AN APOLOGY
I Am Sorry For Misunderstanding Her
And Thankful that I didn’t Take Too Long to Realize That
I have always followed one basic rule in my life. That is:
Your apology should be as loud as your disrespect was.
I was thinking to write this article for a few days now.
I could not gather enough courage to write about it publicly because I was afraid of being judged.
However, I realized within no time that if you want to be understood, it is necessary to overcome the fear of being judged.
There is a very famous song in India that says:
Kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna..
It translates to: “People will always have something to say, it’s their nature to speak”.
Additionally, the motive for writing this article was to justify my very first statement of this article.
Since I disrespected her by misunderstanding her and writing a whole article about it, I must correct that mistake again with another article.
So, here goes my loud apology to Dr. Preeti Singh. I am so sorry that I interpreted the whole situation wrongly.
All my previous apologies were backed with self-defense. Many writers told me this in their comments. I was also told by one of the very nice writers that:
An apology full of excuses, why it wasn’t necessary entirely negates the apology.
I am not tagging her because she asked me not to tag her in my stories.
Nevertheless, I want to thank her for this statement because I learned its true meaning now.
Dr. Preeti, as much as I want to delete that post, I’m also letting it stay there because I want my readers to know what mistake I made.
The only thing I’m going to do is to add the link to this story at the end of that one, as an update.
Little Background information for those who don’t know what happened:
I am quoting the situation which can’t be defined in a better way than in this article:
The first Part:
Writer A, a newbie, leaves replies to comments by readers in others’ stories, asking people to read her stories. Writer B, a much-beloved writer on the platform gets so upset with writer A for doing this in one of B’s stories that she writes a scathing piece, vilifying writer A for having no boundaries nor etiquette. Most people reading this story pile on about how rude and self-promoting writer A must be (assumptions).
And the Second one:
I informed Writer A that Writer B was upset and gave her the link and said it’s up to her whether she wants to apologize. She did but also with much defense — not unwarranted. She also wrote a piece telling her side of things and how she felt unfairly/overly attacked. I don’t know if Writer B saw it. I thought Writer A went too far in her piece by how she characterized Writer B’s motives, and I commented, now speaking up for and defending Writer B.
where writer A is me, and writer be is Her.
This is my story in case you want to read it in detail.
I fell prey for doing this on medium and learned a lesson the hard way
I was a true believer of:
Everything happens for a reason, and ultimately for our good.
I believe it a little more today.
The good that happened to me in this situation:
- I found two good friends who I also consider my mentors.
- I realized that we should avoid making hasty judgments about others because I realized that I was quick to judge her while simultaneously holding her accountable for doing the same to me.
- Before pointing fingers at someone, we should watch our own actions.
Final words:
Dr. Preeti Singh is an amazing person. I am fortunate to be aware of all her kindness otherwise I would have missed knowing a great person here on Medium.
I am SORRY to hurt you and then BLAME you for things that were not done on purpose.
That’s a wrap!
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- Most honest Intro I have ever given to anyone about myself
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