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/trans-ask-my-newly-out-trans-friend-is-unbearable-327b462c33a6">It’s been a process though</a>.</p><p id="3976">When I first started questioning, I was stuck in binary thinking — if I wasn’t she/her, I must be he/him because that’s what we are taught. He/him? No, that didn’t feel right, and so I was left feeling, untethered.</p><p id="af24">They/Them didn’t ‘feel’ right until I allowed myself to consider that I was neither she/her nor he/him. In releasing gendered pronouns (

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and the pressure on myself to ‘fit it’), I finally realized, yes, they/them fit quite nicely, thank you very much.</p><figure id="20b4"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*mN6M8b_8GH2PXoGq"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@katierainbow?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Katie Rainbow 🏳️‍🌈</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure></article></body>

It wasn’t the comfort of they/them pronouns but rather, the lack of discomfort once I dropped gendered pronouns.

Yes, I’m one of those — a they/them! I love the hilarity of the rhetoric around such simple and generalized terms, and I love that I have now been able to embrace they/them as my pronouns. It’s been a process though.

When I first started questioning, I was stuck in binary thinking — if I wasn’t she/her, I must be he/him because that’s what we are taught. He/him? No, that didn’t feel right, and so I was left feeling, untethered.

They/Them didn’t ‘feel’ right until I allowed myself to consider that I was neither she/her nor he/him. In releasing gendered pronouns (and the pressure on myself to ‘fit it’), I finally realized, yes, they/them fit quite nicely, thank you very much.

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