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p id="db15">For example, my husband put a stop to my way of trying to get our son to eat his meals and stop being fussy because it just wasn’t working. After a certain period of time of him implementing his own way of doing things, which was firmer and stricter than I would’ve liked, I started to see some changes in my son and how he would sit down to eat the entire plate of food in front of him.</p><p id="21fa">Now, Andriel looks forward to sitting down next to his parents and mostly eats his entire plate, including the veg. My husband was right, and I was wrong — at least for a period of time (because no one knows the future and kids are unpredictable!)</p><p id="60fc"><b>But my husband didn’t say “I told you so”.</b> He didn’t discredit me as a mother, even if I did question my own decision making. He understood that being wrong is not a bad thing, and also, that <b>I wasn’t “wrong” to begin with</b>. Some things work, and some things don’t work for our children. And some things work for a while and then need to be changed. And that’s OK.</p><p id="4e9d">Parenting, while continuous, is flexible.</p><p id="ec93"><a href="https://readmedium.com/how-to-successfully-wing-it-d39222a3d808">And we are all winging it.</a></p><h1 id="101b">Lowering Expectations Is Empowering</h1><p id="cde5">I have this constant need as the main caregiver to simply know what to do and get it right — especially after all the research I do on many aspects of parenting. But the thing is, it is only because of my own expectations that we get upset when things don’t work out. We paint a picture of how things will go, and when they don’t go our way, we self-criticise.</p><p id="3b33">Recently, I have been struggling to make the decision of whether to send our son to daycare. Because of the recent lockdowns, I feared that he wasn’t getting enough social stimulation and he needed to spend more time with other children. We decided to send him to a local nursery two mornings a week.</p><p id="fec8">But that wasn’t my only reason for wanting to send him there. I also needed more time to really step up my game as a writer, begin marketing myself and really work on my book.</p><p id="fa4a">But I’m tired of questioning myself, and <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-to-get-what-you-want-1973fd008ecb">since taking the road to self-care</a> in order to be a better mother and person, I decided that my reasons were as good as any to send Andriel to daycare at the age of 27 months.</p><p id="d466">It has only been a few weeks, and so far, he does not look forward to going there. I feel in fact he has become shier and clingier than usual. This makes me question once again whether what I am doing is right, and whether the caregivers at the centre are doing right by my son.</p><p id="93a8"><b>I’m ready to assign blame and judge because this is what we do as people growing up in today’s society.</b></p><div id="5778" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/learning-to-enjoy-motherhood-guilt-free-966e7fa38d58"> <div> <div> <h2>Learning To Enjoy Motherhood Guilt-Free</h2> <div><h3>undefined</h3></div> <div><p>undefined</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*o44YftcYVXjSo_va)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="d0f8">But I have to remember that it will solve nothing. I need to readjust my expectations and remind myself that everything takes time and that obstacles are all part of the journey, including my son’s settling in time at daycare.</p><p id="1231">He will get there because he is a strong and sociable little boy. He will be fine because he will still have an abundance of love at home waiting for him when he gets back and throughout the rest of the week. But I cannot decide how and when he will be running happily into nursery in the mornings — that’s a picture I need to let go of, but treasure if it happens.</p><p id="b15a">Sometimes, it

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is our expectations that need change, not our circumstances. We have to be OK with hiccups in parenting. Rather, we need not see them as hiccups, but as part of the process of bringing up children. After all, we are only human.</p><h1 id="7806">Takeaway</h1><figure id="facf"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*0ZLtDIAU40LQtOeo"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@drezart?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Andrae Ricketts</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="f3a0">I believe in a mother’s instinct, but I don’t believe in the expectation that it will be there when we need it. If that expectation isn’t met then we will be more than ready to assign blame, and it won’t help us grow as parents or as individuals. In fact, I think that the constant need to meet these expectations is what causes us to feel like a failure at some point in our lives.</p><p id="b5d4">Instead, I recommend a more supportive plan, where advice can be handed out without coming across as all-knowing and dismissive of the parent. We can learn not to feel offended at others’ suggestions in the same way that others can learn not to be judgemental. I advise that others do get involved in taking care of kids, in a non-judgemental “I-told-you-so” way when the main interest is that of the child — not of themselves.