Avoiding Depression — Can We Please Talk About Your Problems?

We all love you | You are not lonely | Your life is so precious

Firstly, I am neither a psychologist nor an expert in this field. But, this worked for me to bring me back to life from any depressing feelings. Also, I saw some depressed in close quarters and counseled some which always brought in some positive outcomes. In this article, I am not asking you to approach me if you are in depression. But reading this will encourage you and bring in a soothing impact.

If you want to know whether what you are suffering is depression or not, this is an excellent article by Adrian Drew to know all about depression.

No ! Whatever your reason is, it’s not worth spending your life rotting in depression.

I am utmost sensitive of your every reason and I understand that your problem is special. I empathize with you in your situation. Believe me, I know your problem even without hearing from you. But you got to hear me out in this article. And, remember that I am here because I love you and not because I am trying to get your follower-ship or money (all the money metered out of this article will be donated).

I do not expect anything from you. I am just here to help you, if I can, and if you allow me to.

What might be your present serious problem? Let me see if I can read your mind, my dear reader:

• You lost something really special, valuable and you will never gain it back
• You have been suffering from a problem and it will never be normal again
• Your mind is playing tricks and you are unable to steer yourself out of it
• You made a habit and are unable to come out of it

Apart from this, I do not see any other reasons for your thinking in this direction.

First of all, I understand your deep pain. Your problems may fall into one of these categories. Please feel free to go to your category and walk with me on your problems in detail, and let’s talk:

Problem 1 — Lost Relationship

Some of you might have lost your loved ones — your partner, parent, or even a just-born son/daughter. I can empathize with you on the sudden spurt of pain mentally and how big a loss it is.

It is as good as a part of us dying, making us weak and low — I understand. But remember something — this is how God designed the world to be. I am sure you will find your love somewhere, you just need to wait. I am not asking you to expect from someone you see or meet and keep searching for a replacement.

Another being comes in and sits in that vacuum created by our loved ones. You need to be very cautious and selective. I have seen many who break up with one and their mind keeps looking for a replacement unknowingly. They would like to cling to someone again as they are unable to bear the loneliness. But the replacement should be a deserved one, else disasters are bound to happen. So, wait and go slow please !

But let me tell you an open secret — “Nothing is permanent”. Even your pain, your loss is not permanent. In the same way, love is not permanent ! Love is not permanent, if it’s only between you and the person whom you lost.

Love is only permanent if it is selfless! Love is permanent if there are no strings attached to loving the other person.

Why not that deep pain inside you translate into love for the whole world ! I just want you to think very big for a moment. Why should you not love everyone you come across? I am not asking you to trust people and get cheated. I am not asking you to love and be loved. Let everyone hate you or love you in return, how does it matter.

If you love everyone, then where is the question of loneliness? Go out to a park and become one with the nature — hug the trees, kiss the grass and feel the breeze ! Still you feel lonely? Go to a busy street, and feel your love for everyone who is racing in their busy lives. You still think you are alone? Let me share a surprising fact with you — There are 39 million microbes that call our body home. You are never alone dear !

Love everyone. Let the unconditioned love flow out as a river flows throughout the country. Many make use of it and the river doesn’t expect anything in return.

Problem 2 — Lost Property, Position or Reputation

2.1 Property Loss: Maybe you lost a property due to some reason — lost in market fluctuations, lost due to negligence, you gambled and lost, lost by bad luck or someone cheated you. Can you rebuild it? You cannot? — Think again. There is no full-stop to our abilities. Never say Quit!

Okay, I understand that you can never rebuild it in the same arena. What about other areas? Why not try something less risky to rebuild at least to some level? You being alive is your greatest asset. Do whatever is in your hands and rest leave it to God.

2.2 Career Loss or Reputation Loss: You lost your career position due to a red mark on your profile. You lost your position/job or an important step in your career — because of bureaucracy, nepotism or favouritism. You deserve the best I know! Maybe you lost it even after traveling in the right direction. But tell me something, isn’t there another way? Are all your doors closed, Sure? I leave it to you, to rethink !

You have so many freelancing sites making a fortune monthly. People are leaving jobs and getting into freelancing. If you are capable, go ahead and venture in — make it successful. If you are not capable, then dude let’s make ourself capable first!

Problem 3 — Suffering with an ailment / bad habit that will kill you or you lost a limb or an organ in your body

Let’s divide this into two:

3.1 Suffering an ailment/bad habit, which will kill you: Has the doctor diagnosed that the ailment has no cure? Understand that Doctors are no Gods. Sometimes, if we are lucky, their verdict can go utterly wrong. My friend’s grandmother was diagnosed with an ailment, for which they said — if the operation is not conducted within a week, she will not live. My friend’s family was poor and they cannot afford this complicated operation, and given their age — they couldn’t take the risk. His grandmother lived for another 20 years happily after that. Was the doctor corrupt — no he was a very respectable one, it was just that his decision went utterly wrong. What if this happens in your case ?

Are you suffering because of a bad habit? Well, you know it’s a bad habit. You know ways to come out of it.

If a habit can be made by our mind, our same mind can remove it as our habit

Introspect! You know where you are going wrong. My prayers are with you, to provide you the strength to fight against it. It’s a grave situation and it’s a war between you and your habit. One day you will win it dear. It’s all in your hands!

3.2 You lost a limb or an organ in your body: It’s not easy to lead a life of a physically handicapped person and I clearly understand it. But I did hear many people say that — disabled people are gifted by God a better sensory capability through other senses. Technology is improving in many ways — automatic image recognition, voice assistants, speech to text recognition and research is underway for AI supporting people with Alzheimer’s disease. People with disability are viewed by employers to boost staff morale, enhance sense of team work, take less sick leaves etc. There are many examples in and around where people with disability have done wonders. Stay strong as you are, and keep showing people around that disability is for the mind but not in imagination, thought, confidence or action! Way to go, folks.

Problem 4— Psychological ailment

You have been prey to mental illness or a psychological ailment. I understand this is no joke for you or the people around you. But remember, technology and medicine are improving day by day. One by one ailment are being treatable as we move forward or at least the intensity is being reduced. Be good in your lifestyle, stay happy on your mind and never lose hope. We all love you guys! We care for you! Hang on there rigid and with all your strength, world is improving and there are people who are striving for you on the other end.

Conclusion

GATAM GATAM ! — Past is past. Act based on past learnings but do not dwell in the past.

If you have earned it and lost it, you know how to regain it back. If you have lost something ancestral or gifted to you, you know how to strive to get it back. If you have lost something, which can never be regained — learn to live with it and keep moving forward. But never become a slave of your emotions.

Work in this direction — transform your pain into an asset and keep moving forward! Think for it, make it your world and strive for it! If you put your everything into it, all the forces in the world will fall in line to make it work for you and make this world a better place to live in.

Give your best and hang on! Things will get better gradually. We pray for you and We love you!

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