How We Got It All Wrong With the Law of Attraction

The reason you are not using its full potential.

Yes, it is based on vibrations, emotions, and thoughts. But it requires action, an inspired one.

First of all, this law is omnipresent and universal, just like the law of gravity. You cannot cease using any of it.

Second of all, you have utter control of how you want to utilize and exploit it to your advantage.

Here are golden rules you should adopt:

Circumstances do not matter.

Once we fail to achieve what we desire, we tend to focus on lack. According to the principle:

What you concentrate on, it becomes louder.

We dig into the problem instead focusing on the solution. Whenever you start analysing and overthinking the matter, it expands, with more unpleasant details surfacing.

What is happening around you has no bearing upon your future, as what is can be only the outcome of your past thoughts and habits. To change your future, you need to start nurturing a different, more stable state of mind in the now.

In his book ‘You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter’, researcher dr Joe Dispenza states:

To be happy with yourself in the present moment while maintaining a dream of your future is a grand recipe for manifestation. When you feel so whole that you no longer care whether “it” will happen, that’s when amazing things materialize before your eyes.

It clearly indicates that the key to achieving any desire is to cultivate unconditional joy and happiness, or at least harmony in our lives.

Crucial component: the intention.

Ask yourself this question plenty of times a day: what lies behind my action?

Behind every intention, the emotion occupies the driver’s seat. When we believe that the new car is what we are after, in fact, we are seeking a way to make us feel better.

Pluck up the courage and be honest with yourself. Yes, it takes effort and willingness. Yes, it takes presence to become mindful. However, to change any pattern of behaviour, first of all, you need to become aware of it.

If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self. ― Joe Dispenza

Whatever the reason lies behind your action, ultimately, you are going to get more of it as a result. Whenever you enter any relationship out of fear of being lonely, this connection will deliver to you more loneliness or powerlessness eventually. Whenever you perform any act of kindness out of true love, you are bound to reap abundance. Whatever you water your plant with, it grows. What is the fertilizer in your life? Love and gratitude, or fear and jealousy?

The narrative of your life.

When you close your eyes and visualize the perfect scenario: do you truly believe it, or is this vision clouded by doubts and potential obstacles?

I find it prevalent to be held up by the expectations of others. However, it is not the outside world that determines what we are capable of, but our mindset and belief.

By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The nonexistent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired. – Franz Kafka

Close your eyes, and whatever adversities may come to your mind, write them down. Those are your subconscious beliefs blocking you from making this vision a reality.

You cannot change facts, but surely you can change the story. What kind of narrative do you create around the event? What type of words do you use?

Be bold. Do not shy away from following your dreams. Whenever you doubt yourself, you give permission for others to doubt your abilities as well. Be confident in knowing your worth, and only then, the Universe can grant you its equal.

You can perceive the world through the victim mentality or the eyes of a daredevil filled with boldness, joy, and faith. You decide.

You are not going to think your way into accomplishing your goal.

You can only act into it. There is a wonderful quote by Richard Rohr:

We do not think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking.

I am not insinuating a mindless business just for the sake of doing things, but an inspired action.

What inspired action is not:

• hard work,
• forcing yourself into doing something because others are doing it or find it successful,
• analysing,
• complaining,
• stressing over the outcome.

Inspired action means:

• pleasure,
• satisfaction,
• strong pull towards doing it, even if it means changing your routine.

For example, you want to get a job. You may spend days crafting your CV, downloading extravagant designs, coming up with catchy slogans. Days have passed with no interviews, but the headache caused by worrisome thoughts.

By frantically analysing the present state, the feeling of control washes over you. No matter how elusive it may be. However, an analytical mind is not always our best bet.

How about designing your CV, reviewing some job offers and stepping away? Start doing something you genuinely enjoy. It can be experimenting in the kitchen, reading that new book, dancing around, going for a walk with your dog, you name it. The point is to feel freedom and joy. No worries about your bills. No doubts about your future.

Next thing you know, you come home, make that call to a friend, grab a cup of coffee together and by the next table your future employer is sitting, who happens to snoop on your conversation. Or you might start a cooking blog and inspire millions.

