I Do It After “Playing” With My Partner
I’m even embarrassed to share this with you, lol
Postcoitus is a really crazy thing. Either you turn over and go to sleep, or you start having weird conversations about what you’ll be like in 50 years when you’re old. I’m a little different with this — It may sound strange, but in my case, I like telling jokes and playing quizzes with my partner.
I know, for many of you this may be quite out of the ordinary. But think with me: Isn’t this an extraordinary way to eliminate that feeling of “shame” we have after playing with our boyfriends? I’m sure the mood in the room becomes 100% lighter when I do this, and if you try it, I’m also sure you’ll feel what I’m saying.
But why am I so abnormal? Come on, I think it’s not just me who has some strange endings after coitus, right? I think that each person has a way of ending this special moment that involves the intimate relationship between the couple, but in my case, it also has to do with my shyness.
Were you surprised by the last paragraph? It is true. It may not seem like it, but I’m a very shy woman about these things — Of course, on the internet, I can loosen up a little more, but in real life, I remain more “closed” when talking about these subjects.
That said, whenever my partner and I take some time to have fun, I get rigid and need to take something to make things flow — The problem is that during “play” we sound a lot, and this makes the alcohol leaves our body and the shame comes back to me with force.
You must be thinking: “Who is ashamed of making love?”
But I have the answer on the tip of my tongue: Me and thousands of other people.
I know it may seem strange, but it’s real — And the worst thing is that it causes many effects on our bodies, especially on our emotional regulation.
It was then that I thought: “What can I do to ease this feeling of shame after the fun?”
I started to list the things I liked to do the most and that could fit into an intimate ending and I came to a conclusion: “I’m going to tell some jokes and play some puzzles with him. Then we take a shower and go to sleep as if nothing had happened!”
I tested it and it worked.
From that moment on, this had become my supreme technique for escaping the shame of post-love. And the coolest thing is that the jokes don’t have to be the funniest and the quizzes don’t have to be the hardest — I chose to create a calm atmosphere in the room and therefore I always bet on silly things.
For example, I can tell jokes that are told to children or play puzzles so simple that even a baby can answer them. And that’s the fun of it all — The good thing is that my partner finds this side of me cute and funny. Of course, I don’t really like this shyness, but somehow I couldn’t accept it and look for a “solution” to my problem.
Now my goal is to come up with a strategy to lose the shame of taking the initiative in the relationship. After all, it’s not because I feel ashamed that I don’t have desires — On the contrary, the desire is so much that my heart almost comes out of my mouth, lol.
And I know that many other people go through this just like me, and it is to them that I say this: you don’t need to feel guilty about feeling embarrassed. We can’t have everything under our control — But if you’re tired of all this, try to apply what I said above, create your own strategy to escape the post-fun shame, and have fierce fun with your partner.
All in all, if this has helped you in any way, let me know. My aim is to help as many people as possible, and if you’re one of those people, I’m really happy.
Thanks for reading. Have a great day!