Why Your Hunky Boyfriend Isn’t Putting a Ring on It
Put your hats on because their reasons are mind blowing.
When we think about the A-List hotties, Brad Pitt or Liam Hemsworth come to mind. But being handsome is not all about having a cute face. It’s also about a man’s body and appeal.
We are easily attracted to beauty. Physical appearance comes first place before we consider love. We imagine falling in love to be magical, mystical, and mostly out of our control, but our handsome men are shying away from love and commitment.
If you’re tired of receiving mixed signals from your man? If his cold behavior leaves you constantly wondering whether he’s serious about your relationship?
Or perhaps you feel like you’re wasting your life on a man who isn’t ready to surrender his heart to you, then it’s time you got closure.
Many men will hide their true feelings for fear of being hurt. This article will help you understand why your partner is cold on commitment.
1. They can’t meet women’s high expectations.
Men are under pressure to meet women’s demands on good looks — masculine builds and character. And some women criticize their partners when they fall short of their expectations. It’s a different thing to expect your partner to take care of themselves, but criticizing them when they don’t fit your imaginary figure is unacceptable.
2. They have very low self-esteem.
Cultural values, financial and social status play a role in how we look and how our body works, which can undermine our confidence. Low self-esteem impacts our mental health and sexual chemistry. For men, a crisis in confidence can make them reluctant to deal with emotional issues, like being committed in relationships.
3. They don’t like the burden of spending on extracurricular activities.
Women like it when their men shower all expenses on fun dates — cool outings and surprise events. But as your relationship becomes solid, it’s not fair to always expect your man to be responsible for making dating arrangements and handling incurred expenses to keep the relationship fresh. Women may ignore these little expenses, but they add up over time, and even our reliable, handsome dudes notice when their monthly bills run high.
4. They are haunted by their past.
The past always does a number on us. Unfortunately, our hotties aren’t invincible, and they are not superhuman. Men are vulnerable creatures too. They experience trauma from childhood that lingers through adulthood. Some past experience can make men irrespective of love.
5. They want their options open.
Of course, we all like our freedom. Some of us like to be free to date anyone we want without commitment. And that’s because being in a committed relationship comes with extra responsibilities. You will be obliged to be responsible for your partner’s emotional well-being and that of her family. The pressure to man up and take charge in a relationship can put men off from falling head over heels with a woman, even if he already likes her.
6. They don’t know how to deal with complexity.
This may sound offensive, but most men are lazy, even the cute ones. You will assume with the neatly tailored suits, shaved beards, and charming smile; they would know how to keep a tidy home. Sadly not. If they can’t keep their life organized, how do you expect them to keep a relationship together? This is why most men don’t fall in love, because that will mean learning to do things they hate- cleaning up their mess.
7. They are afraid of being dominated.
When you fall in love, you basically hand over control. Your heart automatically belongs to your partner. That means you let her have a say in your lifestyle. Handsome men think it’s too much power to let go of. Allowing a woman in their hearts can be seen as a weakness because it requires surrendering and submitting to their partner’s desires and choices to make the relationship work.
8. They feel they can’t satisfy their women sexually.
Sexuality can be different for men and women. Some women assume men ought to have sexual prowess more than women. As such, they make plans for sex- where they want it, the positions they want it, and how many times a week it should be. But when life gets in the way and things die down in the bedroom, women get disappointed and complain.
9. They can’t let go of their self-image.
One of the reasons men are afraid to fall in love is because they hold a strong belief system centered around stereotype. They feel the need to fit in and measure up — the need to be superior to others and be self-reliant and independent. And the need to be more powerful than others. Men are raised to suppress anything feminine or show vulnerability. Since love makes one vulnerable, they don’t want to be seen as “sissies.”
10. They have no luck finding women who complement them.
When a man is honest and trustworthy, he instantly becomes more appealing and desirable to a woman. If he’s dependable, truthful, genuine, and speaks from the heart, he’s a guy who is worth pursuing, as people can take him at his word. But what happens when women don’t meet the same standards they want from men? Breakup becomes inevitable, and that scares most men from falling in love.
Fear of intimacy is a big problem in a relationship. If your boyfriend can’t stop being afraid of falling in love with you, don’t take it personal. Give him some space to figure himself out.
Eventually, he will grow up to face his fear and love you. But until he does, do what makes you happy. Focus on building yourself, and don’t let his fears overtake your life, goals, passion, or dreams of the future.
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