The article is a personal reflection on the author's experience with their Pomeranian Spitz, Phi Phi, and how she has taught them about love and responsibility, with a particular emphasis on the calming effect of John Denver's music on the dog.
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A dog’s life
Perhaps Love Is My Dog’s Favorite Song and Now It’s Mine Too
Phi Phi makes me happy, that’s her name, my Pomeranian Spitz. It’s not easy to have dogs. I never thought I would take this big responsibility, but here I am with Phi Phi and Crocker, my adopted dog, who himself has his own charm and story.
But having them takes most of my time, especially Phi Phi, to me she is a baby. I used to laugh at people who talk about their dogs as their babies, or fur babies and identify themselves as fur parents.
You know what they say about karma? Now I see Phi Phi and Crocker as more than pets, I not only identify as a fur parent, I want them to know me as Dada.
Phi Phi has a ‘wild side,’ she would jump on and off the bed. Yes, she sleeps with us.
And when she is in the kitchen she would ‘beat the hell out’ an empty Coke bottle. A ‘DIY’ toy she happens to love or hate, depending on the time of the day. She spends more time with the Coke bottle than any of her other toys.
One day, my partner by accident played John Denver and according to him, Phi Phi stopped ‘harassing’ the Coke bottle and came to the kitchen to listen with him to the song — Perhaps Love.
And she also likes Annie’s Song, well for some reason she loves John Denver.
I couldn’t believe it until we tested it, while she was on our bed playing with another favorite, her chicken toy, which always leads to a biting session with Dada, she has a funny way of showing affection.
And when we played Perhaps Love, she stopped biting us and calmed down. Soon after she fell asleep.
It has been my saving grace for the times I wish Phi Phi would sleep so I can write because even during the day she would sometimes fall asleep on my lap, and I don’t have the heart to move her into her bed.
Instead of writing, I just gaze at her until she wakes up.
I know many of you will judge me, that I’m smothering her with love.
Until Phi Phi, I have to admit I have forgotten about John Denver. I know many of his songs, who wouldn’t but it could be after he died, that I drifted away from his music.
Or it could also be that love has been missing in my life for all those years that I felt lost.
When mom passed away, she made me feel loved, and she had all of 21 days to show each one of her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren how much she loved us before she finally said goodbye.
It was the start of my healing process, and yes all it took is for mom to say those words,
It was John Denver who wrote Perhaps Love, a song that he considers his best song, his all-time favorite. A song that he dedicated to his wife Annie, who also happens to b his inspiration for his biggest hit, Annie’s Song.
Phi Phi also loves Annie’s Song.
He recorded Perhaps Love with Placido Domingo in 1981.
Perhaps love is like a resting place
A shelter from the storm
It exists to give you comfort
It is there to keep you warm
And in those times of trouble
When you are most alone
The memory of love will bring you home
Perhaps love is like a window
Perhaps an open door
It invites you to come closer
It wants to show you more
And even if you lose yourself
And don’t know what to do
The memory of love will see you through
Oh, love to some is like a cloud
To some as strong as steel
For some a way of living
For some a way to feel
And some say love is holding on
And some say letting go
And some say love is everything
And some say they don’t know
Perhaps love is like the ocean
Full of conflict, full of change
Like a fire when it’s cold outside
Or thunder when it rains
If I should live forever
And all my dreams come true
My memories of love will be of you
First, Crocker you will have your own story.
To Phi Phi, every day I’m thankful that you are part of my life. The joy that I feel each day with you never fails to amaze me. I worry when you are sick.
Yes, I ask you to be a good girl, and you will always be a good girl in Dada’s eyes.
But now I believe that you are my teacher, my life teacher out to teach me life lessons, especially about love.
Our journey together is just beginning Phi Phi, may it be 100 years before we say goodbye, and in the time we have together what will keep us together is perhaps love.
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