</p><p id="1680">Most importantly, we have to learn that <b>mistakes are normal</b>, and most of the time, they’re not life-threatening. We are all human after all, and that makes us susceptible to countless errors over the course of time. In modern parenting, most parents are learning not to scold their kids when they make mistakes because it’s detrimental to their confidence building. <i>We should take that same approach with ourselves and other adults.</i></p><p id="93d5">So, let’s cut ourselves a little slack, and lower that pressure to get it right. Nobody is born a parent with experience.</p><div id="2a67" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/redefining-the-concept-of-happiness-16e5524c2b2d"> <div> <div> <h2>Redefining the Concept of Happiness</h2> <div><h3>How I’m learning about fulfilment from my toddler son.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*6xDaJcMnjn9r6Bow)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="88c4" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/my-battle-with-anger-as-a-parent-24e7837c5fac"> <div> <div> <h2>My Battle With Anger As a Parent</h2> <div><h3>Ensuring our son feels loved regardless of our feelings.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*Me4slkvdZGGCbsbjqQ_7bg.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="c95b" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/my-husband-is-a-damn-good-father-de20d1ef2217"> <div> <div> <h2>My Husband Is A Damn Good Father</h2> <div><h3>And he deserves praise.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*Oqw-YSI_IVOLn-k0)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="7dcc"><b><i>Sylvia Emokpae, thinker and philosopher, is passionate about self-love, relationships, and motherhood. <a href="https://medium.com/@sylviaemokpae">See more work like this</a>.</i></b></p><p id="f728"><a href="https://twitter.com/SylviaEmokpae"><b>Follow her</b></a><b> on Twitter.</b></p></article></body>

Jerry Carrigan’s drum discography with Elvis Presley

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Compiled for the first time is the ultimate Jerry Carrigan discography reinforcing RCA Victor’s artist of the century Elvis Presley. Third on the list of Elvis’s most prolific studio drummers behind D.J. Fontana and runner-up Buddy Harman, the late, founding Muscle Shoals session cat amassed 76 Elvis recordings among his extensive oeuvre that were predominantly tracked in Nashville in the early 1970s. Eight were Top 40 Billboard pop hits — “I’ve Lost You,” a winning cover of Dusty Springfield’s “You Don’t Have to Say You Love Me,” “I Really Don’t Want to Know,” “Where Did They Go Lord,” “Until It’s Time for You to Go,” “Burning Love” [overdubbed percussion and cowbell], “I’ve Got a Thing About You Baby,” and the Jerry Reed-steered, electric remake of “Guitar Man.” YouTube streaming links accompany each performance. With research assistance from Keith Flynn’s Elvis Presley Recording Sessions website, cataloging the loose, fat-sounding snare drummer’s Elvis tenure was precipitated by his enigmatic death at age 75 from diminished lung capacity on June 22, 2019. From a 25-year Nashville career activated by Warner Mack’s honky-tonker “The Bridge Washed Out” and Charlie Rich’s soul stirrer “Mohair Sam” in 1965 to touring internationally for a decade with John Denver, one marvels — how on Earth did Carrigan score any shut eye?

Jerry Carrigan’s Ultimate Elvis Discography by Chronological Release Date

  1. “I’ve Lost You” [No. 32 POP, No. 57 C&W July 1970; The Other Sides — Elvis Worldwide Gold Award Hits Vol. 2]
  2. “Patch It Up” [B-side only October 1970 of “You Don’t Have to Say You Love Me”]
  3. “Twenty Days and Twenty Nights” [That’s the Way It Is, November 1970]
  4. “How the Web Was Woven” [Elvis: That’s the Way It Is]
  5. “Mary in the Morning” [Elvis: That’s the Way It Is]
  6. “You Don’t Have to Say You Love Me” [No. 11 POP, No. 55 C&W; Elvis: That’s the Way It Is]
  7. “Just Pretend” [Elvis: That’s the Way It Is]
  8. “Stranger in the Crowd” [Elvis: That’s the Way It Is]
  9. “The Next Step Is Love” [B-side of “I’ve Lost You;” Elvis: That’s the Way It Is]
  10. “Bridge Over Troubled Water” [Elvis: That’s the Way It Is]
  11. “Snowbird” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old), January 1971]
  12. “Tomorrow Never Comes” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  13. “Little Cabin on the Hill” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  14. “Whole Lotta Shakin’ Goin’ On” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  15. “Funny How Time Slips Away” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  16. “I Really Don’t Want to Know” [No. 21 POP, No. 23 C&W, Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  17. “There Goes My Everything” [No. 9 C&W; B-side of “I Really Don’t Want to Know;” Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  18. “It’s Your Baby, You Rock It” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  19. “The Fool” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  20. “Faded Love” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  21. “I Washed My Hands in Muddy Water” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  22. “Make the World Go Away” [Elvis Country (I’m 10,000 Years Old)]
  23. “Where Did They Go, Lord?” [No. 33 POP February 1971, He Walks Beside Me]
  24. “Rags to Riches” [B-side only of “Where Did They Go, Lord?”]
