Men Are Not Obsessing Over Women Anymore, and Women Are Not Having It
Don’t chase him. Do these instead to get him chasing you.
Nowadays, men are acting woke. They have withdrawn into their caves. They are more self-absorbed now than before. When it comes to the chase game, men want to be the price. They want women chasing them when it should be the other way around. They expect women to buy them chocolates and flowers, open doors for them, give up their seats on a bus, and take off their trench coats. They want women to set up dates and pay the bills. Looking back decades ago, when a man loves a woman, he will obsess over her. He won’t stop thinking about her, and he will do foolish things to show how much he cares about her.
These men will go to great lengths to prove their love is genuine. That is not the case anymore.
It seems men have given up interest in chasing women. They are tired of the rejection — constantly sacrificing their safety on the altar of love. They are sick of putting in efforts that won’t be reciprocated. Well, women are not staying still.
Guys, we don’t want to swap places. We enjoy the thrill of being wooed. It melts how hearts when you spend hours professing your love to us. We are not buying all these woke sermons men are spreading all over the media. And since men won’t return to being the chasers, women are doing things to drive men nuts about them.
What to do when he’s not putting in effort
So if your crush or significant other won’t obsess over you, here are some things you should do to get him hooked.
But first, you must learn to turn off your tough masculine aura when the moment calls for you to operate from your zone of femininity.
Femininity is crucial in attracting and keeping a man. And also, for a successful relationship.
Don’t make the first move
A move is an interesting signal.
That includes approaching them at work or social gatherings, sending the first text after being matched on a dating app, friending or following men on social media, sending a dm to a male colleague, and asking for his phone number to ask him out.
You want him to see you as worthy of being chased. Wait for him to approach you, this way you don’t guess if he’s interested or not.
Of course, you can approach him without any romantic intentions, and he may turn out to be interested in you.
But as a rule of thumb, do not make the first move because most times, it may turn out that the man is not interested in you or he’s turned off by the first move.
Show your sexual prowess
Nothing gets a man’s attention more than a woman who is confident — walks the street with her back straight, her chin up, and with a strong sex appeal.
Flirting is one key trait of feminine energy women use to attract men.
The way you walk, the way you sit, how you smell, your voice pitch, how you kiss, and every movement plays into your sexual prowess.
A hushed voice, hand gesturing, and body contact help express your interest in a man.
When you feel sexier and more confident, men pick up on that and find you more attractive.
Let him lead
Men want to win your heart, and they only appreciate what they have to work for. Not being a doormat means having boundaries and standards that you hold firm to.
If he does or says something that doesn’t respect your boundaries, be prepared to express how you feel in a feminine way.
You express yourself using feminine statements, starting with ‘I feel,’ ‘I felt,’ and ‘I’m feeling.’
Never start with ‘you did,’ or ‘you made me,’ which are both accusatory starters and usually make a masculine man lose interest in you.
A masculine-energy man will respect your feelings and apologize for his rudeness if you show him you value yourself and your time. He will also adjust his behavior for you because he wants to make you happy.
Listen more and talk less
People are attracted to those who seem mysterious, so cultivate an air of mystery.
Be vague about what you’re doing or saying.
Don’t walk around like an open book waiting to share every single thing about you — your life, your past life, and most importantly, your intentions.
Reveal things about you gradually after the man has proven himself to you that he deserves to know more about you.
If you have nothing to say, keep quiet. Let him fill the silence, and don’t feel pressured to prove yourself or move the conversation forward.
If you really want to do something, give him a smile and a little eye contact.
Make him jealous
I already know you’re cringy about this one. But hold your grip.
I’ve been using this trick to get men obsessed and I can assure you that jealousy is the purest love magnet for a masculine man.
If he sees you are paying attention to other men, he will feel insecure because he knows his position is being threatened. He knows he doesn’t own you, and will do anything to make you choose him over others.
If you don’t know how to make him jealous, start by giggling at your text messages whenever he’s around you. My best tool is hanging out with your female gangs.
Guys don’t say it, but they hate it when their girlfriends spend time with their gang. They know women reveal a lot to each other and since they are not there to defend themselves, it annoys them as hell.
However, avoid using any deceitful strategy to convince a man to fall for you, and don’t accept last-minute dates. This will keep him wondering why you aren’t falling hard for him.
If you learn to use your arsenals to your advantage, you will see a huge shift in the type of men you attract and how far they will go to be with you.
And if you’re already in a relationship, you can start using these strategies to bring your man closer and deepen your connection and attraction.
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