Losing Weight Equals Losing Friends

Because they get jealous to see you glow.

Now I’ve never experienced losing weight because growing up I always had a slim body, so I’m not speaking from my experience, but I know what’s it like to lose people after you start to glow and getting on the right track in life. Long time ago I saw a video of Oprah back in 1988 where she talks about how she lost 67 pounds from being on a liquid diet called Optifast. As I remember, she mentioned how she also lost friends after succeeding in losing weight.

She is not the only one who went through that. It looks like plenty of people start losing friends too after losing weight. Maybe that’s why it can be a challenge to have friends with a slim body like me. The only time “friends” commented on my body was degrading comments such as “You’re so skinny like a skeleton.” and “You need to eat more your legs are thin its bony.”

I never had anyone compliment me with positive words such as “You’re in great shape! That’s inspiring.”

I can’t help fathom how you ditch someone off, because they started to achieve their success. I can’t understand why you’d ditch someone because they finally achieved a slim, fit body.

You shouldn’t be jealous of your friend losing weight. You should find that inspiring and motivating. You should let your friend know that you’re inspired by her /him and tell her/him that you want to go on the same journey to lose weight because of her/him. That’s what friends are for. To inspire and motivate each other.

Sadly, when you lose weight, you start to see the real colors of your friends. You start to see their reaction towards you being successful.

I can’t imagine how painful it is to achieve your success of losing weight and then realize your friends don’t want to celebrate your success with you. I know it can be painful to see the true colors of your friends after telling them you’ve finally lost weight.

I would say that’s for the best. It’s better to have fake friends ditch you off because of your success than to stay with them and be a part of their miserable company for a long time. To me, you haven’t lost friends. You just realized who they really are.

Some “friends” want you to stay on the same miserable path in life like them. They don’t want to see you glow and grow. If you start to glow and grow, you’re a threat to them.

They get threatened to see you become more sociable and confident after losing weight. It makes them feel bad about their own body and weight (which they shouldn’t) and it’s hard for them to be happy for your achievements. Because they’re jealous.

It’s a threat for them, once they see you’re no longer as miserable as them.

I understand if a friend distances themselves from you if you only talk about yourself and how cool you are for losing weight. You keep bragging about yourself without wanting to change the topic about something else or show interest in your friend like the friend showed interest in you. It makes you look self-centered and arrogant.

They’ve congratulated you on achieving your ideal weight for a while, but they get tired if you keep talking about yourself only. They would distance themselves from you if you only think about yourself.

But a friend ditching you as a friend, because you’re emotionally happy about losing weight after hard work? That’s not your friend. That’s a jealous, fake friend who can’t stand to see you succeed.

Being jealous of other people’s beautiful body is very common in this world today. We live in a world where appearance is the first thing people focus on when they meet a person. We live in a modern world, where we’re visual human beings, who quickly judge someone from their outer appearance first.

Women are jealous of each other and like to compete with each other.

From my experience, it’s mainly women who body shame each other, because they’re jealous beings who competes with other women’s appearances.

It was only women in my life who skinny shamed me. Never men.

The reason why a “friend” stayed with you before you lost weight is they like to see you being miserable to make them feel better about themselves. They like to see you suffer and it’s a joy for them. Because it makes them feel good about themselves. Once you stopped being miserable, they started to feel bad about themselves. They don’t care how much hard effort you’ve put into losing weight, they only care about themselves. If you glow and grow, they become jealous. They feel competitive against you.

They would make excuses to not hang out with you. They would would make you think that you’re the issue who never has time for them. Don’t believe them. They are just making excuses to not hang out with you, because of your new, beautiful body. They try to make YOU feel bad because they feel bad about their own bodies.

You may find out its only strangers who are happy for your success, because you’re inspiring them to become better, too.

The straight honest truth is that they’re completely jealous of your new, beautiful, healthy body. They could put the hard effort into having a beautiful body too, but instead, they hate you for looking beautiful.

They are mad at you for not being as unsuccessful as them.

You expect your friends (and family) to congratulate you with high energy. Nope, their reaction is surprisingly not what you expected it to be. It’s as if they’re being reminded of their own failure and misery. They start to act differently towards you. You see a different side of them that you haven’t seen before, even if you’ve been friends with them for 10 years.

They cringe to see you change for the better.

This doesn’t only happen for people losing friends after weight loss, though it’s very common for them. People who generally gain success in life starts to lose friends, too. People going from skinny to fit/curvy fit/strong/ etc lose friends too. Being successful means you’ll lose friends. Even those you thought you could count on. It’s a real shock that can make you feel hurt for being betrayed. Be grateful that they’ve revealed who they really are. They are not your real friends because they’re only with you to benefit from you.

Take it as a blessing to remove bad friends from your life.

They were never your friends, to begin with, if they get jealous of your success in losing weight. Once you succeed, their real snake form comes out. Even if you look good on your new body, they will pick out a little thing from your new body, to make you feel miserable like you did before.

Suddenly, you’re the criminal who broke the law by losing weight. Everyone in your life hates on you for being not being miserable like them anymore. That overweight “friend” gets boiled inside when you’re being hit by men/women now. They wish to be in your spot so badly.

It’s not fair to be treated differently after losing weight, that’s for sure. You should never be hated for losing your weight just like you should never be bullied for being overweight your whole life. That’s not what this topic is about.

The problem is not you losing weight and your friend being in the same unhealthy body. The problem is the attitude towards the success of your friend. The problem is being jealous of your friend’s success.

After losing weight, you stayed the same person as before. You’re still the same friend as before, but your friend didn’t stay the same. Because they never revealed who they really are, to begin with. You stayed the same as you still invite them out and ask into their life, but their behavior has changed for the worst. Because they’re jealous of you.

You’re not responsible for their misery and failure. Most people are very resisted with changes in their life. They want to stay in the same place forever without getting out of their comfort zone to work hard getting their goals. They prefer to stay in their miserable zone, and when you remind them of their misery by being a newer version of you, they get jealous.

Real friends congratulate each other for their success.

Have you lost friends after losing weight? I would like to hear your story.

Thank you for reading my article! My pen name is Suzan Dalia and I’m a writer. My goal is to write articles that her readers can think and learn from. I write anything like essays, health, wellness, lifestyle, personal stories. I share my wisdom, inspirations, and motivational content to lift people’s souls.

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