PSYCHOLOGY

Promiscuity — Sex Addiction or Self-Determined Way of Loving?

The line between pathological sex addiction and a self-determined way of loving

Promiscuity — What on earth does it mean?

There is no clear definition of promiscuity because the term is interpreted differently depending on how it is understood. Sexual satisfaction and the understanding of a sexual relationship do not follow rigid laws and are perceived differently by everyone.

If you still want to describe promiscuity more precisely, it is best to start by opposing it with the opposite concept, namely monogamy. While a monogamous person stays with a single partner for a longer period of time, partners are changed more frequently in the case of promiscuity. Saying that

Frequently changing sexual contacts and short affairs are often assigned to a promiscuous way of life

Promiscuity from a biological point of view

You will hardly believe it, but promiscuous behavior is completely biologically normal for humans and anchored in each of us.

An increased number of sexual contacts increases the likelihood of fathering offspring and thus contributes to our natural urge to survive and reproduce. The fact that most people still do not live prominently is due to social norms.

So, promiscuity means that I’m sex addicted?

From a medical point of view, “hypersexuality” or sex addiction does not differ from gambling addiction or shopping addiction. There are non-substance addictions.

The feelings and behavior patterns of sex addicts are in principle similar to those of alcoholics or drug addicts.

As a result, people experience feelings of shame, symptoms such as loss of control, or withdrawal symptoms. Marriages, families, and, last but not least, the people affected often break as a result.

The fact that women can love and live independently is wonderful, but unfortunately, it wasn’t always the case! A woman with frequently changing sexual partners was often considered a nymphomaniac.

Even today there are still many prejudices. A sexually active woman who, moreover, does not yet feel the need to enter into a steady relationship is labeled as “easy to get” or is diagnosed with pathological sex addiction.

But is it even possible to make such statements? When does a lot of sex become ‘too much sex’? Who determines the invisible line between sexually active, promiscuous, or sex addicted? In the end, is it just dusty morals that women put in invisible boxes?

In my opinion, the number of sexual partners or the frequency of sexual intercourse does not necessarily matter. As long as the focus is on joy, sensuality, and enjoyment during sex, everything is fine.

Only you can decide about your sex and love life!

Everyone loves differently and that’s a good thing!

Regardless of how many sex partners you have, the bottom line is how YOU feel. Pay attention to your mental and physical health! If you notice that something is wrong, pause and question your behavior, because loneliness, self-doubt, or even depression cannot be permanently compensated for by the numbness of the concentrated load of sex.

If this doesn’t apply to you, appreciate your open attitude and your love for life. As long as you are happy and do not want to harm anyone else, it is up to you whether you sleep with one, two, or thirty people. Because THAT is sexual self-determination!

Here is a great article from Jessey Anthony on how to turn boring self-sex into an ego-boost

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