Understanding LGBTQ+

I Thought the LBGTQ+ had Some Sort of Attack on Our Children

Am I coming across as homophobic? Are you willing to hear where my “ignorance” or authentic curiosity is coming from?

How the hell is the world going to change?

I didn’t mean to…but at about 1 am today, I got in an altercation with my best (trans) friend over 2 issues. A “don’t say gay” bill in Florida I apparently misunderstood AND me asking about the trans woman winner in a swim team.

My friend is a male-to-female trans woman.

I told her that:

Someone alerted me of a bill that protects the rights of parents that is being protested by the LGBTQ+ community. People are calling it the “don’t say gay “ protest because the bill protects the right of the parents to know what their kids are being taught in school. Including teaching K-3grade about homosexuality.

There is nothing wrong with homosexuality and if a kid no matter how young asks about it there is nothing wrong with letting them know. What is wrong though is to protest a bill that allows the parents to not know what is being taught.

When I first heard of the LGBTQ community protesting the bill I really thought it was about teaching the kids about sex because someone told me that. I thought, first of all, kids that young (5–8 years old ) don’t need to be having sex ed in a classroom. Also at that age, it is not the teacher’s business to do so about any sexual orientation.

My friend said:

That nobody is teaching sex to 5-year-olds and anyone that frames the bill as that is deliberately trying to make homosexuality perverse. She said that the bill is about letting kids know that heterosexuality is not the only kind of relationship.

What's wrong with that?

There is nothing wrong with homosexuality and if a kid no matter how young asks about it there is nothing wrong with letting them know.

I was relieved when my friend explained to me that sex ed was not being pushed at an age when children are not developmentally ready. She said there is a big notion of only thinking of the sexual aspect of any relationship that is not heterosexual. She was disturbed that I didn’t use my common sense to ask myself if where I was getting my information from made any sense.

It didn't.

That’s why asked her what she thought.

People on both sides have opinions on children's rights.

For the record, I am for gay marriages. However, I believe people should stay out of family business on both sides of the fence. Ideally, schools are for ‘123s’ and homes are for ‘birds and bees, thank you please’

But then again, I came from a home that taught Christian homosexual intolerance.

Is it the schools business to teach 5–8 year old kids about being gay that young?

In this true story I wrote:

As a child, I knew believing that gay people were going to hell felt off and bad.

What did feel good was secretly rubbing my clit with one of my girlfriend’s clit at age 12–13 on our ‘play dates.’

I also told my trans friend of the song I heard today about the LBGTQ+ singing “We are coming for your children.” At first glance, when I heard it for the first time, I thought it was a fucked up way to spread gay awareness. I am not the only one that thought this:

My friend said that this was a joke…I wanted to probe more but she was getting pissed with every question I asked.

Jesus, I’m not attacking you, I am just asking your opinion since you are apart of the LBGTQ community.

What really hurt my feelings is when my friend hung up the phone on me when I asked the question about a trans woman on the swim team.

I don’t have television or watch the news but I got wind of this before and paid it no attention until my medium friend showed me this:

Apparently, a trans woman won first place on a woman swim team and when prior she was near last in the men's team before she was trans.

“Biologically, Lia holds an unfair advantage over competition in the women’s category, as evidenced by her rankings that have bounced from #462 as a male to #1 as a female,” the letter, obtained by The Washington Post, read.

I told my trans friend that men and women have different sports for a reason. Physicality plays a big part in why there are women's basketball, soccer, etc. Men are generally stronger than women. Other than it's an asshole thing to do, that’s one of the big reasons why hitting a woman is frowned upon.

Is there something wrong with that statement?

My friend said “yes:”

She is not a man, she’s a woman.

I value her friendship, she knows I’m not homophobic but she said I need to explore that I am holding a homophobic torch for asking those questions.

Ouch…I was raised catholic, are my roots showing?

Am I coming across as homophobic?

When I question my friend about the hormone process of changing the gender from man to woman she hung up on me.

My text reply?

Don’t be mad at me I am trying to understand,

If you shut the conversation down because your not willing to hear where my “ignorance” or authentic curiosity is coming from,

How the hell is the world going to change?

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Learn more about how the anti-trans movement has crippled the trans community here.

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