb that awakened me and made me realise that not everyone is friendly in this world, and you can’t trust everyone. Because if you put too much trust into people, they will eat you alive.

After this event, I alerted myself and decided to first clear all the terms with people and then work with them because the entire living alone thing is not a one-day thing, it has just begun, and I need to bring a lot of things to survive alone and live happily.

Sometimes I feel Like surviving in the Jungle is easier than surviving in a new city because, in the jungle, you are aware of who’s going to eat you. That is not the case with the new towns where dangerous animals are operating under human skin. Lol.

So that's how my journey started. Let’s dive into the pros and cons.

Pros of living alone

You get rid of the fear of facing people.
Your judgment skills improved.
Your mind becomes more alert than ever.
You got to know how people treat a newcomer in a new city.
Obviously, you got to new people and culture.
You learn to manage things and people.
You get a chance to communicate with more and more people as you’re living alone and you have to handle everything yourself.
You got to know the price differences of products in different cities.
You also get a new perspective of seeing things because now you’re thinking rationally.
Your thoughts become more accurate and precise when communicating with people because now you don’t want to lose any specific information openly that might affect you in any way.
You talk less but more accurate.
You get a better insight into yourself and your kind of person.
Your happiness index improves if you love living alone. As in my case, I like freedom.

Because for me, freedom is the ultimate expression.

Your tolerance power improves because now you can’t fight everyone, as you are well aware that you’re living alone in this city where you’ve no backup.
You get more focused on your goal because of time availability.
Now you have all the time in the world to achieve your goal. No one is here to ask for kitchen help and old jobs, like mom and dad do in a family.
And last but not least, you become emotionally intense and can handle solid emotional breakouts.

Therefore, living alone is kind of awesome in some ways. Or best for the Introverts. Haha. Because they get the freedom to know things better than before.

Cons of Living Alone

If I talk about the cons, I don’t see much of them because living alone really gives you emotional freedom. But certain things might be considered cons.

You don’t have trustworthy people around as a family.
You don’t have support when you get sick or ill.
Sometimes you feel lonely because, at some point, we all want to talk to people who care for us.
Now you don’t have as many resources as you have at your home.
You can’t think of kicking people's asses while they try to pick a fight with you because you don’t have a backup. Otherwise, you’ll get your ass kicked. Lol.
Funds might become an issue if you don’t have regular earnings.
On top of all, you get spiritual freedom.
Rest you got to know when you will live alone somethings might vary person to person. Haha.

So in my opinion, one must try to live alone if he’s facing any difficulties with family and living with other people because the whole living alone experience changes your life and mindset about things. Hence you turn out to be a better human being than before.