  25. “Love Letters” [Second version; Love Letters from Elvis, June 1971]
  26. “When I’m Over You” [Love Letters from Elvis]
  27. “If I Were You” [Love Letters from Elvis]
  28. “Got My Mojo Working / Keep Your Hands Off of It” [Love Letters from Elvis]
  29. “Heart of Rome” [B-side of “I’m Leavin’”; Love Letters from Elvis]
  30. “Only Believe” [B-side of “Life;” Love Letters from Elvis]
  31. “This Is Our Dance” [Love Letters from Elvis]
  32. “Cindy, Cindy” [Love Letters from Elvis]
  33. “I’ll Never Know” [Love Letters from Elvis]
  34. “It Ain’t No Big Thing (But It’s Growing)” [Love Letters from Elvis]
  35. “Life” [No. 53 POP, No. 34 C&W, Love Letters from Elvis]
  36. “The Sound of Your Cry” [B-side only September 1971 of “It’s Only Love”]
  37. “It Won’t Seem Like Christmas (Without You)” [Elvis Sings the Wonderful World of Christmas, October 1971]
  38. “If I Get Home on Christmas Day” [Elvis Sings the Wonderful World of Christmas]
  39. “Holly Leaves and Christmas Trees” [Elvis Sings the Wonderful World of Christmas]
  40. “Merry Christmas Baby” [A-side; Elvis Sings the Wonderful World of Christmas]
  41. “Silver Bells” [Elvis Sings the Wonderful World of Christmas]
  42. “Help Me Make It Through the Night” [Elvis Now, February 1972]
  43. “Miracle of the Rosary” [Elvis Now]
  44. “Put Your Hand in the Hand” [Elvis Now]
  45. “Until It’s Time for You to Go” [No. 40 POP, No. 68 C&W, Elvis Now]
  46. “Early Mornin’ Rain” [Elvis Now]
  47. “Sylvia” [Elvis Now]
  48. “Fools Rush In (Where Angels Fear to Tread)” [Elvis Now]
  49. “I Was Born About Ten Thousand Years Ago” [Elvis Now]
  50. “I’ve Got Confidence” [He Touched Me, April 1972]
  51. “Amazing Grace” [He Touched Me]
  52. “He Is My Everything” [He Touched Me]
  53. “Bosom of Abraham” [B-side of “He Touched Me;” He Touched Me]
  54. “Lead Me, Guide Me” [He Touched Me]
  55. “There Is No God But God” [He Touched Me]
  56. “I, John” [He Touched Me]
  57. “Reach Out to Jesus” [He Touched Me]
  58. “The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face” [B-side only April 1972 of “An American Trilogy”]
  59. “Burning Love” [No. 2 POP August 1972; Burning Love and Hits from his Movies: Volume 2]
  60. “Love Me, Love the Life I Lead” [Elvis aka “The Fool” Album, July 1973]
  61. “(That’s What You Get) For Lovin’ Me” [Elvis aka “The Fool” Album]
  62. “Padre” [Elvis aka “The Fool” Album]
  63. “Don’t Think Twice, It’s All Right” [Elvis aka “The Fool” Album]
  64. “Raised on Rock” [No. 41 POP; Raised on Rock / For Ol’ Times Sake, October 1973]
  65. “Find Out What’s Happening” [Raised on Rock / For Ol’ Times Sake]
  66. “Girl of Mine” [Raised on Rock / For Ol’ Times Sake]
  67. “For Ol’ Times Sake” [No. 42 C&W; B-side of “Raised on Rock;” Raised on Rock / For Ol’ Times Sake]
  68. “If You Don’t Come Back” [Raised on Rock / For Ol’ Times Sake]
  69. “Just a Little Bit” [Raised on Rock / For Ol’ Times Sake]
  70. “Three Corn Patches” [Raised on Rock / For Ol’ Times Sake]
  71. “Sweet Angeline” [Raised on Rock / For Ol’ Times Sake]
  72. “Take Good Care of Her” [No. 27 Adult Contemporary; B-side of “I’ve Got a Thing About You Baby;” Good Times, March 1974]
  73. “I’ve Got a Thing About You Baby” [No. 39 POP, No. 4 C&W, Good Times]
  74. “Guitar Man” [No. 28 POP, No. 1 C&W; electric remake from eponymous January 1981 album]
  75. “After Loving You” [remake from Guitar Man]
  76. “Clean Up Your Own Backyard” [remake from Guitar Man]
