I am not Ready to Get Married
What is the best age to get married?
Recap: I had recurring dreams because my Mom kept pressing me to get married.
It was another busy morning. I had my entire attention on the monitor screen, focusing on work, until my phone rang. It was Mom who was calling.
“Did she set up another blind date for me?” Reluctantly, with my eyes still fixed on the monitor screen, I hit the answer button.
“Yes Mom, I’m very busy now.” I had no wish to talk about dates or marriage.
“Hannah, I won’t take up much of your time. I just wanted to let you know that I will no longer push you into getting married.” Mom spoke hastily.
I couldn’t believe my ears: “What? Mom, what did you just say?”
I quickly found out that Mom’s best friend’s daughter had just divorced.
Mom’s best friend, Mary, was a firm believer that a woman’s life won’t be complete and settled until she marries. Hence, when her daughter, Kim, broke up with her boyfriend at the optimal marriage age, Mary became anxious and started arranging numerous matchmaking meetings for her.
Kim, influenced by her mom’s beliefs, took her mom’s advice. She went on blind dates in the hopes of finding a suitable husband. Eventually Kim decided to marry James, the man that Mary deemed most eligible, despite only knowing each other for a few months.
“Love can be nurtured after marriage,” Mary believed James was the ideal fit for Kim. “Your dad and I only met a few times before getting married, and look at us now, we’ve been happily married for 30 years. What matters most is that James is a decent and reliable man.”
“In addition, I had a fortune teller read both of your birth charts. James will compliment you, and you will bring him good fortune. You too are a perfect match and will have a happy marriage,” Mary reassured Kim.
“She is so stupid!” I couldn’t withhold my thoughts about Kim when I heard the basis of her decision.
“Mary may have made a mistake, but she has Kim’s best interests at heart.” Mom defended Mary.
Mom had obviously misinterpreted my remarks as being directed at Mary. I laughed, but I didn’t want to correct her. It was not a bad thing that she thought pushing me to marry was a mistake.
Kim and James differences emerged shortly after their marriage, and they were perpetually at odds. Kim regretted her decision to marry James and wanted a divorce, but Mary convinced her to have a child instead.
“Children will strengthen the marriage,” Mary said. “A happy family needs children. When you have a child, both of you will be preoccupied with the child and will stop fighting. You are the best thing that has happened to your dad and me. Without you, we would have been bored with each other and possibly divorced.”
Kim took her mother’s advice once more. She planned to have a child to save her marriage.
My eyes rolled at Kim’s decision.
“It didn’t work, and she still decided to divorce, right?” I asked.
Mom paused, and I could hear her sighing over the phone.
Not long after, Kim discovered James was having an affair. When Kim confronted him, James blamed her entirely, claiming she was difficult to get along with and drove him to seek out other women. He didn’t want to continue the marriage and wanted a divorce.
Kim was disappointed that James was uninterested in saving their marriage. She was two months pregnant at the time, but she kept her pregnancy a secret from everyone, including Mary. She consented to the divorce and discreetly had the baby aborted.
Unfortunately, the procedure went horribly wrong, and she would never be able to have children again.
“Now that she can’t have children, no one will want to marry her,” Mom said sadly.
“If a man rejected Kim because she couldn’t have children, he was unworthy of her,” I thought silently, but I didn’t tell Mom because I knew that she still thought marriage was everything for a woman.
Mom’s opinion stayed unchanged, but she stood by her words and ceased pressuring me to marry. I was relieved and devoted all of my time and attention to my new job and my career.
When I had a quiet moment, I would still think of the beach, the sunrise, and Timothy, but I didn’t have the same dream again.
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