SELF-IMPROVEMENT

My Mask Attracted My Experience

Day 26, 50 questions for deep self-reflection

This is day 26 of the 50 Questions for Deep Self-Reflection challenge from Know Thyself Heal Thyself created by Diana C.

DAY TWENTY-SIX: How can you bring your outer world into alignment with your inner needs?

A dissociated existence

This question hurts my brain a little because I’ve spent most of my life in a state of disassociation. This question kind of defines the barrier of that disassociation between the outer world and the inner needs. The problem is, I’ve been completely disassociated from my inner self so long that I’ve spent several therapy sessions just trying to work out what the hell I want, let alone, what I need.

We all need love

There are things that we all need:

• to be loved
• to belong
• to be enough

These are simple, basic needs of the soul. But what do I need? Me. Personally, what do I want and need? How do I reconcile that with my external existence?

Alignment is key

I think the keyword here is alignment because I am a huge believer, as you probably already know, in energy, alignment, and attraction. So what I like about this question is that I don’t need to ask myself how I specifically associate back into myself (that’s too big of a question and has too many steps), but rather, how do I reach that energetic resonance of alignment where inner and outer me are attuned and vibrating at the same frequency? Really, isn’t that what disassociation is — a different resonance of inner thought and external reality?

Then, we add another layer on top of that in that external reality reflects inner thought. So, the inner needs, technically, should be reflected in the outer world. Therefore, to bring it into alignment, we would simply need to connect with the inner need. This is where disassociation becomes ultimately problematic because until I can align myself with myself and my inner needs and wants, my world will only reflect to me, that which the mask I’ve worn for so long, will attract.

How can I bring my outer world into alignment with my inner needs?

• By aligning my inner need and wants with my inner self
• By associating into my own existence
• By continuing to be more and more me every day, so that my own alignment is getting tuned in
• By allowing the process to happen and knowing that a slip of alignment is okay. Nobody is in perfect alignment at all times
• By seeing the outer world as a reflection and becoming aware of if it’s reflecting the created mask or my truth

If you are interested in the journey so far — all the days that came before, I’ve collected all the article links here:

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