June 4, 1970, was the first day of a marathon Elvis Presley session at RCA Studio B in Nashville that yielded a staggering 35 masters including “You Don’t Have to Say You Love Me,” “I Really Don’t Want to Know,” “I’ve Lost You,” and other cuts destined for such albums as “Elvis: That’s the Way It Is,” “Elvis Country,” and the abysmal “Love Letters from Elvis.” On the bottom row are producer Felton Jarvis, rhythm guitarist Chip Young, harmonica-organ-marimba-rhythm guitarist Charlie McCoy, and Telecaster ace James Burton. Standing are keyboardist David Briggs, bassist Norbert Putnam, Elvis, engineer Al Pachucki, and drummer Jerry Carrigan. The Follow That Dream collectors’ label issued 20 alternate, undubbed session takes on “The Nashville Marathon” 2002 CD. Image Credit: Sony Music Entertainment / eBay

Carrigan’s Session Dates with Elvis

  • June 4–9, 1970, RCA Studio B, Nashville
  • September 22, 1970, RCA Studio B, Nashville
  • March 15, 1971, RCA Studio B, Nashville
  • May 15–21, 1971, RCA Studio B, Nashville, also featuring Kenneth Buttrey [Carrigan missed several days]
  • June 8–11, 1971, RCA Studio B, Nashville, also featuring Buttrey
  • April 27, 1972, RCA Studio B, Nashville, “Burning Love” percussion / cowbell overdub session; Ronnie Tutt did the main drumming
  • July 21–26, 1973, Stax Studios, Memphis, also featuring Tutt and Al Jackson, Jr.
  • October 16–17, 1980, Young ‘un Sound, Nashville, Guitar Man album overdub sessions
Drummer Jerry Carrigan, bassist Norbert Putnam, keyboardist Shane Keister, American Sound lead guitarist Reggie Young, Austrian singer Dennis Jale, Billy Swan, Mary Holladay, and younger sister Ginger Holladay bid a fond adieu on August 12, 2010, at the “Back in Memphis” benefit for Sweet Inspiration Myrna Smith held at the Michael D. Rose Theater, part of the University of Memphis. The original Muscle Shoals rhythm section were prolific Elvis session cats, Keister played on Elvis’s March 1976 tour and overdubbed Moog synthesizer on the Jungle Room sessions including “Moody Blue,” Young was the guitar linchpin of Elvis’s comeback 1969 sessions at Chips Moman’s American Sound as well as the July 1973 Stax recordings, Swan’s “I Can Help” composition was a smash number one which Elvis later tackled in March 1975 at RCA Studio C in Hollywood, and the Holladay Sisters sang on “Suspicious Minds” and “Rubberneckin’,” among loads more. Carrigan never returned to Memphis and played few, if any, gigs until his June 22, 2019, death at age 75. Photography by Jeremy Roberts
On August 12, 2010, Jerry Carrigan capably mans his Ludwig drum kit onstage at the Michael D. Rose Theater, part of the University of Memphis, during a poorly attended but unquestionably memorable benefit sponsored by the Elvis Unlimited Denmark fan club for founding Sweet Inspiration Myrna Smith, then in the final stages of kidney dialysis compounded by a stroke. Speaking to Modern Drummer correspondent Robyn Flans for their September 1986 issue, Carrigan reflected, “I first worked with Elvis Presley in 1970. What a thrill that was! The first thing we did was ‘I’ve Lost You’ [Carrigan was slightly off — ‘Twenty Days and Twenty Nights’ was in fact his debut recording with Elvis, tracked just a few hours prior to ‘I’ve Lost You’ on June 4, 1970, at RCA Studio B in Nashville during sessions for the MGM theatrical documentary ‘Elvis: That’s the Way It Is’]. I never was crazy about what I played on that stuff, but Elvis always wanted you to have a charging feeling about everything. He wanted you to push him to the wall. I thought it sounded like I was rushing all the time, but they loved it. He would stand out in the middle of the studio, just like being on stage, and he would face you. He would wiggle and point to you when he’d want you to do a fill or something. The first week I worked with him, we did 35 tunes. One of them was ‘Sylvia.’ We blasted through that stuff. We started at 6:00 at night and worked until 6:00 the next morning. Elvis was definitely nocturnal. He was wonderful. I’ll tell you, when he walked into that studio and I saw him for the first time, there was no doubt that a real star had just appeared…” Photography by Jeremy Roberts
