Letting Go of Uncertainty
Whether it is an emerging deadline for a project or the overarching fears of the world of today, uncertainty is a big part of our lives, especially when we’re unsure of how things will ultimately turn out.
They say hindsight is 20–20. Unfortunately, we can’t go on a time machine and see how we did. What we can do is reflect on our past and think to ourselves:
If I survived something bad in the past, I can do the same again.
Feeling uncertain can provoke elevated levels of anxiety. Small amounts of anxiety can be pretty normal. For example, if you saw a proverbial train heading straight for you, anxiety will allow you to react on time, and you will jump out of harm’s way.
If there was no anxiety, we would not care about the consequences of our actions, regardless of the situation, such as an upcoming presentation or interview. We need to care about things sometimes, but when we care too much too quickly, then it becomes a problem.
With anxiety, we sometimes fear hundreds of imagined permutations, both plausible and implausible. This becomes a strangely closed cycle, where your ideas will start to become increasingly bizarre, without you realizing it.
It’s okay to be worried about a test, but it’s not okay to spend an entire month ruminating over all the things that could happen because you are convinced that you will totally fail. You’re now self-sabotaging yourself before you even started.
Plus, the worst that could happen with a test — is that you will do badly. Your life isn’t over because of a test score. You still have bills to pay, future tasks to work on, and many more. In fact, there have likely been times in your past where you failed, learned from it, and moved on. It was a big deal at the time, but now, it seems inconsequential.
Either way, we’re not a big fan of unpredictability. We like to be in control and need something to ground ourselves into reality. When we’re uncertain of the future, we end up grounding ourselves towards specific goals, and we build easy-to-manage sub-goals to get to that point.
Even if the future is uncertain, we can always fall back on our goals and dreams, and allow the sub-goals to colour in, or infer the uncertainties in the road ahead.
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