3 Ways Worrying Can Shape you as The Smartest Person in Room

Leads to better health, more success, and greater well-being

Worrying is often depicted as a negative emotion. We as humans never understood how to practice “not so good” emotions for our benefit and progress.

Sometimes we can’t stop something. Emotions top the list. It’s better to learn to live with it and help ourselves.

For prehistoric humans, worry was a core survival skill. Going back to the stone age, it helped them adapt and survive.

Worry has served as a protective function, helping humans think through problems, plan ahead, and gain mastery over their environment.

Worrying the right way

A coin has two faces. Every problem has two perspectives.

Same as that — “there’s a good way and a bad way to worry. There are obsessive worriers, and then there are effective ones.”

Are you doing it the right way?

Follow up are a few questions to determine if you are doing it correctly or not.

What you are worrying about is in the past or future? If it’s in the past can you switch from worrying to learning? If it’s the future, what is the likelihood that the problem you are predicting will actually occur?

Worry has a function — draw our attention to the fact that there’s something we should be preparing for or preventing.

Done right with a focus on problem-solving and learning for better outcomes in the future, it can shape you as the smartest of all.

3 Step Guide to execute when worrying knocks on your door.

Define the problem

It is important to distinguish between worry and fear — solvable and unsolvable.

Productive, solvable worries are those you can act on. If the root of your worry is not solvable, try to embrace the uncertainty or the outcome you are facing.

Let’s understand it more clearly with an example —

Last semester you didn’t perform well in your exams. Exams for this semester are approaching. You are worried if you can pass this one. This is a productive, solvable worry which can be solved by studying well.

Still, you decided not to study for the exams. Predictably, they didn’t go well. Results are hovering around. It may seem you are worried. But, it’s your fear of failing. It’s an unproductive, unsolvable worry — fear.

In this scenario, you can just embrace the inevitable outcome.

Focus on Solution

Worry is often mixed with anger, resentment, and insecurity.

If you can untangle your thoughts from the associated emotions and focus on the problem, it could help you make important choices at the right time.

If you worry about the job interview the right way, you are more likely to prepare for it better.

Worry about it the wrong way, and you will end up wasting that preparation time remembering past interviews that didn’t go well or imagining the kinds of candidates they might pick over you.

Stay calm and composed. Make the right choices. Focus on the present.

Set a timer

“Worrying the right amount is better than not worrying at all, but you must learn when to let go.”

Set a time to worry about your problems. Be it half an hour or 15–20 minutes. An excess amount of worry can deteriorate things.

In your allotted time — prepare a strategy, access situations, and potential threats to combat your problems.

This enables you to gain control, comfort, security, and peace of mind over your problems.

takeaway

So what’s your action plan when worry approaches your door?

Please copy and paste this action plan.

Stay calm. Focus on the present. Identify if it’s worry or fear. Solvable or unsolvable. Think about the solution. Set a timer to worry about things.

Thank you for reading! Have a nice day.

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