Circa 1981, Jerry Carrigan candidly told Elvis Presley’s first biographer Jerry Hopkins, “The first couple of times I went to work for Elvis, people [i.e. from the Memphis Mafia] told me, ‘Man, when Elvis smiles at you, you smile back or he’ll think you don’t like him.’ I said, ‘I’m not a man that smiles all the time.’ They said, ‘Well, if he said somethin’ funny, laugh, man.’ I said, ‘If it’s not funny to me, I’m not gonna laugh.’ Each night during sessions Elvis would send out for cheeseburgers and French fries. He’d always get his in a separate box, the same as anybody else’s, but in a separate box. We were eating our cheeseburgers, and I noticed this big quart milkshake cup of dill pickles sitting on the little console. I love dill pickles. I’d seen several guys go get a pickle, so I went over there. Just as I got my hand over the cup, one of his guys went, ‘No, no!’ I said, ‘What?’ He said, ‘Those are Elvis’s pickles! Don’t you touch ‘em!’ He took a big ole towel and covered ’em up. I just punched the talk-back button and said, ‘Elvis, would you mind coming in here for just a second?’ He came in there, and I said, ‘This man tells me I can’t have one of these pickles.’ Elvis replied, ‘Is that right?’ Elvis turned to the guy and said, ‘You give him that whole thing of pickles and go get me some more if I want ’em, okay?’ Charlie McCoy started to go into the restroom, and they said, ‘Don’t you go in there!’ Charlie said, ‘What?’ They said, ‘Don’t go in there!’ Charlie said, ‘But I have to go to the bathroom.’ They said, ‘You’ll have to wait — Elvis is in there.’ Yes-men ran Elvis’s whole life.” Seen here on August 12, 2010, Carrigan capably mans his Ludwig drum kit onstage at the Michael D. Rose Theater, part of the University of Memphis, during a poorly attended but unquestionably memorable benefit sponsored by the Elvis Unlimited Denmark fan club for founding Sweet Inspiration Myrna Smith, then in the final stages of kidney dialysis compounded by a stroke. Photography by Jeremy Roberts
Country Music Hall of Fame curator Bill Lloyd interviewed Jerry Carrigan before an intimate audience for “Nashville Cats: A Salute to Jerry Carrigan” in February 2009. At one point the drummer extraordinaire admitted, “I’m of the opinion that we got above the groove on a lot of what we played for Elvis Presley. On his cover of Jerry Lee Lewis’s ‘Whole Lotta Shakin’ Goin’ On,’ it was my fault that it was so fast. I was just sittin’ there playing my tom-tom and stuff. Elvis started singing ‘Whole Lotta Shakin’’ with that beat. I thought, ‘My word, don’t tell me we’re gonna do this.’ And we did. They kept saying, ‘It’s too slow, it’s too slow!’ Just about every artist I worked with would cut the record. Man, it would have a groove a mile wide…then you go to play it live…‘ah it’s a little too slow.’ I’d say, ‘Well, that’s the exact setting that I took off the record we did.’ ‘I don’t care. It’s just too slow. Gotta speed it up.’ We’d speed it up. No groove. You couldn’t play your parts. There’s some things played at certain tempos that don’t sound good on any instrument.” Seen above on August 12, 2010, Carrigan capably mans his Ludwig drum kit onstage at the Michael D. Rose Theater, part of the University of Memphis, during a poorly attended but unquestionably memorable benefit sponsored by the Elvis Unlimited Denmark fan club for founding Sweet Inspiration Myrna Smith, then in the final stages of kidney dialysis compounded by a stroke. Photography by Jeremy Roberts

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