It Is Time For Self-Care In The Oyster Bed.
Because we spent way too much time fussing over others and allowing others to do the same to us.
It is finally time for the weekend. The time has arrived for some peace. Many of us hustle through the week dealing with work beyond our scope and handling people who refuse to back it off no matter what we say.
We experience that at work, and we go through the same at home. Everyone wants to have their way, and they want their things done for them.
In short, we are busy with others. They are happy making a fuss as well.
There will be times where they eat into us. Everyone has mental and emotional spring-coil. When we suppress ourselves for others (like compressing the spring-coil) for too long, we lose control of our temper, snap and explode.
We will behave like a Grade 5 Tornado on the Enhanced Fujita Scale. Everything along our way gets sucked into the eye of the tornado, creating massive destruction behind our path of travel.
We do not want to get there.
Instead, we have to learn to punctuate the process of compressing our mental and emotional spring-coil. We can release that bit of spring-coil tension by taking a break.
It is hard to prescribe what taking a break entails. That is because we are different individuals with different approaches to life. You might want to disappear into the mountains while I prefer to clam-up in a weekend staycation.
Both works if we apply our go-to to ourselves. They fail when we copy blindly.
And so, the purpose of this story is for me to perform a mind-share of what works for me, and hopefully, it does for you when you decide to give it a go.
I enjoy being alone. At my core, the world out there is too noisy for my liking. When I refer to the world, I refer to anywhere outside of my bedroom or working desk.
That is because there is always someone telling me that there is something to be done. I am cool with that, but most often than not, these things to be done do not matter to me.
Take, for instance, vacuuming the floor. I see no difference in terms of task fulfilment. My robot-vacuum does what I can. I can see that it provides a higher service quality than I do.
That is my reasoning, slapped on top of my lack-of-willingness to perform any household chores. And before I get throttled for being irresponsible at home, I want to say there is a difference in who does it and getting it done.
I do not want to get engaged in superficial conversations (such as my boss is wicked, let me tell you what happened) or tasks (the tiles are dirty, clean it up, please). Therefore, I have to make deliberate efforts to safe-guard my Me-Time.
I clam-up into my Oyster Bed.
Imagine having a personal space at home that is impenetrable by others. Imagine that space having everything you need to attend to yourself.
That is my idea of an Oyster Bed.
I disappear to my Oyster Bed with a swaying stack of books, a playlist of talks about international economics and investment finance (boring to many, fascinating to me).
I do what I want in peace. I need no one telling me what is boring and what is not.
I might take a laptop with me. I start typing away when I am in my inspiration moment, and if not, I will give my keyboard and Grammarly a rest.
I can disappear for many hours. It does not bother me that I am unreachable. It does not bother me that interaction with others is critical for mental health. My unique neurological set-up points me in the opposite direction.
Peace comes from a peaceful environment.
How long does it take for me to get out of the Oyster Bed? I do not know. There are not pre-set configurations for self-love and recovery. I clam-up for as long as I like.
I will come out when I am ready to interact with the world again.
It is time to get back to my Oyster Bed after hitting the publish button.
Until next time.
Taking Care Of Ourselves Is Not Selfish. It Is Self-Care.
Aldric
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