Men Who Value Your Worth Will Have These Traits
How to know he’s a keeper.
Speaking of love and respect, most of us have been lucky to have true love once in our life. I can boost of one or two men who have shown their love by respecting my space, my boundary and my opinion. These men are rare to come by.
It’s like searching for a needle in a haystack. The world is full of bad eggs who overshadow honorable men.
I don’t men the power-hungry politicians who make half-ass promises during campaigns.
I’m referring to men who value the existence of women in their lives. Men who stand by their words and defend their principles no matter how demeaning they seem to society. Those who embrace honesty and sincerity as a way of life.
These are the men I’m attracted to. I have been fortunate to have two in my life. At that time, I felt like I wasn’t deserving of their love, so I let them go.
Yes, I had my insecurity issues back then. They were perfect for gentlemen, just that they appeared in my life at a perfectly wrong time.
Most of us drag our baggage into our relationships, and this can drain our partner’s physical and emotional well being.
I recognized mine early. I knew I needed some work done before I could bring in someone into my world.
Thinking about it, that was the most selfless thing I have ever done. I’m selfish. I don’t enter relationships without an agenda or a goal to be fulfilled. But when I meet a selfless partner, they kinda drag out the goodness in me.
I’ve been with one too many jerks to an extent the good ones often seem too good to be true. But they still exist out there.
So if you are caught up in the web of lies the society feeds us that good men don’t exist or that all men are equal, I’m here to discredit that.
Honest and loyal men who will die to spend every minute with you are out there, and these signs will help you recognize men who value you any day.
He tries to deal with your emotions
Women have complex emotions. Having a man who understands you and helps you navigate your uncontrollable emotions is like striking gold.
It’s really hard for men to understand a woman because they don’t reason the same way. Science has proven that a woman’s brain can experience emotions in a wider variety and more powerful way than man’s brain.
So if you feel very emotional and at that time transfer it to a man, his circuit will break, and he will blackout.
Whenever I was edgy, my ex, Keith, would comfort me to understand why I feel the way I do.
He doesn’t walk out or let me deal with it all on my own like most men I have dated would. He will try to calm my temper by hearing why I feel that way and doesn’t project his opinion. He only listens and says, “I’m sorry you feel that way.”
A man who values you will try to understand your emotions on your bad days. He won’t mind that you have them and will try to be the rock you can lean on.
He respects your boundaries as if they were his
In all my casual and committed relationships, I always state that I don’t send nude photos or videos. If you want to see my naked body, it will have to live off cameras.
If a guy insists on crossing this boundary as some have done, I cut off from them immediately. Protecting my boundaries is not negotiable.
Some men like to test a woman’s integrity by demanding things that make her uncomfortable. And most women often fail this test, especially low-value women that do anything to freeload off a man.
Our boundaries change and evolve over time. So if you’re in a long-term relationship with someone, be sure to check your feeling and see where stands.
Boundaries are there to protect your heart when your feelings a fragile, but they should be flexible enough to accommodate that of your partner as well.
Our boundaries change and evolve over time, so if you’re in a long-term relationship with someone, you may need to subtract or add to your existing rules, depending on where they stand.
However, it’s important to avoid setting strict boundaries that will make your partner uncomfortable being around you.
A respectful man does not ask questions or make you feel guilty about physical boundaries of any kind, when you have this type of man by your side, do not take it for granted.
He doesn’t mind paying the price of a relationship
Relationships or marriage comes at a huge cost- not just financial, but mentally and socially. He will have to spend time with you, not time with his friends or watching his favorite sports.
He will have to spend time loving you, learning what you like and don’t like. He will have to stop flirting with other women.
When another woman is interested in him, he will reject her and not reciprocate. He will have to spend time with your friends even if he doesn’t like them.
He will have to ask about your thoughts and opinions before deciding on anything that will impact you or the relationship.
An honorable man will be comfortable doing those boring things you do unrelated to his interest and hobbies.
Most guys are not willing to pay the price of a relationship. They want the advantages of a relationship and that of a bachelor at the same time.
So if your man is paying the price of a relationship without being grumpy about it, then that’s a great sign he’s a keeper.
He doesn’t pull back during the tough times
I’m not the type to share my problems with anyone. Even my mum thinks I have no fears or worries because she never hears me complain.
I know that everyone is going through their own challenges, and telling them about mine feels like an additional burden.
The same goes for my relationship. After a fight, I tend to withdraw to my own space. I might even go for days without speaking to you.
But that attitude changed when I dated some decent guys. They made me realize how important communicating any individual difference is in a relationship.
If you do not speak to your partner about how he has mistreated you, the problem will continue to manifest in different forms.
A man who respects your worth will often be the one to initiate a truce because he understands that an honorable man leads by example. He will always show discipline in everything he does.
He sees the good in you and believes in you
A man who has your best at heart will always have your back. He will believe in you even when you don’t believe in yourself.
He will always be there to support your goals and dreams, even if they sometimes sound foolish.
I used to admire a married friend of mine. She got married shortly after college then got pregnant a few weeks later.
Her husband used to pay her monthly allowances while she was a home-stay mom. I thought her life was good, at least it was better than mine since I was unemployed at that time.
After her third baby, her husband set up a boutique for her. She would travel to Dubai to restock whenever she’s running low. Her husband supported her business until she started earning more than he had expected.
He would complain that she was home late and that he didn’t like that their nanny and maid managed their home.
Long story short, my friend recognized where her husband’s fears came from, so she booked them a vacation to a cozy Island and assured him she was still the loyal and trusted wife he had known since day one.
After their trip, her husband became more supportive and understanding.
A man who respects may have fears of losing you at some point as you succeed in your career, but he will be open to discussing his fears and worries because he trusts you.
His respect for you comes first
Whatever he’s going to do, he will consider how that will affect you. How that will make you feel.
He will love when you share your opinion. He will ask of your thoughts about topics you’re interested in because he loves to hear your passion and genuinely respects what you have to say.
When he asks how you are, it’s because he genuinely wants to know the answer.
He’s constantly trying to understand you. He asks questions, listens, and opens up about himself.
When you meet a guy who isn’t afraid to take on your burden as his, who is ready to tear down he’s ego to build a commitment with you, that’s a guy worth keeping.
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