SELF-IMPROVEMENT
Is That a Reflection I See or are You Just Happy to Attract Me?
Day 8, 50 questions for deep self-reflection
This is day 8 of the 50 Questions for Deep Self-Reflection challenge from Know Thyself Heal Thyself created by Diana C.
DAY EIGHT: How can you start choosing your relationships based on their alignment with your needs?
Oh, I love this question. This answer is either going to be super short, or super long and I just don’t know which way it will go yet.
How can I choose my relationships based on their alignment with my needs?
As always, there are layers to this question, or as I pointed out on one of the days before this one (go back and have a look, it’s in there, haha), there are many layers to my perception of this question.
I feel like choosing my relationships is an interesting turn of phrase especially followed by alignment because, in my perception and current beliefs about energy and attraction, I feel like my alignment with self allows relationships to come to me that will naturally fulfill my needs.
Ok, short answer it is, because that pretty much nailed everything for me. But wait, I’m sure there’s more. I’ll break it down a little more though — just to see if there is anything I need to drill down on or dig into.
I believe that I attract what I put out energy-wise. I am a firm believer that if I project ‘neediness’ (not a wanting for my own needs to be met but rather a need for someone else to fulfil me), I will attract neediness, or on the flip side, I will attract narcissism. They have a similar energy level of external demand. Conversely, I believe that if I am connected with myself and my own needs, desires, wants, etc, I will attract those that are likewise connected with their own. Note that I’m not saying I’ll attract someone who will fulfill my needs but rather someone who is connected with their own needs.
So, for me, it’s not about choosing relationships or seeking relationships that meet my needs. It’s about embracing a relationship on the deepest level with myself and allowing myself to have what I want, thus fulfilling my own needs. It’s about allowing rather than choosing. It’s about seeing those that come into my life (and those who are already in it) as reflections of the energy I am emitting and placing boundaries on myself about how I’ll pull myself back up if I see that energy reflection slip.
Let’s face it, the answers to these questions are NEVER about anyone but myself because that is the only person I can truly ‘make’ happy and who can ‘make’ me happy. It is only in love for myself that I can allow love for others.
Holy crap, this one got deep! Let me lighten it.
Three men walk into a bar…
You’d think the third one would have the sense to duck!
If you are interested in the journey so far — all the days that came before, I’ve collected all the article links here:
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