We need to feel happy to succeed. Researchers found happiness promotes success than the other way around.

That is why an inspired action is crucial. You will not become prosperous watching YouTube videos all day long. I am not saying it will happen overnight. I am saying: enjoy it and relish in the process, not the destination itself.

Take it off the pedestal.

It is a universal law:

when you chase something, it has a disobliging habit of slipping away.

Striving for something at any cost is a low vibrational place to be, as it spreads the disease of ‘more’. Whenever you are chasing something, you automatically imply that the goal is running away from you. Whenever you stress the need to give more, you are pushing it away. Letting go allows the magic to unfold.

From the moment of waking up, we have been conditioned to act, to tick off our to-do list for the day. Such habits bring our minds into stress mode, and you cannot rely on them in the longer run. Once you relinquish all the control, put absolute faith in the wisdom and flow of life, you accomplish it all.

Nurture patience.

After planting a seed, you do not hover relentlessly above the ground picking out sprouts. Time is needed to pass. A period to nurture, rest, assimilate to weather conditions and harvest. The keyword is faith, nurtured by patience.

The moment your vision sprouted in your mind, you need to become ready before it can manifest, so you can gather your strength and resources. GMO is destructive for your health, yet nobody is shaming quick results, especially in our hectic, instant world.

Take the time to get to know yourself. What scares you the most? Read the signs. Open up to the world and opportunities presented to you because sooner than later, there will come a change, and you are going to regret not being mindful and appreciative of things that have passed.

Do your habits support your vision?

Let’s say you want to become a yoga instructor but spend more than 10 hours every day commuting to and from your office where you perform the job you once deemed as a perfect idea right after college or because it lures you into a false sense of security. When you come home, you are too tired to work out or record a YouTube video, for that matter. You prefer watching TV shows, reading a book, hanging out in the kitchen or on the phone. I am not implying those activities are inherently wrong, but surely they do not support your vision.

It all stems from no longer enjoying how you are living your life. Your office days are depriving you of energy and passion. Those components are indispensable in reaching your goals, however trivial they may seem to the world. Those are your dreams, and they need no justification to anyone. In fact, the world wholeheartedly supports you, for those dreams have been planted in your mind for a reason.

Once you start making changes in your daily life, more energy and inspiration will start flowing through you and to you. You may wonder what changes should you make. But you already know the answer to this question. Those are ideas coming from the depth of your heart which we usually brush aside as absurd, frightening or too risky.

Are you occupied with what ‘should be’ and forgetting to cultivate what lies in front of you?

Only that day dawns to which we are awake.

— Henry David Thoreau, Walden

We tend to rush off to the next activity, next destinations, next relationship, next job. We believe in the illusionary promise that somewhere out there, happiness awaits. Just not here, not now.

In fact, all mysteries can be solved by the power of the present moment. Here and now can grant you guidance towards your future. Your actions, thoughts, and beliefs about the present moment can predict what harvest you are going to gather.

Once you tender to your present life, everything in the aftermath will blossom magnificently.

Become the main character of your movie.

I like to think of the Universe as a director of life. Since I am the main hero of the story, I dictate the unfolding of it. But it is the director who provides the setting and the people I am surrounded with. For example, when you see a character wailing and crying, would you be tempted to grant it with sunny beach, Hawaiian shirts and piña coladas? Or would you be more willing to place this character abandoned by his friends, eating junk food on a couch? It is an exaggerated example, but serving a bigger purpose.

You are a magnet. Take care of your essence as you are emitting frequencies and vibrations constantly. You cannot switch it off or take a break. Whatever you are experiencing, you are attracting.

We like to call it synchronicities, sheer luck, but it never is. Coincidences are nothing else than incidences that coexist together because of vibrational harmony with each other. It all falls into place, just like an exquisite puzzle.

Take a look at what have you manifested so far and decide to go in a specific direction.

What is the essence of what you are thinking about?

What is the foundation of your every action?

What lies beneath every intention?

That is exactly the vibration you are emitting to the Universe and creating your reality upon. In the end, the only manifestation that matters is how you feel.

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