Guys, You’ve Got It All Wrong! ‘Who She Likes’ and ‘What She Wants’ Isn’t the Same
The most charming guys have these qualities and women can’t resist them.
My guy friend thinks every woman likes men with hot bodies and husky voices.
He is 24, but has never had sex. As a hormone gushing male in a society full of desirable women, he blames his involuntary virginity on his not-so-hot body. I fell off my chair laughing at his narrowed mindset.
It’s funny how guys confuse ‘what a woman wants’ with ‘what she needs.’
I shouldn’t be laughing, though, because the guy is really frustrated about missing his hits on women. So he asked me to hook him up with one of my hooker friends.
I like to help him, but I felt he needed an education in the dating department more than sex with a sensational woman.
The reason I think he needs more of an education is that first-time sex experience usually stick with you.
Whether he’s going to have sex with a hooker or not, isn’t the problem. His attitude before the deed is what concerns me.
And there is no assurance he’s the perception of women will change if no one tells him how wrong he is.
So how do you make a woman fall in love with you instantly?
Every woman has her weakness.
The problem is most guys don’t try to find out what our individual weakness is but go on to attribute a generalized opinion on what women should like.
You can be the ugliest guy in the room but still, get the prettiest girl if you know your way around a woman’s head. There are certain responses that throw her off and you can use her signals to make your move.
But, hold on!
We are not here to talk about how to toast a woman. We want to talk about the qualities you can enhance in yourself, to win a woman’s heart forever.
Because this is where a woman captures her interest when a guy walks up to her and asks her out.
Yes, we do care about your body, but if these four traits aren’t in the mix, we bail halfway through the conversation.
So if you are like my frustrated friend, who is looking to be a prince charmer, first you have to become every girls weakness to get your girl, and here are the four personalities make you unquestionably attractive.
Win her heart with compassion
If you want to impress a woman, you have to learn how to show more compassion.
A man who is compassionate and empathetic is one step ahead when it comes to attracting women.
Women want a man they can open up to, whether it’s about a bad day at the office or in regard to their deepest hopes and fears.
Having empathy means that you’re able to understand another person’s point of view and can sympathize with what they are going through.
Women are highly interested in a man who has the ability and desire to show care and concern for others, too.
Be curious, not nosey
Get over yourself smarty pants.
I know you want to impress her, but turning the conversation to yourself is boring.
When you are too engrossed in speaking about yourself, it feels as if you want to prove you are better than her. And this line of conversation presents you as an egoistic person who cares only about himself.
If you want to be every woman’s prince charmer, you have to shift from self-glorification to curiosity.
Be curious about her. Wonder why she dressed the way she did and compliment her choice. Or why she acts in a certain way and what you like about her attitude.
But don’t act like a detective on an investigation. You are on a date. Be romantic and show your interest in her life- ask about the places she’s visited, her favorite food, sports, career, etc.
Show her you’re confidence
Girls don’t like guys who are doormats. We like men who portray confidence in themselves because those ones know what they want in a woman and take charge to lead in the relationship.
Self-confidence is a trait most guys ignore but yet it is what makes them attractive.
Being confident is not just liking yourself but generally affording yourself love, value, dignity, and respect, too.
You have to believe you have the capacity to make a difference in her life and the world around you. You can show your confidence by how you dress, how to speak, and the way you compliment her.
She won’t resist your charisma
I like charismatic guys. They turn me on. How you choose to flaunt what you’ve got can vastly affect others’ first impressions of you.
Charisma is an aura, an invisible, silent force that draws people to you like a magnet.
You don’t need a prerequisite to be charismatic. It doesn’t matter how good-looking you are, how well you dress, or how much money you have.
Guys often fake ‘nice guy’ appearance think it’s what women fall for. That is so myopic.
Being charismatic’s means you know who you are and you are not afraid to show your emotions.
If she says something that excites you, allow yourself to feel and sound excited. Use facial expressions and body language where appropriate.
A lot of people think you need to be ridiculously cool to be charismatic, so they close off their emotions.
Women feel safe around guys who relate to their emotions. She will feel compelled to trust you if you show her you are not superhuman, that you feel as much as she does.
There you have it guys.
Most women don’t care about your physique but they sure as hell cares about your personality.
Women are typically attracted to “a man’s man,” a guy who thinks for himself, makes his own decisions and follows through on what he says.
We are attracted to guys who can be themselves, don’t strive to be like anyone else, and are comfortable in their own skin.
Because at the end of the day, it’s your personality that makes us feel safe, loved, and respected, not six-muscle tight ab and cute face as you think.
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