How to Have Sex
If You’re Sexy and You Know It, Do This Prompt
“10 Sexy Truths About Me”
Looking for some inspiration? Look no further, but you’ll need some courage for this one. Let’s play truth or dare. If you choose truth: here are 10 questions for you to answer. If you choose dare: I dare you to answer these truths.
1. On a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being “zipped lips” and 10 being more open than a sex talk show host, how comfortable are you talking about sex?
Very comfortable, I’d say a 9. Some days, an 11. Sex deserves to be talked about. It needs to be talked about way more than it is. Not just for wetness, which it sometimes causes. Mostly, talking about sex is freedom. The act of talking about sex is empowering because it means that I value my own pleasure and am willing to risk social discomfort to find and share that freedom and pleasure with others.
2. Where is the sexiest place you’ve ever had sex?
It sounds lame, but I love having sex in my bedroom. It’s where all of my toys are. I do love being pressed against hard surfaces. Floors, desks, the ground, and walls, as long as my partner and my heights are right.
3. What are your top 3 turn-ons?
Masturbation, confidence, and consent.
4. Conversely, what could your partner do that would kill the mood?
Talk like a baby. Ugh. Just don’t.
5. What is one kinky thing that you like that you’re not ashamed of?
I love power sex. My favorite kind of sex is sex between people who know what they like and what they want, are comfortable enough to ask for it, and know that they’re going to get it while creating pleasure for their partner at the same time. It makes me ravenous.
6. Do you like to talk dirty or if not, to have someone else talk dirty to you?
I don’t mind talking dirty, but I’d rather talk like me — sensual, with honesty laced in desire. I don’t like it if my partner calls me names or calls me a “naughty girl”. It turns me off in a similar way that baby talk does; it makes one of us seem small and incapable and I don’t find that hot at all.
7. What is your favorite time of day to have sex?
At nighttime, or more specifically when it is dark. I like sex best when I can see; I don’t need to have sex in the dark. But there is something about the moon that makes my sensual nature feel hungry and unleashed. That being said, I love to fool around during the day, especially outdoors. The sun has caressed my entire length many times.
8. What do you like to do after sex?
I do love a good cuddle. Also, I think sex makes food taste better. Sex heightens all of my senses, so I like to savor my meal. And then I like to eat food ;)
9. During sex, it is sexier when you tell your partner what to do or when they tell you what to do?
At a time, I would have said that I only like to tell my partner what to do. Things have changed a little. I’ve grown and my relationship has grown so that often I enjoy switching back and forth during sex.
10. Have you ever had or would you be interested in having a threesome?
Maybe. It’s a soft limit. I almost tried it twice. It wasn’t meant to be; it fell through both times. I’m not opposed to the experience, but I’m not particularly interested either.
If you’re reading this and haven’t seen me before, I’m giving you a come hither look when I say, “Hey there…”
I’d love for you to do this prompt. Follow along if you like. There’s more where this came from.
Consent is the hottest part of sex.
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