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d, the high level of investment by nice guys usually backfires. Oftentimes, it goes so far that they <b>neglect their own goals.</b></p><p id="f38e">Let’s be honest, which woman wants a man who is so influenced by the beauty of a woman that he neglects his own goals and thus his own future? Ambition and a drive to achieve one’s goals, on the other hand, are extremely attractive traits.</p><p id="78a9">I’m not saying don’t date girls. I’m just saying that you shouldn’t skip your gym session or work on your business to do so.</p><p id="1f63">A friend of mine was in this situation. He met a girl in college that he found attractive. He started studying with her and hanging out with her. More and more often. Soon he stopped going to the gym to make time for her. Of course, it didn’t work out between them and he ended up in the friendzone.</p><figure id="7746"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*aUnLoOMvb_hpkpTX"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@visualsbyroyalz?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Anastase Maragos</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><h1 id="1ffc">Nice Guys Are Predictable and Boring</h1><p id="5f66">Girls will quickly realize that a nice guy is interested in them and would do anything for them. Thus, all mystery and excitement is gone. The Nice guy is an open book, so to speak. The girl knows exactly what he wants and what he will do next. Isn’t it much more exciting to date a mysterious man that you can’t control and you don’t know exactly where you stand? Having to do a little chasing can be very exciting.</p><h1 id="4cbd">Simping</h1><p id="247a">In modern language, there is another expression that describes nice guys: simps. The definition from <a href="https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Simp">urbandictionary.com</a> sums it up well.</p><blockquote id="39f8"><p>It is when a male is overly <a href="https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=submissive">submissive</a> to a female and <a href="https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=gains">gains</a> nothing from it. So overly submissive that other guys cringe and feel <a href="https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=ashamed">ashamed</a> when seeing them. This applies to males in relationships when they are so submissive that they say literally anything to be in favor with the female.</p></blockquote><blockquote id="f975"><p>Jake: Bro, did you hear what <a href="https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=collin">collin</a> said to <a href="https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=his%20girl">his girl</a>? Alex: Yeah, he’s such a Simp he’s <a href="https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term

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=embarrassing">embarrassing</a> to be around.</p></blockquote><h1 id="30cd">Summary:</h1><p id="0994">Nice guys in most cases follow the wrong strategy to get a girl for the following reasons:</p><ul><li>They are not genuinely nice but pursue an agenda.</li><li>Nice guys come across as needy.</li><li>They neglect their own goals, which is very unattractive.</li><li>They are predictable and boring.</li></ul><p id="a0db">Thanks for reading!</p><p id="5a88"><b>Wait a second.</b> Y<i>ou should get my articles in your inbox. <a href="https://medium.com/subscribe/@whitep"><b>Subscribe here.</b> </a>Maybe you also want to start writing on Medium yourself and make money. I made $2300 in my second month! You only need a membership for$ 5 a month. If you sign up<a href="https://medium.com/@whitep/membership"> <b>with my link</b></a>, you support me with a part of your fee without additional costs.</i></p><p id="d569">I think you will also like these articles:</p><div id="3ac2" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-average-salary-by-education-level-9235467b6ef8"> <div> <div> <h2>The Average Salary By Education Level</h2> <div><h3>Is a college degree worth it financially?</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*W0k26U90b_9G3dyc)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="b3fe" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/inside-the-instagram-dms-of-a-hot-girl-272c33999fe2"> <div> <div> <h2>Inside The Instagram DMs Of A Hot Girl</h2> <div><h3>It is insane.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*NtNjyQyxMaLwoocx)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="d5a9" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-i-maintain-10-12-body-fat-with-chocolate-and-these-other-habits-3d63578f3684"> <div> <div> <h2>I Maintain 10–12% Body Fat With Chocolate And These Other Habits</h2> <div><h3>Copy these strategies to become and stay fit.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*NO6c_b0Ng3Zma4vT)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

Nice Guys Never Get The Girl. Here’s Why.

Being nice is not the answer.

How do I make her like me?

This question has probably been on every man’s mind.

“The nicer I am, the more she will like me. Maybe she will fall in love with me. It’s logical.” Many of them come up with this answer.

I also used to think that way and acted accordingly. But I have to disappoint you, that’s not how it works. The saying “nice guys finish last” has its justification. In this article, I will explain why.

Nice Guys Are Usually Not Genuinely Nice

Being genuinely nice is, of course, a feature that makes any man attractive. By that, I mean being nice without expecting anything from it. For example, helping old people across the street. Nice guys however are usually not genuinely nice people but are only overly nice to the girl they want to conquer. They have a clear goal: in most cases, sex.

Women, generally speaking, have a good sense of who is really just a nice person and who is pursuing an agenda with their niceness. The latter is a big turn-off.

They Often Come Across As Needy

The behavior of nice guys often makes them seem needy or even desperate. Nice guys often invest an incredible amount of time, energy, and resources into the girl they want to conquer.

Sending a good night message may be sweet for the first two days, but at some point, it becomes a turn-off. By doing so, nice guys sub-communicate so they don’t have any other options. Besides, the high investment implies that they are not in a league with the girl. If you thought you were good enough, you would hardly invest so much to convince the girl of you. Being yourself should actually be enough then.

Being Needy and showing that you have no other options is, in my experience, one of the surest ways to turn a girl off.

Neglecting One’s Own Goals

As just mentioned, the high level of investment by nice guys usually backfires. Oftentimes, it goes so far that they neglect their own goals.

Let’s be honest, which woman wants a man who is so influenced by the beauty of a woman that he neglects his own goals and thus his own future? Ambition and a drive to achieve one’s goals, on the other hand, are extremely attractive traits.

I’m not saying don’t date girls. I’m just saying that you shouldn’t skip your gym session or work on your business to do so.

A friend of mine was in this situation. He met a girl in college that he found attractive. He started studying with her and hanging out with her. More and more often. Soon he stopped going to the gym to make time for her. Of course, it didn’t work out between them and he ended up in the friendzone.

Nice Guys Are Predictable and Boring

Girls will quickly realize that a nice guy is interested in them and would do anything for them. Thus, all mystery and excitement is gone. The Nice guy is an open book, so to speak. The girl knows exactly what he wants and what he will do next. Isn’t it much more exciting to date a mysterious man that you can’t control and you don’t know exactly where you stand? Having to do a little chasing can be very exciting.

Simping

In modern language, there is another expression that describes nice guys: simps. The definition from urbandictionary.com sums it up well.

It is when a male is overly submissive to a female and gains nothing from it. So overly submissive that other guys cringe and feel ashamed when seeing them. This applies to males in relationships when they are so submissive that they say literally anything to be in favor with the female.

Jake: Bro, did you hear what collin said to his girl? Alex: Yeah, he’s such a Simp he’s embarrassing to be around.

Summary:

Nice guys in most cases follow the wrong strategy to get a girl for the following reasons:

They are not genuinely nice but pursue an agenda.
Nice guys come across as needy.
They neglect their own goals, which is very unattractive.
They are predictable and boring.

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